Should I quit my job to stabilize my daughter?

Question

I am currently working at a contract job. My 15 year old daughter just came to live with me. We were both living with my parents. She lived with her Dad from age 10 to 15.

She is routintely throwing tantrums in the morning and blaming me for her "failings" in school, etc.

I then come to work late and can not concentrate or really produce at work. I work as an Accountant.

I am thinking of quitting for some time and then taking up a job again after she gets through the transition.

My parents want my daughter to stay with them for some time and I do not want that. That is not the solution. I have to explain that to them. They just make things worse and in fact pushed me to move out and now say that they did not.

Answer 1

I agree with you, the last thing you're daughter need is another "parent" (grands). She needs you. I think the tantrums are for attention. Fisrt handedly my cousin doesn't have her dad and she throws a fit whenever she wants attention. Her mom works nights so daytime she's too tired and sends her to piano and swimming and other activities to occupy her time. But people fail to realize if you just invest time into your family, you'll reap the rewards, just like a bank account...And you're already an accountant so you know how it works. If money's not the issue, I'd encourage you to spend more time with her. HElp her acheive in school. She may not appreciate it just yet bacuse she probably never felt the warmth of a strong mother figure in her life, and don't rebuke her during this transition. I'm sure you guy'll do fine...tc. And good luck

Answer 2

somewhere along the line your daughter is really going to have to come to grips with this situation. Pretty much sounds like she is pulling every string she can to make you adhere to HER ways. As for the failing grades- she MUST TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for her actions and NOT shift the blame to you. YOU MUST set some boundarIEs. ie: limit of TV time, phone, lights out time, You in turn need to get a back bone as a parent and STICK with your resolve. Once she sees this then she may turn herself around. As for fquitting your job- NOT a good idea- she will see this as control over you. In essence this can be summed up in a nut shell- responsibility for her actions and consequences for her actions. There is NO compromise-l its about her.

Answer 3

Stop taking advice from your parents because you are acting like you are they're 5 year old daughter that needs her to kiss your boo-boo. I think you should get another job that benefits you both. You get better hours that are flexible for you and your daughter.

Answer 4

Sounds rough. Is talking to your employeer about part-time, felx-time or working form home an option? You might be supprised how accomidating an employeer can be with a good employee. I was not ready to go back to work after my last baby's maternity leave time was up so I spoke to my employeer and they sent someone out to my house to get me set up with a wireles laptop and I mostly worked from home for a few more months.

Answer 5

how r u supposed to support ur daughter if u quit ur job?

r u gonna let ur parents pay for things? i dont mean to sound rude or anything, but i think u should really think about that too.

the daughter needs to learn that ur the parent. but u have to think about her point of view too. she hasnt lived with u for the past 5 years. she just needs to know who is the parent, unless she has a reason to resent u, then u need to talk to her.

Answer 6

you can request a leave from your job and when things get back on track at home, you can have your job back. If you employer dosnt do that then quiting for the sake of your child is best.,