Her son is 2 months and 1 week. He doesnt make eye contact. Am I just worring about something that is not there. I really think it is strange that he doesnt look at faces. I have heard that you should bring it up to your Dr if this happens. I dont know how to bring it up to her. Should I and if I should how to bring it up?
2007-10-04 05:07:46 · 18 answers · asked by Mrs Florek 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Please dont tell me to only worry about my kid. The only reason I noticed that he wasn't looking at faces was. I have all the "new" moms that I am friends with over to my house for "play" dates. I know that they are still young but I think it helps the moms more than the kids now. So I am not worring about someones elses kids. Another mom brought it up to me.
2007-10-04 05:16:28 · update #1
I would not worry about it at this point at all. My son wasn't interested in faces until he was 5 or 6 months old. He much preferred to look at keys or other objects. He's now 27 months and a social butterfly.
Some kids are more fascinated by objects. That's just their temperament. It's impossible to diagnose Autism before the age of 2 or 3, so there's no point in making her concerned right now. If things don't change within 6 months or so, she'll know there's a problem.
2007-10-04 05:19:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A baby should be making eye contact by now, although sometimes, babys do progress slower than others... The best thing to do is to mention it, but dont be too pushy about it... Mention it... Show concern for her and her baby's health... Any friend would... However, do not badger her about it... Mention it in one conversation, and get to the point... " Friend, I was noticing that Baby Boy, does not look me in the face when I hold him and cuddle him... Have you noticed that?" She'll either say yes or no... But if she says no, atleast you have gotten her to keep an eye out for this lack of behavior... She'll proceed from there... If she has, mention that it may be somethin that she should talk to his doctor about... Simply telling this woman, to pay attention to her own child, is not a parents voice... Any mother that is friends with another mother, would be concerned as though this were her child... as I expect my friends to do the same... So sweetheart, do not listen to them... Just casually bring it up... If she gets offended, leave it alone...But I doubt that she will...
2007-10-04 12:33:22 · answer #2 · answered by Hell Rele 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just from personal experience, I have a friend also whose baby is 1 week younger than mine and he is already rolling over. My baby girl has not even gotten close to rolling over. When she was telling me all of his little milestones, and I realized that my baby hadn't done some of those things, it made me feel really bad and worried about my baby. Being a new mom is hard enough. Babies do different things at different times. I wouldn't bring it up. If there were something wrong with her baby, they would have seen it at the doctor when she went for the baby's 2 month shots.
2007-10-04 12:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by Ava's Mama 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you give her baby a toy that has contrasting colors...maybe something that is Black and white or black and red or red and white. Those are the most easiest things for a baby that age to notice. Just buy him the toy give it to your friend as a little gift, you could just say you just wanted to give him a little something. Then play with it in front of her little boy. Move it from side to side and see if it gets his attention. Don't make it obvious to your friend that your trying to test his vision, just play with him. If he looks at it and follows it, then you'll know he's not blind, which I would think would be the main concern. Then just wait it out and see if he starts making eye contact later on.
If he doesn't seem to notice the toy at all, no matter how much you wave it in front of him, then I would kindly mention to my friend that you have noticed that he doesn't seem to pay too much attention to things around him and you were wondering if she noticed that too. Then take it from there, but try to be very sincere and not make her worry.
2007-10-04 13:09:20 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was 2 weeks old when I read an article in a magazine about autism and it said an early sign was the baby not looking into the mothers eyes...for the next week I would stare at him and beg him to look at me..I would cry because I was so scared that something was wrong with him...I worried so much part of me wishes I would of never read that stupid article. He is now a 1 month 1 week and looks at everyone and stares at me and his daddy but one article made me so fearful of autism that I was expecting my two week old son to be able to focus on me when he probably could barely see me.
I don't think you should say anything to your friend..maybe if the pattern continues when he is gettiing closer to a year you might mention it but it is too early to tell now. You will just stress her to the max and depress her..You are a good friend for noticing but wait until there are more obvious signs.
2007-10-04 12:18:05 · answer #5 · answered by Buggy Jean 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
My last daughter was like that too. I worried about it but kept working with her, staying close to her face and talking and singing to her. Make sure there are no noise distractions. You can also bring this up to your dr, just tell them that he is not making eye contact so they know and can advise you properly. My daughter is nine months old now and she is fine. My other two were not like that so it was just one of those things. Your dr hears many things and there is no shame in concern, just ask him/her right out and see what they think. Best of luck!
2007-10-04 12:19:11 · answer #6 · answered by grltga2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, babies that young still have a problem focusing. Their eyes are still not that developed. They have a problem with depth perception, separating what's in front of them with what's further away. Since all babies are different, they will all learn to focus and use their eyes at different times.
If he's 4 months old and still doesn't make eye contact, then it's time for her to bring it up to her doctor.
2007-10-04 12:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by maegs33 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. Although, by 2 months the baby should have already been to the pediatrician several times. The doctor should have done a test of all his reflexes, hearing, eyesight and such. You might ask your friend in casual conversation what the pediatrician has done and said about her son. When babies are really young they do have to learn how to focus their eyes.
2007-10-04 12:12:16 · answer #8 · answered by brigirl_00 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If its something that really concerns you...definately go to ur doctor. Just simply as if there is something wrong, because her baby doesnt make eye contact, neither does he look at faces. If you are ever concerned about your baby...the best thing is to always ask your doctor, no matter how silly you think the question is. I'm sure doctors are always ready for ANY question a mother might have about their new born baby.
2007-10-04 12:13:05 · answer #9 · answered by beautiful_flower 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
its too early to worry, at 2 months he still has focusing issues, he may not look at faces because he can't see them well. If the behavior is still there at 6-8 months it can be an early marker of Autism, but even then it is too soon to know.
2007-10-04 12:10:58 · answer #10 · answered by parental unit 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋