Next year ('08) is when my husband and I are going to try (due to health reasons) and I was wondering is it worth it to tell people if they're only going to keep asking, "Are you pregnant yet?" They ask me that now! I honestly don't feel it's anyone's business. I was just wondering what other women think.
2007-10-04 02:06:28 · 11 answers · asked by Jellybean had her little bean 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
My hubby and i just started to try back in August. I personally do not want everyone to know. It's already stressful enough while TTC when it doesn't happen right away. We definitely don't want other's asking about it everytime we see them. Besides, it's something nice for us, like a little secret.
2007-10-04 02:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I told only those that I know would pray for us. So of course we told our parents and my grandma and a couple of close friends. But no we didn't announce it to the world. You are right about people already asking before ttc. We have been married 4 1/2 years and after one year people started asking and they haven't quit. We are now on our 15 month ttc and it is really hard not to slap those people that don't even know we have been trying so long but ask everytime they see us. I will never ask that to anyone because you never know if a couple has been told they cant conceive or maybe they have been ttc.
2007-10-04 02:42:08 · answer #2 · answered by HONEYB1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a very open person. Everyone around us knows that we're Tc. We've been battling for 2 yrs now, and it gets really stressful! It is nice to know that there are people there to support you.
I am very thankful for everyone around me, rallying around with a kind, supportive word or deed. If I didn't have the support group I've got, I wouldn't be in the positive state of mind that I'm in.
They are there every step of the way, through every negative hpt, every day of Clomid and Provera. Through good and bad.
I must say though, that we didn't tell people from the get-go. After about 6 months it started coming out when we started getting questions such as 'When are you planning to have children?' or ' Aren't you pregnant yet? Why not?' etc. That hurts like hell!
It is, after all, your decision whether you want people to know or not.
I really hope you don't go through what we're going through!!! Good luck!!!
2007-10-04 02:21:15 · answer #3 · answered by Ethan-Mikyle's Mommy! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We did not tell anyone and we did not want to tell anyone. You are right it is no one's business and if you do tell you will get alot of questions.
I only told my two best friends.
We were forced to tell a few more people when I miscarried and I was still a bit dissappointed that they knew and worry that they will start asking in a few months if I am pregnant.
2007-10-04 02:11:48 · answer #4 · answered by A***n G 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm not telling people. However, i have let it slip to one or two friends, not making a big deal about it, but if i really need to talk to someone, then i have someone i can talk to. (Yahoo answers has been helpful though, so thanks every one).
Generally, if you tell your family, then they will ask more often, and then they will know each month you've 'failed' to conceive. I would feel like everyone was judging me, or pitying me if they knew.
And besides, it's a personal choice between you and your partner, it's nice to have this secret that only you two share.
2007-10-04 02:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by A derka der 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have only really told close family members....that is my mum and sisters and his siters and two very close friends. These people willl be encouraging you instead of judging you. Only tell people who are really close to you because you need someone to talk to when you are not pregnant month after month...but good luck though. been trying for 7 months now
2007-10-04 05:51:08 · answer #6 · answered by Mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes we did right when we decided to start trying - back in '05. I really regret it now because people are always asking us and throwing their babies in our faces saying 'boy don't you want one of these!' and other rude comments that are really hurtful. I wish we had kept it a secret. Now everyone thinks we have fertility issues and all that stuff.
2007-10-04 02:15:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't .... then you'll get those comments like "oooh are you gonna get busy tonight?" ..... Ugh, how humiliating. I don't think it's very classy for people to know things about your bedroom. Carry yourself with dignity and say, "As soon as God blesses us with a child you'll be the first to know."
I can't see Jackie O ever announcing she's laying her husband nightly to get pregnant. (sorry for the bluntness of the analogy)
2007-10-04 06:06:15 · answer #8 · answered by redslippers 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was told that smoking green lowers the sperm count, but afterf doing my own crazy research and just observing all the people in the hood that smoke...they have more babies, and constantly have babies so I really doubt it impacts it that much. ALL the baby dust your way!
2016-05-20 22:08:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO cause everyone is going to ask you:"has anything happened yet?" and then it puts more pressure on you.
It makes it much more stressful
2007-10-04 02:10:36 · answer #10 · answered by dex 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋