my fiancee and i have been together almost a year, since last december. Well his x came over with a baby monday saying its his. She brought over paper work proving its not whose she thought it was, so i guess shes narrowed it down. They were last together in the beginning of November and the baby was born August 4th. What should i do? Should i leave him? Stay?I do not know if i can handle the impact it will have on our relationship if the baby is infact his.
2007-10-04 04:50:19 · 11 answers · asked by Babysmom303 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow, you are certainly not ready for marriage if you are ready to run at the first problem. Not blaming you if you do not want to deal with the baby mama drama, but if that child is his you will have to deal with it if you stay in this relationship and you will have to deal with her too.
2007-10-04 05:02:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow! That's a lot to handle. Well seeing as how they were together last Nov. I'm guessing you have been with him less than one year.
If it was me I'd ask myself: Is that what I want out of my life?
If the child is his, he will be paying child support and that will mean less finances between the two of you. I'm not trying to say money is the most important thing, but what I am saying is there is nothing like a financally secure future.
Also, you will have the baby's mother in your life as well. That can be an unpleasant expirience if the two of you do not get along. If he is taking the baby for the weekend or whatever, chances are you will be there. Are you ready to help your boyfriend care for a child?
i think it would be best if you sat down and talked about your feelings with your boyfriend and his ex. you guys should also have a plan in case the baby is his. Good luck! :o)
2007-10-04 05:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by this_girl_loves_the_80s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you have been with your fiancee for just 1 year. It's not quite a year yet. Why the hurry to get married? I don't think your ready to walk down walk way to marrage. Not if you can't cope with problems that reflect your fiancee. Learn to cope with each problem that arise that is if you love him enough to marry him you need to learn to cope with problems. I say if your not reacy to cope with this problem you need to get out of the relationship now before you get married. He's dealing with it and probably wants you by his side helping him. That is what marrage is all about dear. The thing is you don't know for sure that it's his. If you cant get out now and let him know how you feel.
2007-10-04 06:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by jennajade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything in haste. That new baby should be the primary consideration for all three of you. If you're not ready to be a step-mother as yet, just let the other two know and let your attachment develop naturally if it will.
2007-10-04 05:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by Steven B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should leave him that is part of his past. That is of course if you are willing to deal with the situation. Also make sure that you two talk about this so that you are both on the same page about it. Hope that this helps.
2007-10-08 04:52:14 · answer #5 · answered by bnm0044 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a DNA test before you get worked up about it. Also remember that the two of you weren't together when the baby was conceived, so even if it's his, he wasn't cheating on you.
2007-10-04 05:04:08 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't together when he was last with this girl, so why would you leave him? Unless you just don't want to deal with somebody that has a child.
If thats the case leave
2007-10-04 04:58:19 · answer #7 · answered by tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is the baby the problem (if its his) or is it the fact that he would be in contact with his ex because of the child?? only you can decide what to do. it all comes down to love and trust in the end
2007-10-04 05:08:02 · answer #8 · answered by martyn s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't knock her up while he was dating you so stay if you don't mind the financial burden.
2007-10-04 05:05:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay
2007-10-04 04:59:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋