I have grew up without a father in my life. The only men I grew up around are my uncles and my cousins but I'm not really cose to them. I'm not really close to anyone. I have went out with this guy who was from Africa, At first he treated me very well until he pressured me into sex. After I gave myself to him he still me okay until our six or seventh month that we were toghether he stop calling me and seeing me, Then I met several other guys who just wanted me for sex. Then I had a guy who was a really good friend to me. He started liking me and I had liked him too but we never got together. Now I'm with a guy that my mom does not like. My boyfriend is poor, has a GED but he is not in school. He sometimes put me to the side to be with his friends but he still calls me every day. I had messed up in our relationship because I had kissed my old friend which he is not my friend any more. But we got back together and now I really trying but he thinks about his ex from time to time. Help Me
2007-10-03 22:03:07 · 7 answers · asked by tmoneybutterfly85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you were my daughter I'd say to you - The greatest need of human beings is to be "accepted".
The hardest "acceptance" to gain is of "yourself".
Once you accept yourself, you don't put acceptance into the hands of others (this includes family) and therefore only chose partners who respect your worth.
Having a father may help you to love/accept yourself but it's you're spirit within that will ultimately guide you in your journey. (Don't just run with your spirit tho'. Your brain is there to keep you safe as well). Test boyfriends intentions when they are in the "friendship" stage so you don't get hurt. Leave them if they don't respect you as you do. -
Common male behaviour is to be nice until he gets what he wants and then leave. (Typically thats sex - which just helps him to feel accepted by the girl. Girls do it too but usually allow themselves to feel their emotions whereas guys are taught to be more logical and less feeling).
2007-10-04 01:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by Christian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find this diffcult to answer, i grew up with oiut a dad, and then my mum met a man, who became my dad.
the thing is, he stuck around, and eventually, mum and he broke up.
he is a great father, but a terrible partner, always drinking, going from woman to the next.
i think it is ahrd for a young girl to find a someone who will treat you right, if this has been in your life from the word go.
but at some stage, you need to grow up and realise there is more to life than being treated like s****.
you learn to like your self as a person, and realise you want better things in life.
youcant keep on blaming your father not being in your life. think of it this way, if he was, would you be happier knowig he was a drop kick of a man and a father?
or ould you rather knowing that you turned out great, with out his help, and with out his love and affection all these years.
im not sure how old you are, but i think you need to go and talk to some one and sort out these probs you seem to be dealing with.
2007-10-04 03:14:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a father figure can lead to all sorts of problems, as when I was young I thought all men would be as nice, kind and honest as my father, only to be bitterly dissappointed. I think you just have to learn by experience and sometimes not to let your heart rule your head when you know something is not quite right in a relationship. You can very rarely change someone to be as you want them to be, and if you have serious doubts, then that person is not for you and it will only lead to heartache.
2007-10-03 22:14:46 · answer #3 · answered by Outhval 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seriously need to drop all these bad relationships and work on yourself before stepping into another relationship, have some love and respect for yourself, once you truly love yourself your next boyfriend will see and feel the same way as you do... excepting anyone that comes along only makes for a bad relationship set some standards of what you want in a relationship and settle for nothing less....
2007-10-03 22:15:19 · answer #4 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it does not. I have a very wondeful father but I still had 4 not so admirable exes.
2007-10-03 22:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by cristina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your looking for a father figure. You find guys who are a little bossy and you do what they tell you to do. Right?
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2007-10-03 22:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by Fade To Black 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no...ppl love who they love...best to think of compatability..
2007-10-03 22:07:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋