The couple next door have a strange relationship. He works 60+ hours a week then when he comes home begins work again on the house. It is absolutely pristine/state of the art and he does it all for her. She does not work, drives around in the car he's paying for, he's paid for her new breast implants, hair, nails ... When he attempts to make love to her she cruelly rejects him - I believe he's given up on that altogether. I hear him rowing with her begging to know "who is it?" She always accuses him of being paranoid. However I regularly see a big handsome black man coming round at lunch times for about an hour a couple of times a week. Two days ago I put my ear to the wall and heard passionate, raunchy sex, groans squeeky bedsprings etc. I am taken aback I cannot believe the ordacity of her behaviour. What should I do, I feel I want to let him know or is it non of my business????? Opinions please!!!!! They have a 14 yr old son, been together for 15 years.
2007-10-04 10:03:55 · 41 answers · asked by jules61 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How happy you must be that none of this is your business!
2007-10-04 10:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normally I would say to stay out of it, but I would want to know if someone had knowledge about my spouse cheating. This is a touchy subject and I would either (a) tell her that you are aware that she's been cheating and tell her that it puts you in an uncomfortable position and see what she says - then if she does nothing, tell her husband OR (b) sit down with her husband and explain that you know this shouldn't be any of your business but if the roles were reversed you would want someone to tell you and share what you know.
I'm sure he's far from perfect, but he sounds like a good guy and deserves a whole lot better than that.
2007-10-04 10:11:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but you really need to mind your own business. You do not want to get in the middle of this whatsoever. (I am curious how you know that "when he attempts to make love to her she cruelly rejects him."?") Think this way, what are you going to get out of this by telling her husband? And, you're not there 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, so how do you know what kind of man he really is? Let them be and you get a hobby that doesn't involve your neighbors. Her moral issues are her moral issues, not yours. By you telling, it will just make it harder on the teenager.
2007-10-04 10:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by sadmom 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the "it's none of your business" camp...
Even if you find it appalling and wrong, these people's affairs (pun intended) should be no concern of yours. No one likes a busy-body, and you don't want the demise of someone's marriage to be blamed on the information you exposed. Not that it would be your fault for telling, but historically speaking, the bearer of bad news has never been very popular with the crowd...
And I wouldn't be listening up against people's walls/houses. That's crossing a whole new set of privacy lines...
2007-10-04 10:16:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
So you actually walked across the lawns, put your ear up against the neighbor's wall, then could hear noises through the insulated wall? For some reason, I don't believe a word of what you say.
2007-10-04 10:30:54 · answer #5 · answered by x2000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have two options:
1) if you are CLOSE to the neighbors, write a letter "from a friendly source" to the husband and tell him that you believe he should know of his wife's infidelity. The only reason I'd do this one is because I'd want to know if my husband was cheating on me...
--or--
2) if you are a NOSY neighbor, keep your butt outta it. Get a day job and stop putting your ears where they don't belong. Chances are, the husband is a dolt and already knows what his wife's doing. That's between them.
Her infidelity is between her and her husband....not you.
2007-10-04 10:11:53 · answer #6 · answered by kiki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the answer depends on how good a friend he is.
If he is just a casual acquaintance, then stay the hell out.
If he is a good friend and is really worried about things, then you have a duty to tell him. Even then, you need to be really careful about matters. Feel him out first, and see how things are going in the marriage. If he opens up, then it's time to spill the beans. Tell him what you've observed so that he can catch his wife red-handed.
2007-10-04 10:13:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey...stay out of it. If the hubby over there is such a wimp and can't handle his own affairs let him be cuckold. Panty-waist deserves it anyway.
In the meantime...you just keep getting your jollies by listening to other people get laid through the wall okay?
2007-10-04 10:50:19 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This state of the art home has walls that thin? Amazing.
My advice is to turn this little story in for your next creative writing assignment and stop watching so many soaps when you get home from school.
2007-10-04 10:10:38 · answer #9 · answered by meagain 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a hard question. I think that you need to somehow find a way to give him an anonymous hint.....if you know where he works maybe you can type a letter and make up a story that you work for someone and this job requires you to be in their building and tell him of the things that you have observed. Good luck to you.
2007-10-04 10:22:35 · answer #10 · answered by Shana H 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Keep out of it mate. No good can come of you chipping in your two cents.
If he is serious about wanting to know he can hire himself someone or take a day off work to spy himself.
Not your place to interfere.
2007-10-04 10:09:48 · answer #11 · answered by tayhay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋