Alright I have listened to all your opinions and I understand your view now, I will not be sneeky about it. But would it be wrong to just "hope" it happens? considering he's the one not using protection and using the pull out method. So I will not try to make attempts behind his back to get preg when he says he doesent want kids. "but then why does he take a chance? that's something to think about" We have condoms but he hasent used them recently and of course I allow it because I do want to get preg. Does he think about it, but at the same time is scared? That's what I think. If we continue just having sex this way then is it wrong to continue "hoping" I do get preg? Because I wont technically do anything to help reinforce it, I just allowed it to happen. What's your opinion on that?
2007-10-04 07:58:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I don't think hoping is deceitful at all! I'm sure he knows the chances he is taking by just using the pull out method. As long as he isn't under the impression that you're on birth control or something like that, then if it happens it happens. I don't think you are doing anything wrong by letting him just use the pull out method. My hubby kind of eased into TTC as well, we went from condoms to pull out method to trying. I just let him go at his own pace and let whatever happens happen.
Good luck and baby dust!!
2007-10-04 08:04:49 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't try to trick your husband into pregnancy, but I would suggest talking to him. I know it can be hard to want a child when your significant other doesn't. It can cause a real strain on your relationship. It can even cause you to become resentful. It's not wrong that you hope you get pregnant. When we first started talking about having kids, my husband wasn't thrilled about it. In fact, he was so afraid that he pulled out right before he came because he was terrified of having a child. We still haven't got pregnant, but the past few months, he's really started wanting a child more. His friends have started having kids, so that's helped. I know it's frustrating, but just hang in there! It'll happen sooner than you think!
2007-10-04 15:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by Kimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want a baby now also, and my boyfriend pulls out, and I'm not on any birth control. He says he DOES NOT want a baby right now, but it it happens he'd stay. I also wonder and even ask him sometimes"if u don't want a baby then why do u want to chance it?"..and his answer is "I hate condoms"...still not a clear answer..but for me, I'm hoping, I'm hoping and praying everyday. So I hope it happens, and I know he will be a good father. Like everyone else said on here, men get scared about this stuff...so "what happens, happens" is what I say. P.S He knows I'm not on bc pills anymore, but still does it...I'm not tricking him, I'm hoping
2007-10-04 16:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by Lorelei's Mommy ( & prego) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be opening a can of worms and you don't realize how bad it can turn out. I was in a similar situation, though I did not try to get pregnant. I only went off my pills for a month becasue I ran out of them and didn't have a chance to go get more. He didn't want kids at all. I later found out that I was pregnant and he and his family decided that I was a devil woman who trapped him so he dumped me and I had to go through it all alone. He's a good dad now, but there is no chance for us ever again. Keep this in mind. It'll do a lot of damage to your relationship. You just have to decide wether that is worth it to you or not.
2007-10-04 15:04:10 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda K 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with hoping nature will step in and you will get what you want. Just try not to have any expectations of him. It could be a big source of disappointment to hope for one reaction from him and to get something entirely different. Good luck to you.
2007-10-04 15:09:37 · answer #5 · answered by l fuentes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont wanna sound like am judging you. But in order for a child to grow & be a good contributor to society as well as for his own future family, I belive the child needs two loving parents in his life. Not one mother who wants a baby & a father who is undecided on wether or not he wants children. I dont know how old you are. But I belive you must be very young. You have to ask yourself are you mentally & economically ready to be a single mother? if he decides he does'nt wanna be in this childs life?. Raising & taking care of a baby is alot of hard work.
2007-10-04 15:10:17 · answer #6 · answered by the1lioness1queen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothig wrong with hope. My firstborn was a "surprise " ( I don't like the term accident), and I was thrilled. Daddy caught up eventually!
But don't ever trick him into pregnancy. Its just the wrong way to start a life. Good luck!
2007-10-04 15:03:31 · answer #7 · answered by parental unit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um sometimes guys just don't like to use condoms, and don't fully understand the consequences of it until it happens. having a child should be a mutual decision, or the s**t can hit the fan. have fun. good luck i guess.
2007-10-04 16:17:30 · answer #8 · answered by 1 Hott Mami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows if you have sex unprotected that you could have a baby! He can be scared that is normal!
Good Luck
2007-10-04 15:03:02 · answer #9 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i want babies...he does the pull out method but i am also on the nuva ring....i want babies and so does he but not until we are 26 or so....
he's afraid and thats normal....
2007-10-04 15:07:14 · answer #10 · answered by Mia ღ AJ ღ Faithy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋