My wife refuses to go to work - she doesn't want to put our son in daycare. But she just lays around the house all day. She does do housework, but so do I. I have asked her to join Ebay and other ideas. It is now getting to the point where it is interfering in our marriage. Help please.
2007-10-04 06:04:44 · 12 answers · asked by willie_tell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Daycare can sometimes be more expensive then a part time job pays. My advice is to maybe sign her up as a mystery shopper. She can go shopping & recieve checks for around $20 per shop. Pressuring her to get a job could make you seem like a prick but she should understand that money is an issue & be willing to cut back on luxuries like beauty products or maybe start clipping coupons & using generic brands.
If she's always laying around maybe she is feeling a little down & may need some counseling. Of course that would cost money & become a different issue. Ebay is a good idea maybe you should get that started for her & ease her into it. Its understandable that she wants to stay home with the child, but your point is valid too. Keep your lines of communication open & do your best not to use demining words.Good luck to you.
2007-10-04 06:28:37 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not wanting to put her son in daycare is a very good reason not to work. However, that's no excuse to be lazy. does she get other things done, such as errands, household books/finances, or housework, such as keeping it clean, having groceries in the house, and dinner plans? If so, she's not laying around the house all day, that's totally a full time job, especially if your child isn't in school yet.
If none of that is getting done, finding a job for her would just be a mask over the real prob of laziness. This is a personality flaw that she needs to address. Finding her a job wouldn't help, IMO.
2007-10-04 06:57:03 · answer #2 · answered by Dj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see how can you help her she might feel like all the pressure is on her to look after your son so she will make that her first job just like a men does first thing to do it's to go to work and what every happen later have to pay bills but didn't see that your wife could be depress not saying that's you but that happens so often so ask her how can you help her mentally it's seem like your worried about her so she can take care of you and your son and your house because you ask her how can you help her and if she does not come out and say that then you try something else. But....... dont make MONEY the heart of your question because she already know she is not given any money toward the house so more less help her.
2007-10-04 06:19:35 · answer #3 · answered by sisterteefsh3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would you want her to put your son in daycare so you all will have more money, and stuff?
She can babysit and that will take some attention away from your son if you don't mind that. She needs some goals for herself. She can go to school online, that's what I did. Got my associates in Business Administration with a Concentration in Healthcare Administration and graduated with a 3.9 GPA in 13 months. Try American InterContinental University is an online college and is great. After she puts some investment into herself and a career goals things may change for you both.
2007-10-04 06:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by Belinda J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably should have discussed finances and work arrangements before you got married... a person who lays around alot and who isn't productive could be depressed. is she?
you should not have to do housework (unless it's something she can't do which involves more strength than she has), after a full day of work, no.
i suppose you and your wife need to come to terms?
i have an ebay business (very small, but it keeps me occupied) and i am an artist. i stay home only because i'm temporarily disabled. i have other interests, also. If i didn't i'd be bored also.
take care and i hpe it works out.
2007-10-04 06:22:51 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you get a second job? It's natural for a mother to want to stay home w/ the little ones. Why don't you offer to take care of the little guy during hours you don't work? You both need to spend less, that's all, or you need to find a higher paying job. By the way, if she does go back to work, you will be expected to cook half of the time now, do some laundry, do half the cleaning, at the very least! Plus, help take care of the boy! by the way, perhaps she don't like e bay... and sure, she could babysit for someone... I am truely blessed to have a husband who wants me to stay at home w/ our son... =) and he admitted that he had a hard time when I did work part time in the evenings...he was lonely w/o me... =) so we found it better for me to stay at home =) sure, we are a little broke, but, we are happy! =) by the way, try a yard sale... or fix things and sell them if you can... like lawnmowers... can you fix anything and sell it? or repair stuff for people for extra money? lots of ways to get extra money w/o her going to work... buy stuff at garage sales and sell it for more at your own sale =) good luck! God Bless!
2007-10-04 06:13:39 · answer #6 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to be able to make her. I understand where your wife is coming from, I don't want to work and put my kids in daycare either. However, if money is really tight for you, then start cutting off her luxuries and fave shampoo, makeup etc and say you need to tighten the belt up a bit. Once those things change, she may see the light. If she sees you controlling things, she'll not like it and want control for herself. Cut it where it counts always works for me.
2007-10-04 06:10:39 · answer #7 · answered by Yummy♥Mummy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she could sell on eBay, get a part time job...work evenings after you get home, so daycare won't be an issue. There are also a lot of home based businesses that are worth a look.
Good luck with whatever you decide.
2007-10-04 06:09:24 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. GTO 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is to confortable she is not open to change
talk to her make her relize this is not joke
and that it will devide you as husband and wife
i understand not wanting to put your son in daycare that is good if you can afford to do that pre school is great
does she have any working skills?
she could do day care of something
2007-10-04 06:19:43 · answer #9 · answered by summerbliss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, here is the question, does she need to work because yall need the money or is it because you want he too. At one time I didn't have to work and my husband kept pushing me to work and I just wouldn't go. Now that I have to work because we need it, I do without any complaints.
2007-10-04 06:14:12 · answer #10 · answered by me again 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋