My ex dumoted me and told me he didnt want to be a dad, and that he didnt want the kid, now since ive been dating another guy and hes been involved in my pregnany. my ex has been calling me and texing me telling me hes the only father and my bf cant love his son and if he thinks hes gonna be a dad to his son hes gonna kick his ***. and hes basically being a jelouse ***. now he wants to be involved in the pregnancy and in his sons life.. can someone peferably guys help me out with this question. hes also saying he wants nothing to do with me he just wants his son and he wants me to give him custody. this is a kid that does drugs and parties all the time. he could never handle a kid.
2007-10-04 06:06:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well there are 2 things. You really don't have to worry about the custody thing cause as a woman you will have to do a britney to lose custody.
He can have visitation rights and be in the kids life if he wants and you can not really stop him. But you can go after him for child support, (and you should anyway).
There are plenty of nice guys out there that don't care if you have a kid by someone else. But be careful about the whol daddy issue unless you are getting married to the guy. It is hard on the kid to form bonds and then have them ripped away. that is not fair to the kid.
Tell the sperm donor that if he even looks at your BF wrong you will call the cops, get him thrown in jail, and he will lose ALL visitation for being an unfit environment.
2007-10-04 06:16:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
" this is a kid that does drugs and parties all the time" and yet YOU chose this guy to have sex with and to father your child. If you didn't WANT him to be the father of your child you should not have dropped your drawers and spread your legs. Whether he will get custody or not is a moot point. He WILL more than likely at least have vistiation rights if he acknowledges paternity of the child. YOU have nothing to say about that as that will be determined by the court and court orders are legal and binding and going against them will land YOU in jail. The guy you are now seeing has no right to the child so he shouldn't even be involved, whether you like it or not.
2007-10-04 06:36:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying you are currently pregnant with a baby boy, and that you are no longer seeing the father? And that some other guy is already in your life wanting to claim the child as his own?
If this is what you mean, WHY are you involved with another guy right now? You have nothing to give to this guy emotionally... you are pregnant, you just came out of a relationship.. your focus should be on the unborn child and YOURSELF, not some guy!
The real father of the baby has rights to see the child.. and to spend time with him. So get used to it. As for custody, YOU will probably get custody if you act appropriately....
So, gather your dignity and do what is best for yourself. No use getting all bent out of shape, angry or arguing with the father of the baby... being upset right now would not be good for your health.
No use to make it all a big drama, either.
2007-10-04 06:15:28 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him do everything legally! He has no rights as far as being involved in your pregnancy, so forget that. When the child is born if he wants rights tell him he must get a paternity test and then if he wants custody or visitation he must go through family courts. If he is a druggie he will never win and if he is a druggie my guess is he won't even want to spend his money on all this. He is just trying to make you his door mat, don't let that happen. Don't take any of his calls, just concentrate on your baby right now. Good luck sweetie...
2007-10-04 06:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first get a restraining order. Then get a DNA test that you can prove that the baby is his (your ex) then go to court and get soul custody for your child and all rights for your ex removed. If he is on drugs you will need to prove that he is on drugs. get any kind of proof that you are a better parent and that you will love this child and support him. Get letters from friends, your job, if you go to church get it from your pastor, your docter, etc.
yes your ex is now jelouse cause he see's another man in your life and willing to accept your child as well. He's going to cause more problems and try to break your new boyfriend apart from you. this will happen with any man you go out with. So get him where it hurts dear. After the child is born file for Child Support. But I wouldn't mess around with him I would get a restraining order now.... You are no longer married to him you are a free woman. you have the right to date and remarry. He is your Ex husband or ex boyfirend. whatever the case your no longer his.
2007-10-04 07:16:35 · answer #5 · answered by jennajade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a lawyer because you are gonna need legal help. Ask him about the custody issues and document the partying and threats. Tell the baby's father that it's over and you will be expecting child support, but in no way will he get custody. Also, file a police report if he threatens your boyfriend again.
2007-10-04 06:26:36 · answer #6 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is it always the womans baby and she gets to make all the decisions reguarding the status and future of the child. The man may not be the best father or husband but he is still the childs dad and should be treated with a little more respect and dignity
2007-10-04 06:35:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, first off, you choose him to be the father of your child.
You need to spend sometime taking care of your self and child. Why are you already dating someone else?
Stop all of the drama. Spend at least a year adjusting to motherhood and bonding with you baby. Leave all of these men out of your life. You need to grow up and take care of this now.
You choose this and now is the time to step up, be a woman and put your child first. Clean up this mess.
Stop taking his phone calls. Delete his text messages without reading them. Who cares what he wants. Take care of your child without the drama!
2007-10-04 06:15:38 · answer #8 · answered by Tadpoler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will have to go to court to get any kind of rights. He'll also have to have a DNA test after the birth to prove that he is the father. Tell him to f**K off and grow up.
2007-10-04 06:12:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not let him close to you. Get away iof you can, run away!!!!!! He will ruin yor life and the life of your baby, He is pure trouble. You will have the type of life fitting of the Jerry Spinger show.
2007-10-04 06:29:22 · answer #10 · answered by tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋