Why are introverts so scarred of people?

Question

Ok, they get so shy and everything by people becuase they they never get out much, but why do they get that way? Is it becuase their personality is different then other peoples or is it that they don't want other people to know they never get out? What makes them scarred to be who they want to be when it comes to talking to people?

Answer 1

We're not scared of other people. It's all about energy levels... Extroverts do not like to be alone because it drains their energy, and in a sense makes them feel bad about themselves because with no energy to motivate you your esteem drops.

Introverts are completely opposite - we build energy by ourselves when we are alone. It doesn't mean we can't get out and be active, it just means when we're around people for long periods of time our energy is drained and we can't motivate ourselves anymore and surprise surprise the esteem levels drop.

I'm an introvert and I'm quite happy to get out and be around people because at the end of the day we all have the need for interaction. The difference between me and the classic loner introvert is that I'll just disappear when I'm drained (I don't fear being around people - I just know my limitations and I become self concious when my esteem is low).

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Well in the case of just plain shy people, (this just speculation here) maybe they listen too much to that voice in their head questioning if they are doing everything right?

In the case of an Autistic person or Aspergers Autism, maybe those people are just suffering from sensory overload and can't handle the stimulation of a large crowd?


I vote ZED O for best answer!

Answer 4

Just because a person is an introvert doesn't mean that they are scared of people.

Sometimes people just don't like other people - perhaps they find them annoying. lol Doesn't mean that they are afraid to be around other people when the situation calls for it - just that they'd prefer a little peace and quiet over hanging out with miss chatty kathy.

Answer 5

As an introvert myself, I think ferochira hit it right on. I'm not scared of people or shy away when I'm approached. I just don't feel that constant need of wanting to be around people. I have my close circle of friends but at the end of the day, I entertain myself just fine.

Answer 6

It's not necessarily being scared of other people. Introverts don't need the company of others to keep them entertained. Instead, they can entertain themselves. I tend to be introverted myself and while I'm often alone, I'm never lonely.

Answer 7

i'm not so sure i agree with you, i am an introvert, i get out regularly, nor am i shy. I have always hated crowds, hate to be the center of attention or to be given much attention. Don't like parties, or mingling. Don't have a whole lot to say to people, it's not that i don't like them, i just don't wanna be around people much. Only have one close friend, but they live a quite a distance. I have always been like this, but i am not unhappy about it, i enjoy life, like myself and have no problem with the way i am, i have never wished to be different or change. One of the most recent studies done in Europe on Introverts and Extroverts came up with some very interesting findings. Extroverts need people to keep them interested in life, themselves and what they are doing, where introverts don't, introverts suffer from a lot less stress, physical, mental problems, are not affected by peer pressure, don't feel the need to live up to all of societies standards. I think your discribing people with many other problems, not real introverts. I was married once for many years ( i kinda got talked into it) although i cared very much for my partner. I began to resent having someone there all the time, making myself go to work parties and events, having to converse all the time, when i didn't feel like it, all the changes that came with being a partner, it ended amicably. But i have always been happy, before and after the relationship. I have a lot to do, i have a job, i am an artist, love gardening, the isolation of the north country, i love learning, studying, reading, cultures, religion, spirituality, criminology, florensic science, medicine, politics almost anything and everything. I often give time and work with those less fortunate whether mental, physical, financial, seniors, homeless, i just work behind the scenes, and don't talk much, you'd be surprised how many people take to me, because they feel i realy listen to them, their often tired of being talked at, not to, being told all the time, especially seniors and the homeless. One can gain a wealth of knowledge, experience and wisdom from listening to others, where as most people today need to learn to listen, because they don't realy know how, even when their listening, their mind is on themselves and other things. I'm always busy, and never get lonely. I can speak up or out, if i need or want to, i often find people addicted to gossip, which i hate and refuse to participate in. I have spent my life watching and studying people. And i never understood the need of the extrovert to constantly need other people around at all times, the constant need to have someone walk them to class, or the washroom in a bar, to shop with, to do homework with, to phone 6 or 20 times a day, to drive with, to have fun with, to cry with, to eat with, to aprove of what they bought, how they look, who they date, the need to constantly avoid being or doing anything alone, it's almost as if they can't tolarate their own company. I'm not saying they can't, i'm just saying it almost seems that way. But just because someones an introvert, does not mean their loaded with problems, shyness and lack selfconfidence. Those you have discribed are not introverts. My parents are, always have been extremely sociable, extrovert. I was a single mother, my parents were heavily involved in my son's upbringing. I have 2 sons, one is an introvert, the other is an extovert, he's a real people, person. They were born 13 days short of 1 yr, (no father). I believe people are born to be what they are, although life does have it's infuences, i do not believe in trying to change a child's nature. If a child is shy, and many do go though that stage, i think it is more harmful to force a change that is not natural, i think this is where the harm come in, although young they do relize that a parent feels there's something "wrong" with them. That, i think leads to nevativity and the feelings of self conciousness. Just my opinion on the subject.

Answer 8

introverts like keeping to their self in a sense it has nothing to do with fear of being who they want to be and etc. It's part of who they are.

Answer 9

Simple Answer: fear of rejection, nervousness, feelings of incompetency, low self-esteem, etc.

Complex & Scientific Answer: ask a psychologist.

Answer 10

They're not necessarily scared - more than likely, they have nothing in common - therefore, little to say.