so I stay with my mother and i have 2 small kiddos, i plan on moving out in jan but she does not want me 2 move out, she does not want to stay in the house by herself (she is single). sometimes she says me and my kids live like pigs and get on your nerves and the next minute she does not want us to leave, I feel bad but I am ready to go and i need space and privacy. so answer me this is 25 too old to be at home with 2 kids and what should i tell her???
2007-10-04 11:49:45 · 11 answers · asked by I love dooneys 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
you should say mom i love you and relly mean but need some privacy now if you don't want me to move than i'll visit every other day
2007-10-04 12:13:51 · answer #1 · answered by Jesus Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. 25 yrs old is too old to be living at home with your children.
Your mother is having empty nest problems and she needs to get a life without you.
You, on the other hand can plan wisely so you do not have to depend on others to help you make it when your financially strained. Examples are to put yourself on a budget, find an apartment or somewhere to live you can easily afford. Engage other mothers your age to swap babysitting so you can afford to get away from your children.
Have your kids father help you babysit so you can get a better job.
Finally, get on some birth control, so you plan your family,
I notice you do not say anything about the father of the kids you have. He needs to help out.
2007-10-04 11:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, at 25 you should def. be out of your parent's house, but I know how it is being short on money and stuff. I moved back home for a short while with me and my son and let me tell you I couldn't wait to get back out. Living under your parent's rules sucks no matter what age you are. Your mom just sounds lonely. She will get over it. If you feel it's time to move out then you must do what is best for you and your kids. Tell your mom it's time you got your own place and could she help you find one? Keep her involved in the process so she doesn't feel like you're abandoning her. Then suggest she get out and meet more single adults like herself so she doesn't rely on you for companionship. Good luck!
2007-10-04 11:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make 2 lists. One has all the reasons staying with your mom is a good thing- include financial, emotional, support with the kids, etc.
The other has all the reasons being on your own is a good thing. Independence, privacy, etc.
Then compare them. And think on what is a better situation for the kiddys too. You will have solid reasons to discuss with mom for whichever your decision is once you get it all clear in your mind. Good luck to you!
2007-10-04 17:52:30 · answer #4 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her exactly how you feel don't beat around the bush, you should have your own with two kids and all but especially to better raise them. Parents sometimes have those love hate relationship with their children one minute its stay the other its leave some type of unresolved issues lol but it will be much better in the long run for you to properly discipline and parent them under your own roof. I know how it is because I lived with my dad for a minute with my baby before i began living on my own its harder more responsibilities but you will get use to it eventually....Good luck
2007-10-04 11:59:13 · answer #5 · answered by flashyleo25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one. At 25 are you financially able to live on your own with two children and not have your mom there? That's the question you need to ask. You're first priority should be your children and how things will affect them. Good luck.
2007-10-04 11:54:38 · answer #6 · answered by Sar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Dad passed away 1 year ago and my Mom will not stay by herself-- so the kids are the ones who stay-- 25 and 30 . I kinda know what your going threw.
2007-10-04 11:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by Cowgirl lost seahorse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's completely up to you. I was in a similar situation, only it was my husband, me, and our 2 kids living with my grandparents. For us, they provided no rent so we could save up for a house, and for them, we provided care {they're elderly} and entertainment in the form of them spoiling my children. In response to your question, everybody who lives together gets on each others' nerves from time to time, she's probably just venting. Also it sounds like you want to go, and have the means to go, but it's just her holding you in. In that case, tell her you love her and you'll visit often. There's nothing quite like having your own space and especially after you've had to wait for it.
2007-10-05 00:15:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I have a 27-year-old sister who wont move the hell out ever and JUST got her first boyfriend..
SO yes, move out
get your own space
and your kids need their space
Your mum can visit anytime she wants (just not to often)
2007-10-04 12:02:37 · answer #9 · answered by Darke Nyghtwulf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she can visit anytime she wants, but you need to be on your own.
2007-10-04 11:52:56 · answer #10 · answered by Bug Fuggy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋