teenage pregnancy ... pregnant at 16, can/should it be done, and how? HELP please !!?

Question

I'm sixteen (seventeen in November) and am waiting on my period. It was due at the end of the month and hasn't come around yet. The HPT's don't read positive yet, so until I know for sure I'm just waiting for my period. If it doesn't come by next month, I will have to face reality, make a Dr.'s appointment, and tell my parents. My mother has told me from DayOne as she likes to say, that if I ever got pregnant I would be out on my butt. My father thinks it's the worst thing in the world that could happen to me. My boyfriend is very, very supportive (he's 19, 20 in November) and thinks we can do it, it will be hard obviously but we can do it. There are many pregnant girls around 17 in my town, but I don't want to be stuck! I plan to go to college and get my degrees, and I don't want to let a baby stand in the way. I would never consider abortion- I'm ProChoice but it just isn't a choice for me- and adoption would be a nightmare. I know it's possible, but is it probable? Positive answers?

Umm yeah, I live in MA and it is not against the law, it is not RAPE by any means. Thanks for being imbeciles. We are in a committed relationship and will/are taking responsibilities for our mistakes. I am already enrolled in nightschool and will recieve my degree/GED next December. From there I can go to community college for 2 years, and then a state school after. For the idiots who told me I shouldn't have "dun" it, NO ****!! But I did, and this is the consequence. I believe any child will flourish with loving and responsible parents. For the ones who give support, thank you.

Umm yeah, I live in MA and it is not against the law, it is not RAPE by any means. Thanks for being imbeciles. We are in a committed relationship and will/are taking responsibilities for our mistakes. I am already enrolled in nightschool and will recieve my degree/GED next December. From there I can go to community college for 2 years, and then a state school after. For the idiots who told me I shouldn't have "dun" it, NO ****!! But I did, and this is the consequence. I believe any child will flourish with loving and responsible parents. For the ones who give support, thank you.

ADDED- I didn't give any "thumbs down", nor do I know how. Idiot.

Answer 1

You answered your own question. You said you would not have an abortion nor would you put a child up for adoption so that means you would keep your pregnancy and will have to move out of your parents home into your own place and get a job. It will be hard but you can do it if you try.
Good luck

Answer 2

Look, it's like this. Your young and stupid, not to offend you or anything but in today's world there is no reason to be having unprotected sex at your age with someone that is that much older than you. I believe your boyfriend is supportive because if he isn't he's looking at some serious jail time. Now on to the science. As you are sexually active this can mess with your periods quite a bit. And the fact of the matter is women get pregnant and miscarry all the time and never know it , it just seems like another period and a lot of times HPT's will never pick up the hormone. So my advice is don't freak yet. If you are pregnant calmly go to the doctor. They can't tell your parents anything without your permission. Get all your facts first then do what you have to do accordingly. I hope I didn't offend you but if this is a scare please let it be a lesson learned. Good Luck

Answer 3

It's going to be very hard for you if you don't have a supportive family - but you never know if your family will step up once it becomes a reality. No parent likes to think of their teenage daughter getting pregnant - but very few parents actually would throw her out of the house if that happened.

But it sounds like you have already made up your mind. Abortion is not a choice for you (good for you) and you think adoption wouldn't be a good choice either. You just have to fight for what you want. But, I urge you to spend some more time thinking about adoption, and whether or not you really think it would be the best thing for you and your baby.

I also think it'd be a good idea to go to a crisis pregnancy center (one that is pro-life, so they don't put abortion in front of you as an option - they are usually listed in the phonebook under "abortion alternatives" or something like that, or you can search online). They can help you get maternity clothes and baby stuff, and maybe even help you find a place to live if it comes down to that. They can also discuss parenting and adoption with you and help you make the best decision for everyone.

Good luck.

Answer 4

You know, there's no law against women with children going to college. It's harder that way, but it can be done. I don't know where you live or if you could move to attend university, but I know that the state universities here in Wisconsin have child care available (for a fee) on campus for students who need it. Financial assistance is available for students who need it (my niece just finished her BS and had grants all the way through to pay for much of it) and as a young mom, you likely would qualify for something. I hope it turns out that you are not pregnant, and if so, you may want to reconsider your decision to be physically involved with your boyfriend before you're really ready to be a mom (since, as someone else here pointed out, no bc is 100%), but if you are, you will need your education. Finish high school, and talk to your state university about going to college.
Editing to add:
I'm sorry; I must not have understood what you were looking for. Were you wanting to know if it's possible to be pg and still have a negative hpt? Yes. Were you asking if a 17 year old can be a mom? Yes. Would a baby "tie you down"? Absolutely, but there are compensations for the loss of freedom....tiny hands holding you, the first time the baby plants a kiss on you, the joy of watching them learn and develop....I could go on. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

Do what YOU and your partner feel is right. If your parents won't support you, then you're best off on your own anyway. Family is supposed to back you up on your decisions no matter what, and it sounds like your boyfriend and you are trying to be as responsible as possible. HANG IN THERE. It's good to keep the baby even if you're young, because you seem like you're willing to make it work and at least you have a partner that cares. If you do what makes you happy, you'll have no regrets... your parents will just have to get over it. You can still go to college, and succeed just fine, it'll just take a lot of balance and sacrifice. Women and Men do it all the time, and graduate with flying colors, because they're dedicated, and don't blame the baby for their shortcomings. It wont' be easy, but it can and will be done! My high-school salutorian was a mother at 15, and she had straight As because she applied herself and dedicated herself to her academics.

Hang in there!

Answer 6

If You are pregnant , I am glad to see that have the good sense and love to put the baby up for adoption.
You sound as if you are thinking about your life and the life of a possible child.What you decide is truly up to you now .
I can't imagine a parent tossing a child "out on your butt"
I think the "telling' them of your possible pregnancy will be -stormy- and emotional. If this is what happens, stay calm.
let them go through all of the emotions and feel all of the feelings.
You have made up your mind, I believe you are right .
If you find out for sure that you are pregnant, seek out some advice from social or religious organizations,about placement and a place to stay--be prepared for things to go either way with your folks.
Once again -allow them there reactions and to express feelings, You know the difference between "spouting off" and abuse. You do not have to tolerate abusive behavior from anyone .

Answer 7

As I comprehend it, perishing means the 2d dying. not many communicate approximately it in that factor era, however the Bible does; Examples: Revelation 2:11 He who has an ear, enable him pay attention what the Spirit says to the church homes. He who overcomes is merely not injury in any respect via the 2d dying. Revelation 20:6 Blessed and holy are people who've section interior the 1st resurrection. the 2d dying has no capability over them, yet they are going to be priests of God and of Christ and could reign with him for 1000 years. Revelation 20:14 Then dying and Hades have been thrown into the lake of hearth. The lake of hearth is the 2d dying. Revelation 21:8 however the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, people who prepare magic arts, the idolaters and all liars—their place would be interior the fiery lake of burning sulfur. it fairly is the 2d dying." So the two you're coated and so wont go through "2d dying", which to my know-how is perishing, or you at the instant are not. so a ways as what occurs to somebody who suffers the 2d dying, it fairly is the place i seek for that: Revelation 20 10 And the devil, who deceived them, grew to become into thrown into the lake of burning sulfur, the place the beast and the fake prophet have been thrown. they are going to be tormented day and night for ever and ever. So this is a conscious, eternal torment as I comprehend it. it fairly is not falling asleep or being blind to the soreness.

Answer 8

Any time you have sex, you take the chance of getting pregnant. I would wait another week then take another test. If you are and you don't want it, please give it up for adoption. Adoption may be a nightmare for you but wouldn't you rather give you baby a chance at a great life than keep it then keep it and be unhappy for any reason? Give the baby a chance. There are so many people out there who would love to have a baby of their own and can't. If you aren't ready to be a parent, you should have used more than one type of birth control. If you're not pregnant, please get on birth control if you aren't using anything to prevent it. If you have seen other girls around your age who are pregnant, why would you put yourself in that position? You are so young. You've got plenty of time to have children of your own. Finish school, go to college, get a job, get married, and then consider having a baby when you are ready for it.

Answer 9

You sound like a pretty strong girl who is pretty smart. Everyone makes mistakes, if your boyfriend is supportive and you make smart decisions than i think you will be fine. Don't get me wrong, raising babies is very hard. I am 26 with three kids and a step-daughter and i had my first one when i was 17. You can do it, with help of course.
Good luck to you and the babies daddy!
(Don't let negative people influence you)

Answer 10

Well if you are preggers looks like your life is pretty much over if abortion is not a choice for you. College will be on the back burner for a long time and as far as graduating high school...good luck at getting your GED. Hopefully your folks do not press charges on your boyfriend. Ever heard of statutory rape? If you are good luck. If not...hopefully you are a little smarter about sex in the future and use your head. Sorry it is hard to feel anything but pity for you at this point. You made a bad choice and now you must deal with the consequences.