me and my boyfriend have been have sex and i dont know if i am prgant i dont no what to do i want to ask my mom for help but i dont know what she will say or if she will tell my boyfriends parents and if they find out he did it he will get sent to trinidat. should i tell my mom i did do it or should i say i have been having feelings about wanting to do it? i know its good to be honest about it but its so akward and hard
2007-10-04 04:31:50 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
without a doubt tell your mom - this situation could only get more complicated if you hide it
2007-10-04 04:48:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
This IS an awkward and hard situation to deal with. A lot of times, keeping it secret makes it worse. Why don't you do two things:
1. Let your mom know you've been having sex.
2. Get a pregnancy test and find out for yourself (privately) if you're pregnant.
Doing both of these things will help relieve you of the terrible anxiety you have, so that you can clear your head and deal with the results of the test, one way or the other.
2007-10-04 11:37:15 · answer #2 · answered by nora22000 7 · 4⤊ 3⤋
The main thing you should be worrying about is not who will find out, but whether or not you are pregnant. You say yourself that you do not know, and anytime you have sex, you run that risk.
I would recommened talking to your mom about this. She is probably going to be pissed off, but you need to talk to her so that you are well informed of the decisions that you are making when you decide to have sex.
You also need to get a pregnancy test, to determine if you are pregnant or not, since you are unsure. If you are pregnant, you have no choice but to let your mom know, and yes, then it will all be out in the open.
If you are not ready to handle the responsibilities that come along with having sex, then you should reconsider what you are doing. The risk of pregnancy, STD's, overwhelming emotions, etc. are REAL. If you are unprepared to handle these things (and it sounds to me as if you are) then you should not be having sex. Period.
2007-10-04 12:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
what do you mean help? take a preganancy test get it from any drug store or walmart they dont care. If its negative stop having unprotected sex get on the pill or get condoms. Tell your mom if your pregnant and dont have sex untill you are ready.
2007-10-04 16:17:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are pregnant the truth is all going to come out any ways. So you should honest from the beginning. How late are you? Take a home pregnancy test maybe there is no need to be worried.
2007-10-04 11:58:26 · answer #5 · answered by rcButterfly 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Well, I think you should figure out if you're pregnant or not yet first, then go talk to your mother and tell her about... and I think you should just be open and honest about it if you're going to tell her anything.
2007-10-08 10:33:20 · answer #6 · answered by Mommy! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first you should find out if you are pregnant! well actually it really depends on how old you are... because 16 is the age of consent. If you are really close with your mom then I would tell her. She'll be disappointed but just tell her that al least you told her and didn't try to get it "taken care of" That's really all the advice I can give... Good luck with everything and she should understand!
2007-10-04 11:48:49 · answer #7 · answered by Crazy chick 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
okay, you definitely need to talk to your mom. wouldn't you rather talk to her even with the awkwardness than having to show her the test results??
i know it may be hard, but she'll be pleased that you came to her about it. she won't be jumping for joy that you're having sex, but she'll be happy you confronted her.
in the meantime, abstain from having sex w/ your bf. go to the doctor.
good luck. best wishes.
2007-10-04 20:59:24 · answer #8 · answered by Bee 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't even spell, why in God's holy name are you having sex? You need to stop having sex right now until you are mature enough to deal with an unexpected pregnancy. Are you even using condoms? The youth of America makes me weep.
2007-10-04 13:16:33 · answer #9 · answered by ☆ღWifey Wifeyღ☆ 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Honesty is always the best way to go because the truth will always come out in the end..... Once the lying is revealed they will no longer trust your word.... Be responsible and accountable for your actions... In the long run it will be better for everyone involved...
2007-10-04 13:20:54 · answer #10 · answered by Joey_Pit 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
well what my suggestion is to do is that you take a pregancy test see if you re pregenant and if you are and its getting closer to the birth but not taht close u no what i meen then ask your mum for help on pregnancy becuase she is going to find out so u might just tell her now shell give u advice
2007-10-04 13:19:50 · answer #11 · answered by lucy 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋