What is the meaning of "love"?

Question

Is it something that 2 ppl imagine exists between them, or is it something that truly exists above and beyond them?

Answer 1

We've heard songs about it, seen it in the movies, heard it talked about on Oprah by relationship experts, and read about it in thousands of self help books. But, what is unconditional love? We all want to feel loved. We think about it, hope for it, fantasize about it, go to great lengths to achieve it, and feel that our lives are incomplete without it. The lack of unconditional love is the cause of most of our anger and confusion. It is no exaggeration to say that our emotional need for unconditional love is just as great as our physical need for air and food.

It is especially unfortunate, then, that most of us have no idea what unconditional love really is, and we prove our ignorance with our horrifying divorce rate, the incidence of alcohol and drug addiction in our country, the violence in our schools, and our overflowing jails.

Our misconceptions of unconditional love began in early childhood, where we saw that when we did all the right things—when we were clean, quiet, obedient and otherwise “good”—people “loved” us. They smiled at us and spoke in gentle tones. But we also saw that when we were “bad,” all those signs of “love” instantly vanished. In short, we were taught by consistent experience that love was conditional, that we had to buy “love” from the people around us with our words and behavior.

So what’s wrong with conditional love? We see it everywhere we look, so what could be wrong with it? Imagine that every time you pay me fifty dollars, I tell you I love you. We could do that all day, but at the end of the day would you feel loved? No, because you’d know that I “loved” you only because you paid me. We simply can’t feel fulfilled by love we pay for. We can feel loved only when it is freely, unconditionally given to us. The instant we do anything at all to win the approval or respect of other people—with what we say, what we do, how we look—we are paying for the attention and affection we receive, and we can’t feel genuinely loved.

A NEW DEFINITION OF LOVE: REAL LOVE

There’s only one kind of love that can fill us up, make us whole, and give us the happiness we all want: unconditional love or true love. It is unconditional love that we all seek, and somehow we intuitively realize that anything other than that kind of love isn’t really love at all—it’s an imitation of the real thing.

Unconditional love—true love—is so different from the kind of love most of us have known all our lives that it deserves both a name—Real Love—and definition of its own: Real Love is caring about the happiness of another person without any thought for what we might get for ourselves. It’s also Real Love when other people care about our happiness unconditionally. It is not Real Love when other people like us for doing what they want. Under those conditions we’re just paying for love again. We can be certain that we’re receiving Real Love only when we make foolish mistakes, when we fail to do what other people want, and even when we get in their way, but they don’t feel disappointed or irritated at us. That is Real Love (true unconditional love), and that love alone has the power to heal all wounds, bind people together, and create relationships quite beyond our present capacity to imagine.

WHAT WE DO WITHOUT REAL LOVE: IMITATION LOVE

If we don’t have enough Real Love in our lives, the resulting emptiness is unbearable. We then compulsively try to fill our emptiness with whatever feels good in the moment—money, anger, sex, alcohol, drugs, violence, power, and the conditional approval of others. Anything we use as a substitute for Real Love becomes a form of Imitation Love, and although Imitation Love feels good for a moment, it never lasts and never gives us the feeling of genuine happiness that Real Love provides.

Most people spend their entire lives trying to fill their emptiness with Imitation Love, but all they achieve is an ever-deepening frustration, punctuated by brief moments of superficial satisfaction. All the unhappiness in our lives is due to that lack of Real Love and to the frustration we experience as we desperately and hopelessly try to create happiness from a flawed foundation of Imitation Love. The beauty of Real Love is that it ALWAYS will eliminate our anger, confusion, and pain. So how do we find this universal cure?

Answer 2

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Answer 3

What is the meaning with water? Love can be many things just as water, solid, flowing, vapor, hot, tepid, cold ... If you want to find the meaning of love you have to understand that it's just as complexed as finding the meaning of water in all its forms. And for even more complexity, you have to remember that love is a feeling and that you can never be fully sure that your feeling of love is the same as another persons feeling of love, no matter how much you discuss it and try to put it to words.

My opinion:
Love is a personal feeling, there is only one person in the world that can feel it the same way that you do. You. Love is a feeling of a greater connection than being friends or belonging to a group of relatives. The benefits of feeling love is that you are more likely to open up and connect to the person, building a new relation, and strengthening your social network. The feeling of love is not static, it's dynamic and it changes over time, sometimes slowly and sometimes very fast. Feeling love for a person and finding that the person feels love for you will make you act in ways you wouldn't normally do. *blushes*

I love him and he loves me. End of story? No. Since the feeling love is personal there is no way of telling what the other person feels is love and what they want out of it. In a loving relationship the feeling is a little bit like the tennis ball being bounced back and forth. I love that he said that and I let him know it makes me feel love for him. I loves the feeling of being loved and the next time I do something that makes him feel his love for me he bounces the ball back to me. (I don't think you can find a loving relationship where the ball isn't bounced back and forth in one way or the other. Not necessary by words, but also by actions.) If you drop the ball and neither of you tries to pick it up again, there will be no love at the end. The End.

To sum it all up: Love is like water tennis, you better keep on moving or you'll drown. ... Eh... or something like that.

Answer 4

Love is the act of considering the self interest of another as though it were your own.

It is what allows us to from couples, groups and nations.

Forget the above and beyond. Love is a very real thing that helps us in the here and now.

Answer 5

Love is above and beyond two ppl getting together.The truest definition thereof is self sacrifice for another individual. When you are willing to be killed on another persons behalf.

Answer 6

According to Robert Sternberg's research, "Love" is an emotion consisting of three components: intimacy, passion & committment.

Intimacy, the feeling close and connected to someone (developed through sharing and very good communications over time). Intimacy is what makes you want to share and offer emotional and material support to each other.
-Intimacy alone is Liking (true friendship without passion or long-term commitment)


Passion, the feeling physically aroused and attracted to someone. Passion is what makes you feel "in love" and is the feeling most associated with love. It also rises quickly and strongly influences and biases your judgment.
-Passion alone is Infatuation (passionate, obsessive love at first sight without intimacy or commitment)

Commitment, pledging to your self and each other to strengthen the feelings of love and to actively maintain the relationship. Commitment is what makes you want to be serious, have a serious relationship and promise to be there for the other person if things get tough.
-Commitment alone is Empty Love (decision to love another without intimacy or passion)

Romantic Love: Intimacy & Passion, no Commitment
-Lovers physically and emotionally attracted to each other but without commitment
-“As in a summer romance”

Companionate Love: Intimacy & Commitment, but no Passion
-Long-term committed friendships or a marriage in which the passion has faded
-I love you but I’m not IN love with you

Fatuous Love: Passion & Commitment, but no Intimacy
-Commitment based on passion with without time for intimacy to develop
-Shallow relationship such as a whirlwind courtship

Consummate Love: A complete love consisting of all three components

Answer 7

yes love actually exists. lot of people have the tenmdncy to dismiss love as unrealistic. but true love does exist, but the thing to point out is love can sometimes disappear as readily as it entered.

Answer 8

Its just a way you feel around another person. The way you lose your breathe when you talk or how you feel lost when you don't talk. Its just something that happens before you even realized its occurred.

Answer 9

i think it's an unconditional, positive and unselfish regard/concern for another person's happiness and well-being that you place above/as more important as your own...whether romantic or platonic

Answer 10

... it is something that truly exists in them whether you believe it or not.