My mom doesn't want me anymore and is moving?

Question

My parents told me that they're getting a div It's really hard on me because I love them both sooo much. My mom said she;s moving bac to Florida and that I was to stay with my dad for a little while. She took everyone but me. Why? She said it was the best way. I know it's not because she did this to me when I was 9..she left Christmas Eve and didn't come back for a week. I knew where she was at but she said I had to go home. I don't understand. My mom and I are so close but I guess not as close as I thought. SHe means everything to me and I feel so lost when I don't see her smile or laugh, you know? and her beign 13 hours way from me dricving is blah. I'm onyl 15, and I haven't been thorugh much but how do you make it stop hurting?

Answer 1

I'm sure there are factors involved that you aren't seeing. Maybe it's your mom's way of making sure that your dad isn't all alone. Or they may feel like the situation is better for you to stay where you are at right now. there could be a hundred reasons, but you'll never know until you ask them.
As bad as I hate to say it you need to realize that this divorce isn't about you, it's about them. I don't mean for that to sound bad towards you. But the divorce is because of problems your parents have with each other. Not with you.
If you have questions about it, ask them. Your mom needs to know how you feel. It will also make you feel better to get them off your chest.
My parents split when I was 13 and it tore my world apart. my dad and I didn't speak for a couple of years and it wasn't until I was much older that we got close again. He passed away recently and my one big regret is that there was a lot of wasted time that we didn't get to spend together because I was afraid to ask why.

Answer 2

Holly that is a bad buzz. Obviously your mother must believe that she thinks you are strong enough to handle things better then your siblings so has decided that for the time being at least you'd be best to stay with your dad. Divorce is hard on everyone but there are usually reasons that kids don't always know about that this happens. Try and remain positive for not only yourself but for your dad also. He must obviously be hurting too if she did this when you were younger also, so you two may need to lean on each other a lot. Keep in touch with your mom and hopefully when you get a little older you'll better understand why these things have happened in your life. Continue, although it may be difficult, to do well in school and make both your parents proud of the young woman you are and the one that you are going to grow into. Best of luck to you and hopefully the hurting will not last long and you will be able to get on with a normal teenage life.

Answer 3

I'm really sorry to hear that, it must be so hard for you i can't even imagine.
I'm sure your mum loves you so much & cares about you alot also. Some things are done for certain reason in which we don't understand leaving us with a big question mark sometimes ones that we will never know the answer to.
I'm sure your mum has good intentions for you & she probably thinks you staying with your dad is the best thing for you guuys right now.
She probably views you as the more reliable & strong one out of your other siblings in dealing with things.
You said you and your mother were so close,..... you still are don't make this effect the good relationship you see and have with the mother, i'm sure things are so hard right now & the both of you are going through a hard time but she needs your support so much right now.... more than ever, also try be there for your dad.
I'm really sorry for everything.

Your a young beautiful girl and you have so much ahead of you, i know this sounds really hard to do but try really hrd to think of positive things, & try help everyone in your family to be there for each other.

Good Luck with everything & the future.
Your mum loves you.

Answer 4

Unfortunately I don't have the answers to your questions. The only one that does is your mother. For whatever reason she feels like being with her is not the best place for you right now. There could be 100 different reasons. The bottom line is that if she doesn't want you there for whatever reason, you are better off with your Dad.
My advise is to start making a life for yourself. Even though we are supposed to be able to trust and rely on our parents, that isn't always the case. Start doing things right now to make yourself as safe and independent as possible. So when and if it becomes necessary, you will be able to take care of yourself and not need to depend upon anyone.

Education is the most important thing. The better education you get the more able to support yourself you will be. Keeping your grades up so you can get grants and scholarships to go to college. Getting a driver's license as soon as you can will increase your independence dramatically. Getting a job and putting some back for emergency is another way to take care of yourself.

I also think writing a letter to your Mom telling her how you feel may help. Don't do it with the intention that she is going to apologize, explain herself or change her mind because if she doesn't then you will only be more hurt. Do it just to get it off your chest.
Good Luck!

Answer 5

Are you close with your father? Maybe she thought that you are the one who should stay and take care your Dad. He needs someone too you know. Im sure he is hurting as well. Its going to be hard time for a long time but you have to make the best of it. Take care of your father and comfort him in this time of need. He just lost his wife. Be compassionate and dont hate your mother. Ill tell you right now that your mother loves you and she does want you. Dont ever forget that. Maybe she thinks its the right thing for you right now. Are there any activities that you and your father share. Go fishing, thats always fun AND relaxing. Keep your head up and if you need to talk to someone you can email me. I have been through alot more than you can imagine and my mother went through 2 divorces and I didnt know my father until I was 18. [e-mail]. Good luck girl, be strong.

Answer 6

Your mom loves you. And she does want you. But she is just not doing what a parent is supposed to and that is put her needs and wants *after* your child's. I am sure you are loved, though. You have a support from your Dad as well, I am sure you are going to be okay. A good idea also might be to spend the summers in Florida, and when you do seek counseling with your mom. It will help.

**GOOD LUCK & GOD BLESS

Answer 7

Tell her these words exactly, just as you put them. Demonstrate your truest feelings, because if that doesn't help her, try convincing dad to do the same.

Usually a frustrated parent says things that they don't mean.

If that don't work, take the drive, it'll keep you guys in touch. Call frequently.

Just because she's moving doesn't mean that you lose her. My mom lives a 23 hour drive from me (I'm in MA, she's in FL). If it makes her happy, does that count???

Answer 8

you need to talk to her and explain how you feel.
also are you close to your dad try and get closer to him and develop a better relationship. all this has nothing to do with you its just your parents don't get along. hang in there you will be fine.

Answer 9

You need to tell your mom exactly how you feel, right now.