a DNA test was done to the child, and is my husbands child. I cannot forgive him. I found out he cheated and had a baby with some else through a phone call. I have a baby with him too who is 10 months old. Should I try to work things up ? or should I leave him?
2007-10-04 07:12:56 · 21 answers · asked by BONITA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry for your pain, but I would leave him.
2007-10-04 07:17:52 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u can not forgive him like u said, then whats the point u'd only be delaying the inevitable.. because if u dont forgive u'll never move forward and ur relationship will stall and it wont work.. so its up to u, can u love him enough to forgive him and work through this which will take years, and he'd have to realize that it would take years to get over .. or do u just leave now from further damaging ur child, i mean the child will always feel pain of a divorced house hold, but its easier for them to cope when they are little and it happens, because they will never remember what it was like when everyone was happy and together.. so its usually easier for them to deal with it cause they dont know any better..
2007-10-04 07:30:49 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave now while you only have one child, if that child is a boy is this really the male example you want for him. Certainly not, cut your losses and don't look back. And I would realize that your baby has a half brother or sister out there that someday he or she may want to know. Be preparing yourself to deal with that.
2007-10-04 07:31:18 · answer #3 · answered by LilSunbeam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you woman marry such dogs in the first place? I'll never understand why you women always give all the attention to the "playas" but ignore the nice guys.
You married a womanizer and not a nice guy. Therefore, it should come as no surprise to you that he committed adultery (and he probably will cheat on you again and again if you continue to put up with him).
Boo hoo. I guess you should've paid more attention to the nice guys.
2007-10-04 07:26:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow! This is really a tough one....Only you know for sure if you can forgive him and try to work on your marriage...just keep in mind that there will ALWAYS be a reminder of his infidelity...and that is the innocent child that he produced with this other woman.
2007-10-04 07:19:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the end that is your decision alone....can you deal with the child and the other mother for the rest of your life with no resentment? For me it would not be possible and the best route would be to leave but that is just me
2007-10-04 07:17:46 · answer #6 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say seek counselling. THere is WAY more to this issue than you've stated, and more factors that need to be considered. You need a professional to help you work through your own feelings and set you on the path that is appropriate for you.
2007-10-08 07:16:57 · answer #7 · answered by mamacita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave Him!!! and run as fast as you can cuz if he can do that then he has no respect for you or the baby and life ya'll have together, and i no alot of poeple will say give him another chase and if he does it again leave but why give him another chase to hurt you.
2007-10-04 07:17:22 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs T. 2009 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying to work out your marriage is always the right thing to do. Insist that he join you in marriage counseling. If that doesn't work then leave, you must respect yourself and your child, staying with a cheater who won't work on his marriage is no life.
2007-10-04 07:19:52 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would definitely leave! You will have to be reminded of the pain he has caused you every day for the rest of the time you are with him. There is somebody better for you out there.
2007-10-04 07:22:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He had a baby with someone else through a phone call? Wow, that a first....
2007-10-04 07:48:10 · answer #11 · answered by Mandibulin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋