If people say 'children are a product of love' & they divorce, where did the love go?

Question

I just don't get it

Answer 1

Children are a product of hot sex and passion....You don;t need love for that.

Answer 2

Ah...this is complex. As a divorced woman with 2 kids from my first marriage, I can say I might have some insight. When you marry, you beleive you are in love and you are at the time. IF you happen to have children, yes, they are aproduct of that love. However, often times, especially when people marry young, they, as a person, grow and change. We all do. We are all growing and changing-in big ways and small ones, all the time. Sometimes the two people change and veer in different directions. Things that they thought they had in common, are no longer there. Sometimes they fall out of love. They are no longer compatible. That doesn't mean, however that they don't love their kids. They just aren't in love with each other any longer. Hopefully, the love that they did once share change evolve into a mutal respect, for the sake of their children. I was married and had 2 kids with my ex. We married young. We grew and changed and lo longer were compatible with each other (among a few other details) But, we have remained civil, friendly actually. I am engaged to a wonderful man who accepts the fact that I do have a friendly relationship with the man who is the father of my kids..and that is fine. I don't love my ex in a romantic way, but I do love him as a human being and the father of the 2 most wonderful people in my life. We talk and chit-chat about our kids, life, we even give each other relationship advice. So, love never goes away (unless in the cases of abuse) but, when divorce is an out come to a relationship...the love is just changed.

Answer 3

It didn't go anywhere. At the time the children were conceived, there was love (and hopefully when they were born and being raised).

Also - the love is directed toward the children. As others have pointed out, the love for you children doesn't go away.

Answer 4

married twice divorced twice and got two kids. In my situation the love didn't go anywhere I still and always will love my ex's it just got to a point we couldn't make it work my first husband became abusive he needed help we both moved on and are happy but i will always care for him my second husband became an alcoholic and after 10 years of trying i couldn't live that way so we moved on he got clean we are both in relationships and happy now but we will always care for each other. Love doesn't go away but it is constantly growing and changing the lucky ones can get threw it grow with it but the rest of us just do the best we can.

Answer 5

If you believe that saying than obviously there was love when the baby was made, that doesn't mean the love will always last but the child is a memory of love they once had. IE a product of the love they had.

Answer 6

Even if children were conceived as a "product of love", they are the ultimate test in a marriage, so if a marriage does not stand on solid rock before kids, it'll crumble after kids.

Answer 7

I’m not understanding your question, the majority of children from married parents Are conceived by love… at the time of the chaca-chaca, they where in love, what happens after, years later… only they know.
Probably the children are still loved by both parents

Answer 8

You don't stop loving your children just because you no longer love the other parent.

Answer 9

They loved making them and the rest went on bring them up

Answer 10

Hopefully it went into the children!