Having some friends coming to stay with me tomorrow night. I rang them last night to say I had been to the supermarket and had bought food and would have dinner for them when they arrive. She has just texted me to say she is going to to make dinner and bring it with them and for me to do nothing. When I go to stay with her, she always makes dinner and I feel it right for me to make dinner when I have friends stay. This is not the first time she has done this and I'm starting to think that she doesnt like my cooking or something. She knew I had gone and bought stuff which will probably now go to waste. I'm feeling a bit cross about this now - why the hell do I bother ?! On top of this, I wanted another friend and my parents to join us for dinner - I cant do that now as I can hardly say to her 'ok - can you make enough to feed 3 more people?'
Why do you think she does this?
2007-10-04 05:16:10 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I usually bring wine, dessert and something for breakfast when I stay with her. Why cant she do the same? Now I will have to go to the supermarket and buy all this stuff on top of the other stuff I've already bought that will go to loss now !
2007-10-04 05:32:10 · update #1
I told her what I planned to make and she responded 'oh lovely' in an enthuiastic manner. If she didnt like it, she should have said then.
2007-10-04 05:50:55 · update #2
I am not sure if she is saying she doesn't like your cooking exactly . Do you think maybe she feels it is polite to bring something? She might also be the type of person that likes to provide/control in social situations.
I have a friend who is very similar. What I have started to do (because she does not take 'no' for an answer) is split the meal in half. I cook the mains and she usually brings starters and dessert. Maybe you could use your shopping to make something else to eat as well - which also solves the problem with bringing more guests....
Don't be offended, some people just feel the need to always be the one to provide - I don't think it has anything to do with your cooking.
2007-10-04 05:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by ER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just controlling and probably a B. Just make the dinner and have it ready before she comes. What is she gonna do pull hers out and only warm some up for herself? Maybe she just really loves to cook and your looking too much into it. She's your friend just keep dinner out of it next time and go out to eat. Food is not a good thing to lose a friend over especially if you've known her a long time.
2007-10-04 05:21:56 · answer #2 · answered by The truth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite your other friend and your parents, and cook what you planned - combined with her meal it will be sort of like a buffet. I can understand your frustration- you spent the time and money to shop, and plan and meal- she should have at least consulted you beforehand, and you could have said ok, or no thanks, I've got dinner covered. She may just think she's doing you a favor, or perhaps she's on a special diet and wants to be able to control the menu?
2007-10-04 05:45:03 · answer #3 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know how you feel, or better yet get to the point and ask her if she has a problem with your cooking, let her know that she inconvenienced you...
2007-10-04 05:43:54 · answer #4 · answered by its just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋