with denis having a kid that is not mine
2007-10-04 06:54:51 · 16 answers · asked by BONITA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-10-04 06:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by sarahnhuy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been with Denis and why is he having a baby with someone else? If Denis was already having this baby when you met or started dating, I think you should give yourselves time to get to know each other. Having said that . . . a relationship with someone that already has a baby doesn't mean that if they were to get married they would fail, it depends on your willingness in having a relationship with this little person for the rest of your lives . I am happily married and I had 2 boys when i met my husband and he has been amazing with them. They love him like a father, but he had to earn their love and also had to add apt to this situation. So far we have been together for 4 years.
2007-10-04 14:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you having doubts about being happy? Is it because your husband-to-be has a kid? How old is she? Does the kid behave badly and your fiance doesn't do anything to correct her behavior? You can try so many things to get along with a kid; just try and make your best effort if the relationship with your better half is worth it. Of course you can be happy.
2007-10-04 14:03:08 · answer #3 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been w/ a man for 7 years and he has a son that isn't mine. We get him 50% of the time. I'm very happy in our relationship and I love his son/my boy very much. (it helps that he's a really great dad and thus has a really great son) Sometimes it can be challenging and confusing, but if you're willing to support them and be there for them, and love them no matter what, it's extremely rewarding.
I didn't know what love truly is until I joined my family and I couldn't live without either of them now.
2007-10-04 13:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is Yes...but remember Marriage is work and shouldn't be entered into lightly. I had a 10yr old son b4 my husband & I got married 5 1/2 yrs ago & now we have a 4yr old son together. We are very happy in our lives, but it wasn't always great. It only got better after Jesus Christ came into our lives. Now we put God 1st. We couldn't be happier!
2007-10-04 14:15:21 · answer #5 · answered by debbiedeb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you and your husband work really hard at making the marriage work.
People don't automatically have happy marriages. They have to compromise, and communicate and trust (in themselves and in each other) and adapt, and all those other things that have nothing to do with love, but everything to do with partnership.
Good luck!
2007-10-04 14:00:06 · answer #6 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may take time but yes you certainly can be very happy in your marriage even if the child isnt yours ,you can still love that child as if they were after all that' s what my Dad did & we are still a happy family.
2007-10-04 13:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by dderry216 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask this question then I would say that you likely won't be happy for long. Think long and hard before you do something that could possibly make all of you unhappy in the long run.
2007-10-04 13:58:55 · answer #8 · answered by Done Cryin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love Denis, try to love the child as well.
2007-10-04 14:01:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are uncertain then maybe you are not ready to accept the resposibility yet, sounds as if you are questioning yourself too. Just remember thats a part of him or her, its a tough transition but gaining trust and stability is important
2007-10-04 14:01:08 · answer #10 · answered by deedee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can be happy. As long as you guys have an understanding.
2007-10-04 13:57:48 · answer #11 · answered by Blond3 BombShell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋