how can i look 4 my dad..if i don't even know him????

Question

i was taken away from my dad before i was even born.....my mom won't tell me who he is, n i have no clue of how he look 4

Answer 1

Look at your birth certificate. Ask family members, or friends. Use anything you can. Where were you born? Maybe someone there knows him. #

Answer 2

Might be a reason why Mom doesn't want to divuldge that info Sonny. Ever think of asking her? Although you may not believe it there are people out there floating around that should stay right there because they serve the best interests of others by being far away.

There'll be plenty of time for this later kid. You need identity I'm sure but not this way and not so fast.

In addition..think of this. There also may be the possibility your father may not want to be found at all. How about this? Try enjoying life as best you can and work towards making a success of yourself. Work at finding the right woman. Don't look here. These broads appear to come with all sorts of emotional baggage. If you aren't quite into females...forget the guys...they're worse.

Make something of your life first as an adult that works and can be self supporting. Then...and only then should you make this desire of yours a quest to be undertaken.

Answer 3

You have no where to start unless you can get a name. But, chances are your mother has kept you from him for a good reason. More likely, your biological father ran away from you and your mother because he was an irresponsible dead beat. I know how nice it is to dream that this man is some great man who will be thrilled to know you when you find him, but the reality of the situation is that if he were a good man who wanted you or had anything to offer you, he would be in your life already. He would have taken your mother to court for partial custody, and if he were a fit parent (if he wasn't a drug addict or a bum or a criminal) he would have gotten partial custody. If he had anything to offer you or your mother, your mother would not have left him, and if nothing else she would have taken him to court to prove paternity and make him take responsibility.
Its not easy for mothers to make the descision to raise a child completely alone. No mother makes that choice unless she is forced to by extreme situations, such as getting pregnant by an abusive man, an addict, a criminal, or if the man disappears and she is unable to find him.
I understand feeling like you need to know who he is, and I'm not saying you shouldn't try to find him, but you should prepare yourself for being disappointed when and if you do find him. Chances are he will not live up to your expectations.

Answer 4

Check the birth certificate first....if he isn't listed then ask relatives or one of your moms friends that was around the time you were born.

Answer 5

I sure feel for you...at least your mother apparently knows who your father is....my mother was stupid enough to get pregnant by a marine on a one night stand...has no clue what his name was.....pisses me off...but not much I can do about it.

Answer 6

if your parents were married go to the court house and see if you can look at old records.. see if you can find theirs.. your birthcertificate may have it on it..

Answer 7

someone knows who he is. Someone knows who she was dating or seeing. Do some digging!