i still live with my parents, financially, i am not where i should be and we are both christians so the church won't be too proud.........but both of us want the baby....some good genuine advice needed!
2007-10-03 23:57:21 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Remember God knew you would be here at this time in your life . God will also supply all of your needs. As far as the Chruch goes who has the right to judge you no one. You are not the first and you won't be the last in this situation. Others just may not be as strong as you are to proceed with having a Child. You will be used as a Blessing through out this Journey in your life. No matter what happens God will get the Glory. You stay Strong! God Bless you and yours.
2007-10-04 01:21:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are both sure you want this baby, please don't abort. The regret you may feel down the line is far worse then the financial struggle now. If you truly can't handle the baby, please consider adoption. I'm not sure that it's an easier choice emotionally, but you'll make another couple happy and know that your child is growing up somewhere safe and sound.
For me though, in your situation, I'd keep the baby. It will be a struggle for a while, but it will get easier, and having children is so rewarding! I've been there, by the way. I was married at 21, pregnant at 23, and about 8 weeks before I was due, my husbands job closed its doors without warning. We ended up moving in with my mom 6 weeks prior to my daughters birth and lived with her until my daughter was about 18 months! It's a few years later now (she's 6) and we're on our own, on our feet, and eagerly awaiting the arrival of the next one in a few weeks.
Good luck to you.
2007-10-04 01:05:54 · answer #2 · answered by Snoopy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I first fell pregnant at the age of just 16! I had no job, no money and still lived with my parents. Im 21 now and my beautifull daughters are 4 and 2. My 4 year old just started school in the September! I am so proud of my girls. Although their father and i are no longer together he has them stay at his monday till wedensday and every other saturday. The girls love the way it all works out. I work 25 hours a week to provide for my family & i can still have occasional nights out! Having a baby is not the worst thing in the world no matter what your age. As long as you can care for them, love them, protect them & provide them im sure you will be fine. However the choice is yours but please remember there are good things about being parents & dont just look at the bad things. Maybe right down a list of the positives & negatives & try and work from that.
I wish you all the luck in the world no matter what your desicion.
2007-10-04 00:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not abort a baby for financial reasons or for what other people would think of you. If in your heart you feel the right thing for you and this baby is 2 abort, then do it, but if u feel u want this baby, even a slight feeling, then DONT DO IT. you will regret it for the rest of your life if you are not sure about it. A baby most importantly needs love not material things. Of course they need some kind of shelter clothin, etc but im sure you would have help from family friends, parents even? Good luck, hope you make the right decision,
xx
2007-10-04 00:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by Mya G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want the baby and you think you can support it then go for it. However it is a huge committment to care for even one child. It will completely change your life - you have to fit in with the baby not the other way around. If you think you're not emotionally or financially ready, then abort. I wouldn't give a damn what the church thinks. It's not the church (or the bleeping right to lifers) that will be the ones responsible for the child.
2007-10-04 00:08:08 · answer #5 · answered by The Kelda 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the church ain't proud...screw them! If they're Christians they will help you in any way possible. If they don't then go to a church where REAL Christians worship.
Did Christ condemn anyone? Even the adulteress? NO!
You have only two choices.
1) Keep the baby.
2) Put it up for adoption.
God bless you and your baby. May He give you strength and wisdom for this decision, Amen.
Love, Dave.
2007-10-04 00:04:26 · answer #6 · answered by wroockee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
since your christian you know the answer is to not abort. the church will shun you worse if you abort.
the church views abortion as murder. you make the choice to lay down and have sex. you made the decision right there to be mature and accept what happened as a result of having sex
suck it up and have the baby, the church in time will accept the baby and love it, i know because this happened to me. the dad also married me
tell your parents and get prenatal care
2007-10-04 00:02:28 · answer #7 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the church would be MUCH MUCH less proud of you if you aborted a baby rather than giving it a chance at life.. regardlesss of your financial situation.. God has a funny way of rewarding you in ways you may not notice or don't expect for doing his will.. which his will would be to let the child live.. whether you give it up for adoption or raise it yoourself..
2007-10-04 00:07:26 · answer #8 · answered by Mande 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want the baby then abortion probably is not a good idea as you will more than likely regret it after, there is help out there for you in these situations so speak to somebody you trust and your doctor and they will point you in the right directions of where to get it.
but this decision is one you need to make on your own, we can advice you but its your decision not ours and definaltly not the churches
2007-10-04 01:02:17 · answer #9 · answered by allielea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first thing if your a "good" christian then abortion shouldnt even be on your mind, abortion is murder! and if your parents and church love you like they say they will support you and your baby! dont worry about it, have the baby and enjoy him or her! if your church family is anything like mine they will try and help anyway that they can! my church collects baby clothes, diapers, and alot of other things needed to raise a healthy baby!
you'll get threw this! if god sisnt want you to have this baby then you would have had a miscarage, have the baby and enjoy it!
GOOD LUCK
2007-10-04 00:45:07 · answer #10 · answered by Inanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋