the relationship with the inlaws is ALWAYS VERY DIFFICULT INSPITE OF PUTTING IN YOUR BEST YOU CAN NEVER MAKE A PLACE LIKE the daughter in the house
2007-10-03 23:29:54 · 17 answers · asked by chill_out 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it is vice versa too......do u feel exactly the same way about ur inlaw like u feel about ur parents the answer is no.....it cannot be that someone can replace or take the place of our parents in our lifes.....ouir parents bring us up love us unconditionally and the bond is so unique similarly even for ur inlaws the same thing applies nobody can come in and replace their daughter....be content if they treat u right and not unfairly relations cannot be replaced but a new and long lasting one can always be formed.........
2007-10-04 00:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by sasha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the relation with inlaws like a daughter for a daughter inlaw will be possible only when the mother in law become a mother, and all other members of the family will become like too, actually it's very difficult but not impossible, take a chance to make them so, and hope u 'll get ur goal soon, Good Luck...
2007-10-04 07:42:32 · answer #2 · answered by Kan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I must say in-laws can be a handful...usually the case is they feel you are not good enough for their son, daughter, brother or sister...other times they might not really mean what they say or do but I reacting subconsciously because they feel you have come to take their relation away from them. Just hang in there and for the sake of your spouse love and respect them...tell them how you feel and explain that you would like to be treated better. Communication always goes a long way.
Hope that made sense.
Don't give up on them they'll learn to accept you.
2007-10-04 06:43:30 · answer #3 · answered by folake i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also don't have any idea, why most in-laws give such a tough time. My in-laws are also awsome. My father in-law was appearently very sweet to me as I was earning my own money (graduate student in USA). Then my father unexpectedly died and was extremely under mental stress I was chatting with my father-in law and I just said to him, I am very depress becaouse of my father and want to quit my studies( means also no salary) for a short while, He remained silent and did not say any thing to me . But said to my husband find a lawyer and divorce her. He only become calm when my husband said to him that I have my own funds from my father ( which is true). So I don't know how one can respect such in-laws.
2007-10-05 01:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by cute-pie25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is to accept that they are relations made by law.You have no choice here.Your outlook should be " no expectations, lesser pain".Why do you want to make a place in the house equivalent to that of the daughters?.Just go about doing your duties and learn to please yourself first and then others.Have a generally broad and balanced outlook and see if you find some good points in them which will allow you to compromise a bit and adjust to the negative ones..
But dont lose your self respect in the bargain.
2007-10-05 01:48:02 · answer #5 · answered by Queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before putting this question, you had to make a self analysis of the following:
- Is it difficult for you to handle them or they find difficult to handle you?
- Whether you can love other's child with the same intimacy that you are giving to your own.
- Whether you are jealous of your partner mingling with your in-laws in a manner that is above your expectation.
If you find answers for the above queries, you will find it why they are still feeling strangers to you
2007-10-04 07:51:37 · answer #6 · answered by Surettan S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its for d simple reason that blood relations r made by law of nature and in-law relatives r made here by us.
Well still if all involved have genuine understanding and respect for each other...relation can b maintained at very good tune...infact better than blood relations...in some cases...
Keep Trying..All d Best !!!
2007-10-04 06:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by rahul_ch85 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not feel defeated. Keep on doing your Best towards your in-laws. A time will certainly come when your sacrifices are recognized and you become more important than their son also in the family.
2007-10-04 07:01:28 · answer #8 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya it is difficult...but i feel its both ways...there will remain some degree of difference between our own parents and in laws...especially fr a girl...also, parents of a boy find it difficiult to lose control of his life that too to a girl who is an outsider for them...in most of the cases!
if you speak up against something, you will be considered an outsider and if you speak in favor of things...its your duty to do so...
well even i fail to understand but i guess...things do improvge after say 20 yrs of marriage...most important thing is ur hubby shud give you importance, his parents will follow him if they are not in the mood to ruin his life!
All the best,...fight to get the status goes on....
2007-10-05 01:00:58 · answer #9 · answered by GJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With some in-laws, you won't be treated as a daughter, with some, you will. Blood sticks with blood. Don't try to hard to fit in. If your in-laws are difficult, don't press, don't push, be yourself and don't be bullied. People are who they are, they don't change because we may not like who they are.
2007-10-04 09:57:38 · answer #10 · answered by grace95838 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋