did it hurt? was it different?what else do I need to know?
2007-10-04 04:15:53 · 21 answers · asked by kelly 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
holy crap.. i never wanted my hubby to touch me again after i gave birth.. but soon enough.. my dr. recommended 6 weeks because i still had my period, and i had a csection, so i wanted to be comfortable and to make sure it was healed... but im still debating on whether or not i want him to ever touch me again.. i hear it hurts especially when you breastfeed... my son is only 3 weeks, and i dont know if we even have time right now especially since were both super tired...
2007-10-04 18:26:42 · answer #1 · answered by Shawn's mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 weeks and yes it HURT worse then loosing my virginity. I also had an episiotomy and a tear. The best advice is if you tear or have an episiotomy go slow. I would say LOTS of gentle foreplay and LOTS of lubrication. After the first couple of times it started to feel better and now it feels good 4 months later. Its not 2 different. My boyfriend says he cant feel a difference and its not roomier (I was so worried). I think this all depends on the women though. My sister in law didn't rip and it didn't hurt at all when they had sex and they had it sooner then me and my partner did. I also breastfeed so my breast feel a little different during sex. Some people leak but I don't during sex or orgasm. I think the biggest change is my body confidence is a little lower. I would like to keep my shirt on because of my stomach which I hate. My body image sometimes effect the way I feel during sex emotionally but physically its back to the way we were before.
2007-10-04 04:30:34 · answer #2 · answered by lovelylady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to be a little different. It didn't hurt that I can recall. I waited until after my 6 week appt. You don't want to do anything until you are healed. I didn't have any stitches, but I had been swollen and sore.
I know some friends tried at 4 weeks, but it's really not worth it if you start bleeding again or it's painful or you get an infection. You want to make sure you're breastfeeding and using birth control too. So wait until you see your doctor or midwife to get the OK.
2007-10-04 04:20:59 · answer #3 · answered by Lamont 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I waited 3 months because I tried at 6 weeks and it hurt too much. I ripped though while giving birth and had a bunch of stitches. The best thing to do is be totally relaxed. It really feels like the first time again! My husband was really gentle and slow about it. Bless his heart, he was so patient. Just make sure, also, that you have some lubrication because if you breastfeed it can make you feel dry down there.
2007-10-04 04:27:19 · answer #4 · answered by Ava's Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with my first pregnancy I wasnt with anyone for almost a yr because I was a single parent but oct of 05 I got married and had my daughter june of 06. I had sex with my hubby 8 days after I had her. and It didnt hurt. just made me bleed a little bit the next day. I had a great , natural , pain medicine free labor and delivery. I was up and walking around almost like normal the very next day and back to my old self within 4 days. I dont suggest women have sex days after having a baby but the entire time I was pregnant I couldnt stand for my husband to even touch me . So after I had her and all those feelings that I was missing for the last 9 months came rushing back it was hard not to act on them. But that was just me. For some reason unlike my first labor and delivery which was horrible and my recovery time took almost 3 months my second was complete opposite. go figure.
2007-10-04 04:43:39 · answer #5 · answered by adrianne M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 16 weeks old and my husband and I still have not had sex. I am still a bit sore down there. I had an epistiotimy (sp?) and it has been taking forever to heal. It also doesn't help that he isn't home until 10:30 p.m. and by then I am exhausted and not in the mood. Do whatever feels right for you. I would wait at least 4- weeks though.
Good Luck and congrats :)
2007-10-04 06:21:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wanted to do it before our doctor said it was ok. I had a good delivery and I didn't have stiches or tearing or anything. With either of my babies. With my first time I was worried so I waited until about 2 months after..... and got pregnant again. So then when my first turned 1 I was in a hospital having another one. After him I waited the 6 weeks and I felt it was ok and the doctor gave me the go ahead. It didn't really hurt but I thought it would so I was still kinda ify on it.
2007-10-04 04:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by crazy_cat_lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait til you are ready to have sex again and don't be pressured into it. some docs will give you a time that they don't advise it but we got told in my antenatal class by the midwife that some find the whole birth thing erotic and they have sex while still in the hospital (they don't look favourably on that since it is basically a public place!!) and if you tear and have stitches your doc may say 6weeks or so. if that is the case and the doc has put a restriction on when you can have sex again comply with it as you could end up doing yourself some serious damage.
2007-10-04 04:22:50 · answer #8 · answered by Jacqui in aus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had 3rd degree tares & waiting until my six week checkup for the go ahead.
I really think you should wait until the doc says it's ok. Just because you feel okay doesn't mean everything is good, right?
It did hurt & it was very different. But it only took a couple times to get better. I wasn't completely pain free for many months though, and the doc said that was normal.
2007-10-04 04:24:24 · answer #9 · answered by Jennield 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had c-sectons with all three of mine, between that and having a newborn the last thing on my mind was sex, my husband is very understanding it took time to heal and feel normal again I waited over 2 mths, most doctors recommend waiting 6 wks, I wouldn't try till you have your 6 week check up but everyone is individual you will know when the right time is for you...
2007-10-04 05:17:34 · answer #10 · answered by laura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I waited 6 weeks. It hurt a bit because it was more dry. Be sure to have some lube on hand. It takes several months for things to be more normal feeling. It is dry for some reason at first but stops being that way after awhile.
2007-10-04 04:25:12 · answer #11 · answered by ad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋