Living alone or with someone else????

Question

I have lived on my own with my child for 7 years.......

I then meet someone that I really feel I could live with and love for the rest of my life, let him move in little girl loves him but 4 months down the line I can't take it any more.......living with someone that is!

Am I strange or is anybody else that set in their ways that it becomes impossible to let anyone in!!!

I've asked him to leave and the relief is tremendous because I am back to being on my own again -

What the hell is wrong with me??????

No there was nothing weird or anything - I think I'm just that used to doing things my way. I wouldn't say I'm selfish - just really really independent!

Also began to feel hemmed in - does this make sense???

Spot on Rosmarie M -

Answer 1

I can totally relate to your situation - this happened to me a few years ago - i just felt trapped after years of living with just my child. I now have a new partner and although we don't live together i do have this worry that if we do live together that i will start to feel those same old suffocating feelings as before.I also have a friend who feels exactly the same too -we are both so used now to our own space and being free to decide what to eat, wear, do etc without having to consult somebody else first, apart from not having to put up with the rather unpleasant aspects of living with another person (you know what i mean). I guess that i simply don't have a great need to share a house with anyone right now but maybe one day i will gingerly dip my toe in again and hope for the best!

Answer 2

I don't know if maybe you were just living with the "wrong person". There are very few people in this world I could live with - most people drive me bonkers. I like living with my husband, we are both very independent, and like to do our "own thing" a lot. Perhaps you just need to find a person who is as independent as you, and/or live in a bigger house. We have a 4-bedroom house (just the two of us), and we each have our own room; it works great.

I just don't think that your problem is that you "can't live" with anyone: you've lived with your child all these years, so you must know all too well how to accommodate another person. And a child can be much more needy than an adult. It just seems to me you haven't found the person with the right mix of traits.

Answer 3

There's nothing wrong with you, I have lived alone for the last 4 years and decided to rent out a room,I have a very nice place with a new pool and I let this girl move in and the stress from her always being late with the rent and her differenmt friends over and her mood swings was just to much let alone I like to be able to get up and walk to the kitchen at night for a drink naked and not worry if im going to run into her, It's nice having your very own space.

Answer 4

There is nothin wrong with you. You have gotten used to the fact of it just being you and your daughter and to have someone living with you you feel as if your space is being invaded and you don't feel quite as at home as you used to.

Answer 5

He wasn't the right fit.
I don't know if I could do it again. My daughter and I have our routine. The nights her father visits, messes me up and gets me all off schedule and I'm exhausted the next day.

Answer 6

maybe you're just used to things your way and don't like to comprmise? Did he do wierd stuff or anything, or do you think it was just you?

Answer 7

you like the independence?

Answer 8

maybe you are too compulsive, too selfish to accept other's way of living. incompatible, not willing to compromise, narrow minded, not really in love.....

Answer 9

you werent in love

Answer 10

YES.....I know exactly who you feel....the choice is yours....