This is my second question today, because i've been thinking about this so much lately, though it's not healthy :(. Anyway, I know that I've never been very quick to judge someone. If they do or say something awful, then i might, but otherwise, I've always known that ppl are different, so disliking someone simply because they don't match a certain standard is kind of odd in my opinion. I just want to understand this better, because I often blame myself when ppl pick on me. I don't judge them, so why are they being like that?
My other question is: is it possible that a "bad vibe" from someone might just be jealousy or fear of competition with them because you sub-consciously feel that they might be better than you? Maybe an ego-threat?
I appreciate any answers, thanku
2007-10-03 18:33:12 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I was researching a statistic I heard last year, when I saw your question.
The statistic says 1 in every 4 people, doesn't like us.
Consider all the factors that could contribute to this. They might be having a bad day when they meet us. They could be depressed. We remind them of someone that don't like. We remind them of something about themselves they don't like. They have no idea at all, but just aren't drawn to us.
The thing I like about facing that for all of us 1 in 4 people don't really like us, is that IT ISN"T PERSONAL.
We can choose to be cheerful and purposeful with everyone we meet, but deep down, even now, you are thinking, I like more than 1 in 4 people.
Do you?
Or are there people, you just don't feel drawn to.
It isn't necessarily judgemental. It is more human nature. Like preferring chocolate ice cream over vanilla. Or strawberries more than blueberries.
Next time you feel the vible of someone not liking you, think 1 in 4. Smile at them anyway. Pretend you don't notice.
Learn to walk away and be joyous when you find the 3 out of 4 that do!!
2007-10-05 10:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by Sheila G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how well tuned your instincts are as to whether or not you're actually getting the vibe. Often times, people wont like someone they view as a threat. Or worse, people don't like someone because they display the same traits that the person doesn't like about themselves.
Some people require more energy to be around, so, you might like them just fine, but you don't like to be around them.
It's true that people pick on other people to make themselves feel better. If you ignore it, eventually, they will stop getting the payoff of feeling better, and stop doing it.
With the vibe thing, sometimes it can just be that you've hit the nail on the head. This person is no good (at least no good for you). I went to a business dinner with hubby one time, and i met one of the managers there. i said to hubby later that i didn't like this man, and i found him to be rude, condescending, and selfish. I didn't think he cared about anyone but himself. And certaintly didn't care about my hubby's and his workmates' jobs. I was SO right. The guy ended up being fired, and the way he reacted afterwards was nothing if not an act of downright sabbotage.
If you've got the heeby geebys from someone, you should be very wary of that person.
2007-10-03 18:58:33 · answer #2 · answered by A derka der 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great question and deep thoughts!
I can judge someone as to whether they are real, sincere, or fake within the first 5 minutes of conversation. You do not have to be judgmental to come to that conclusion. Body language, eye contact, and verbiage is everything. How people dress and look can fool you! I don't dress how I live...I don't want a lot of people knowing me very well due to privacy issues. So I don't dress the part like I should.
I have known millionaires who live like paupers since it does not mean anything to them or they are senile and have no idea what they are worth.
Some people can fake anything, however they cannot fake the realism of how they carry off a conversation in length. They usually tell on themselves by being easy, uneducated, very educated, illiterate, doped up, etc. You will be able to decipher the tell tale signs with experience. People happen to be creatures of habit. Very rarely will they change their make up of who they are unless they have a life altering experience to make them change to find God for redemption.
2007-10-03 18:53:54 · answer #3 · answered by donna D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agression or fear give off the same vibes --- Watch any dog !. They are even more sensitive than us in that respect , and is the reason so many "frightened" people get bitten, as the animal thinks that it is about to be attacked.
People have 'vibes' which emanate from the different aura's,
(Haloes) .Check out the different colours in the aura's of differering personalities on the stained glass of your older churches. The book by Edgar Casey, explains all about it in exellent detail.
2007-10-11 18:37:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard Oprah talking about this a few years ago and it made sense to me - In every interaction between people the participants unconsciously play a power game to establish pecking order (that's not exactly how she explained it but you get the gist) So when people meet you they are establishing a power level. She went on to say people who feel superior will take little pieces of you over an over (being slowly pecked to death by ducks). If you sit back and observe people you will see it happen- but it can only happen if you allow to happen.
I think it is about ego and sometimes jealousy or maybe even fear/insecurity. I remember this "you teach people how to treat you".
Don't take it personally and be confident when you meet people. There will always be people who don't like us - but hey what do we care if we are good people?
2007-10-03 21:06:06 · answer #5 · answered by flip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is often a reason. you will desire to constantly have faith your intestine ideas approximately human beings. effectual human beings would be effectual, yet people who fairly think of they are effectual are many times volatile and stupid. Being open minded has now no longer something to do with spotting peoples psychoses via skill of there effectual conceal. many situations people who look extremely demanding on the exterior, are an prolonged way nicer and better clever than the phony effectual on the exterior human beings. all individuals likes people who're now no longer propose or egotistical. that's genuinely that some human beings are not to any extent further fooled via using sugar lined BS. ;)
2016-12-28 14:01:39 · answer #6 · answered by rusher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause i am older i have had more experience with people. U can't know ahead what someone is going to be like. It takes years and years. Anyway sometimes those you don't like the first time are those with something special you grow to like.
2007-10-03 18:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess sometimes one feels other person is somehow better them himself; it can be stressful realization and our reactions vary a lot...While some are objective enough to admit their "lesser quality", the others would search for so called "weak points" instead and try to discomfort such a "perfect" individual in order to prove he ( she ) is all but perfect...
2007-10-03 18:43:46 · answer #8 · answered by javornik1270 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instinct...
2007-10-03 19:03:52 · answer #9 · answered by gannoway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
assumptions on what that person is about by the "looks" of the person!
2007-10-03 18:40:43 · answer #10 · answered by Krytox1a 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋