Im gay but i can't find someone to be my boyfriend and the bad thing is, is that my mom does not know that im gay nor my dad how can i find a boyfriend without telling my mom and dad
2007-10-04 10:39:43 · 13 answers · asked by Johnny 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
try the gay help line,theres probably gay youth clubs etc in ur area so u can hang with others like u
2007-10-04 10:44:42 · answer #1 · answered by tasty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without any additional information, it's really hard to offer you any advice or provide you with an answer. There is no simple answer to your question. If you live with your folks, you may need to look at a few situations. If they are financially supporting you, if you are over the age of consent, and your parents' attitudes toward the LGBTQ community.
Provided that there is some fear of your parents finding out if you are gay, you probably have conservative parents (or liberal parents that you just don't know about). The thing is they will find out sooner or later.
To address your question of finding a boyfriend. I presume your reason for wanting one is to feel loved and accepted. Look around you! You probably know several prospects already. Talk to them, get to know them better. Before you know, you will have one.
Good luck!
2007-10-04 10:46:04 · answer #2 · answered by Tom W 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My Worried Little Brother,you need to go ahead and come out so you dont carry all of this worry.You are a great person and you have the confidence to take care of your business.Dont worry about what your parents might say.What CAN they say?No?Ha!Ha! That's not an option for them.You are the one that has to live this life.And your happiness matters just as much as anyone elses.Once you tell them how you feel,I think you will find that it will be easier to go places where you can meet someone or talk openly on the phone about it.Do you have any gay friends?Well,you have several on here believe that.Dude hiding this from your family is a bad decision...They are going to love you no matter what.So get it over with and move to the next level.That is where your finding a boyfriend is going to come because you wont be spending so much time and effort hiding and worrying,and you will be able to focus on your goal.You have support here Bro.Hit my avatar,go to my profile, and email me any time if you need to talk.It is alot to deal with and there are many people on here who will talk to you any time.But please tell your Mom and Dad.They need to know so they can understand you better and the way you feel.Dude it will be such a relief for you.It will be weird for them at first,but they will be glad you didnt hold it all inside until you blow your brains out.The suicide rate is high in this area and I dont want you to be one of them.You know?Trust your family enough to stand behind you.Because they certainly will.Watch...
P.S. Dont listen to the haters.They are on here living out their secret fantasies in the LBGT section...But they are straight...Ha!Ha!Yea RIGHT...That's why I go hang out in the straight section huh????NOT!!!
2007-10-04 11:19:06 · answer #3 · answered by Rick 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? It makes a difference in how you approach "finding a boyfriend." If you are really old enough for a boyfriend, try PFLAG, GLBT support groups, gay friendly or gay run coffee shops, etc. As for Mom and Dad...they probably already know. If you are close with them, they will have probably figured it our before you did!
2007-10-04 11:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by Auntie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have several gay guy friends. i love them more than I do girls. I live in Knoxville, TN-- we usually go to the gay bar & there is not one guy in there that isn't gay-- if there is then he's bi or something. Try a gay bar if ur not old enough just make sure that ur open & people know that ur not afraid for others to see who u really are. if you live close to the area-- get back with me-- one of my boys is looking for a boy-- Good luck!! & I hope u find u a perfect guy
2016-05-21 00:59:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take your time and make lots of friends then find one or three worthy of yoru interest. As you further the friendships you will ascertain if one or more is possible bf material. And if one is feel free to date him. if it works great; if it doesn't then move forward and try again.
as for th eparents well they may figure it out one day when you show up for thanksgiving dinner with a bf in your arms. but until then why make a big deal out of them remaining in the dark a while longer. Though if they ae at all aware they may well start to realize you aren't into gals long before you get th enerve to bring the bf to thanksgiving dinner.
2007-10-04 16:39:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess we have the same problem then, but Internet i guess it the only hope, that we can find a date.
You can hangout in here to looking for friend, or in Yahoo! Messenger, i know a lot of guys from Yahoo! Messenger.
2007-10-04 11:03:19 · answer #7 · answered by Nam D. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the club.
2007-10-04 11:21:47 · answer #8 · answered by dementedstarfish 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Try the internet then, but make sure you clean out the cookies and history... I'd suggest gay.com and good luck.
2007-10-04 10:42:40 · answer #9 · answered by Jyse 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look around.
If you REALLY REALLY wanna feel comfortable, I'd say it's about time you come out of the closet.
2007-10-04 10:58:42 · answer #10 · answered by hellothere 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋