Ok... all of the questions about relationships - the general answer is always: Leave him/her... have people gotten lazy? What about WORKING on a relationship? and maybe considering the OTHER SIDE OF THE STORY? generally people post questions when they are angry or depressed, they may be distorted or blown out of proportion due to the person's emotions at the time...
but all the time - the general gist is alway: Leave/get rid of the person... no wonder there is such a high divorce rate - it is the same as the obesity epidemic - Laziness...
2007-10-04 06:36:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and I'm talking about both, men and women...
2007-10-04 06:37:07 · update #1
so, unless the relationship is conflict-less, then it is not "True love" and it follows the couple should split?
2007-10-04 06:40:11 · update #2
I'm not talking abuse... I'm talking IN GENERAL...
2007-10-04 06:41:46 · update #3
I agree whole-heartedly. While there are many reasons that someone should end a relationship (abuse, both physical and emotional, being uppermost in my mind), there are also many reasons to work on a relationship.
We live in a throwaway society. People put so little value on anything outside themselves anymore - the selfishness is staggering.
2007-10-04 06:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by Lillian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean, but when your younger (I mean anybody under 17) I don't think working it out applies. If a person really loves you breaking up is not an option, but if they can live without you would you want to stay? Also, you have to put into consideration that the divorce rate has gotten higher because women started speaking out about abuse, so I would not use that census as a reference. FYI-the obesity epidemic is not a good reference either, laziness is not the reason some people are fat.
2007-10-04 13:52:47 · answer #2 · answered by Luz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you get dumped? You seem a bit hostile. Relationships aren't always worth working on. Life's too short to deal with bullsh*t. Individuals in solid relationships aren't usually the ones posting on here. The commitment of a marriage and the status of 'dating' are hardly the same thing. Like most people agree on here it's the abusive relationships that are receiving such counsel.
2007-10-04 13:58:53 · answer #3 · answered by rcButterfly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you haven't read many questions then, because rarely do I see any where at least someone (if not several) don't suggest counseling.
A lot of the little teen relationship questions get "leave him/her" and that's not inappropriate. They aren't ready for anything long term anyway. Most of the adult questions I see (unless there's been abuse or some very serious/dangerous issue) get plenty of suggestions for talking it out and counseling, as well as "if that doesn't work, you should consider leaving"
So no, breaking up isn't the solution to everything and many of the folks here know that. âº
2007-10-04 13:41:31 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you in general about people needing to work on relationships. But have you noticed a lot of people asking relationship questions here say that they're living with an abusive boyfriend/husband or that their spouse cheated? Sorry, but I'm ALWAYS going to tell a battered woman or someone who has been cheated on to leave. How does the old saying go? Hurt me once, shame on you; hurt me twice, shame on me.
2007-10-04 13:40:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
only YOU can decide if leaving is right. Each situation is unique and different. Ask yourself the Dear Abbey question: Am I better off with him/her or without him/her ? The answer will tell you what you need to do.
2007-10-04 13:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by Mike 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. However our society now is based on instant gratification and lack of commitment or responsibility as a whole.
Quitting is easy. Staying togeher and working things out is hard.
2007-10-04 22:16:42 · answer #7 · answered by oneiloilojeepney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are quite true about what you said but people prefer to jump into other relationship than to make things work.
2007-10-04 13:41:00 · answer #8 · answered by firewall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sensing you are under cover angry man
2007-10-04 13:49:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no need confrontation before thinking about break out
some time after it you can change your opinion and stay with her/him for ever
2007-10-04 14:45:45 · answer #10 · answered by egyank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋