What is your personal way of dealing with an aweful mother-in-law? I love my man, but DANG she is so manipulative toward him and our relationship is suffering. How do you deal??
2007-10-04 10:33:50 · 12 answers · asked by justkiddingu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The ultimate solution that never fails........you ready....
MOVE FAR AWAY!!!!!!
I did....she isn't horrible horrible, and my husband doesn't take her crap either, but still, no matter what, it is always good to keep your distance...I'll tell you why, because they are nice at first to when you over and so you can let your guard down and then BAM! they turn on you....this is from experience. And also, set her in her place, if you don't like something, let her know immediately, it's not to hurt her, and your husband should not be offended, because it is only human nature to defend ourselves from ANYONE and ANYTHING! No law says you need to agree and listen to you mother in law, because once you do, they think they got you right where they want you. Be careful.
2007-10-04 11:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a wonderful mother-in-law, and I think it's because she and I are both Christians. If either of you are women of faith, approach her spiritually about the things that are bugging you, armed with some "scriptcha." Pray that she can grow to be the right type of woman.
Also, whenever your husband's birthday rolls around, send her a card thanking her for raising your husband, her son, to be the man that he is. Don't forget her on Mother's Day either. Stifle her ways with kindness.
Certainly, give your husband specific incidences citing her manipulation. No crying, generalizations, or hysterics...make a concrete list to show the man.
If things still don't work after you've done all you can do, let her go and let God handle it. Tolerating toxic relationships is not some required pennance for being on the planet.
2007-10-04 10:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by maraso 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do it for a purpose better than your self, e.g. for goodness sake or to glorify God; and pray and ask Him for force, knowledge and designated advantages for the activity you do in one of the most serving to professions. Deflect it with humor and/or redirect the patron/sufferer - in different phrases, difference the area rapidly. Go in with a all set events and use it in case you have got to. Never, in no way, in no way take it individually, of path. Accept it as a mission. I believe a blend of those matters will support you plenty, they continuously did me. Or, for a plan B, you might simply get ancient and pay it ahead (ha,ha). Best desires as you attempt to meet a nice want within the office.
2016-09-05 17:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We live 4 hours away, so that helps. Though she constantly calls us both, and emails. I usually use the thanks but no thanks end of conversation good bye tactic. I'm civil but firm when she starts to go off on what we SHOULD do. Ugh the guilt trips are the worst. I take it day by day, phone call by phone call. Plaster on my best fake smile for holidays and remember at the end of the day I get to go home, and be alone with my man to undue any crazy thoughts she put in his head. ;-) Good luck. I know that wasn't the best advice but.... we have to try!
2007-10-04 10:37:47 · answer #4 · answered by mrs.v 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i make it a point never to deal with her if at all possible. she used to be nosey and such but she got the hint when i wouldn't play the game. some times you just have to let things roll off and consider the source. your marriage may be in trouble if you pick at every little thing she does or says.
2007-10-04 10:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never-ending battle. We moved from Washington to Texas....now in Florida. She now lives in Florida. They will nevre go away. I just try to be respectful and keep my distance. Youe husband must do the same. He has to see past the fact that it's his mother.....and she has to see the fact that you are his wife....and respect your household.....
2007-10-04 10:39:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I avoid mine. I let my husbank know that I will not tolerate a mamas boy.
2007-10-04 10:59:36 · answer #7 · answered by Earl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
M-I-L--s.....are the pain of many relationships. i suggest letting your husband know what is going on. some moms just cant let go of their sons....creepy.
2007-10-04 10:37:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kill her with kindness. That'll get her attention.
2007-10-04 10:47:43 · answer #9 · answered by Lucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slip her a mickey
2007-10-04 11:22:57 · answer #10 · answered by Vegas Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋