I'm 23 and I'm a horn dog, but it seems like no one else I know is. I lost my virginity when I was 17 and have been sex crazy ever since. Some guys I have met are actually turned off by what they call my "freakiness". lol no joke.
Another thing, it seems when a girl is into sex a lot...that she can't be smart as well. I hate this stereotype. I love guys, i love sex, and I love school/learning/working and being independent. Why can't all these things work hand in hand?
Also, where can I meet more attractive/outgoing/fun female friends? My friends are just ...well they are very sweet...but very conservative and plain, and that's probably another reason I always get labeled as the "wild" one.
Is my behavior destructive? Or, am i the way i am, because I grew up without a father? I know i'm paranoid...but...people have reasons for all types of behavior these days! Help! Thanks. :)
2007-10-03 17:16:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
the reason i question and feel bad about myself is because my ex b/f cut off the sex from our relationship completely, for the last 3months of our relationship. (we broke up about 3wks ago too) he put me down and made sex seem like bad thing (as if it ruins our relationship when we engage in it) and he told me not to touch him or be affectionate with him....he said that "it'll happen when it happens, and to stop forcing it" . It was never my intention to force anything. i loved my ex b/f and just wanted to be intimate with him. But when I really think about his comments and how he brought me down, i believe that his behavior and attitude was more about control/and emotional abuse than anything. I'm sure he enjoyed sex with me...but he wanted to play head games and tear me down, and have complete control. he was a horrible guy. :( anyway...those are my thoughts on it.
2007-10-03 17:45:10 · update #1
No, there is nothing wrong with wanting to have sex all the time. The only problem is how you go about satisfying those needs. If you choose your partner carefully, then there is nothing wrong at all.
I am sorry that others are rude and self-opinionated towards you. Don't listen to people to feel that wanting physical pleasure is wrong. It is a basic need that ALL living creatures share.
That only time it is wrong is when it is used for personal gain, or if you are still a child.
2007-10-03 17:38:54 · answer #1 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to try to hang out with girls that are more on your level sexually so that you can have more fun! The only problem with this is that those girls might try to take some of your "action" away from you whereas your plain girl friends, just want to be your friend. There is nothing wrong with having tons of sex, but just be safe with it. The guys that say you have a freakiness about you are probably a little concerned with your choice of lifestyle....I mean, no one wants to catch anything and if they are seeing you as an extremely sexually outgoing person, well then they know you have been around and they might feel a little skiddish about any approaches from you, whether they are innocent approaches or not. Sex in itself is not a destructive behavior, but you should try to find a partner that can keep up with your needs, and if no one partner can keep up, then maybe a vibrator might help out. I don't honestly think having, or not having a father has anything to do with this.
2007-10-03 17:26:01 · answer #2 · answered by Corona 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what other people think? You are who you are and there's nothing you can do about it, so you might as well be comfortable with it. Maybe those guys in the past were intimidated. Don't worry about them. I'm sure there's other guys out there who are the same as you. If not, there's always the pill - that'll soon curb it. There is nothing wrong with having a healthy appetite. Why would it have anything to do with not having a dad? People are just different in their sexuality. Don't pay attention to the stereotypes. And don't let anyone make you feel bad about yourself. Especially all the bloody puritans that are promising to pray for your eternal soul or whatever. (or the perverts who may well answer this question too)
2007-10-03 17:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
the only thing i can say is i work at a part of social services and i see so many young girls, beautiful girls who are coming in with STD's. even some say the guy wore a condom! this girl came in last week and has hep b and herpes! that was her first boyfriend... have you thought about self esteem issues? maybe you're self destructing and don't know you're doing it. Ask yourself if you're really enjoying the sex or are you doing it to get attention from men. you must partly think that because of your last few sentences. take a closer look at yourself and truly think about it. if you'r really liking the sex, not feeling any more attachment than you should or what's intended, and you don't hate yourself for it... well then i guess who's to say anything? as long as you're not with anyone's boyfriend or husband i mean. i grew up thinking women were ladies and not suppose to be running around like that, but that's ME, not you. you do what you feel is right for you.
2007-10-03 17:24:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Brandi,
A strong sex drive is a positive healthy attribute ! However, I suspect you are not getting the affection you want and deserve, from the men you choose to be with, i.e., you pursue them sexually in a quest for affection. It doesn't work, you need to find an emotionally available man.
Sex, also is a great short term remedy to depression. It is far healthier to engage in sex, than drugs, or alcohol.
Lastly, I have always found intellectual women to be very sexual. Their intellect and knowledge, allows them to dispense with social prejudice.
Larry
2007-10-05 08:23:01 · answer #5 · answered by Larry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha...there is two sides to this. I would say there is nothing wrong (I have plenty of chk friends like this) so long as everytime you get 'busy' you are being 'safe'. So long as you are not targetting married/unavailable men. As long as you are not charging and that you are being honest w/ yourself and they guy you are with.
I think the whole 'impowering' argument is somewhat of a smoke screen...but whatev...
It would be self distructive if every guy you saw you had to jump on. If your ONLY focus in life is to get laid.
Don't get pregnant.
BTW, where do you reside? Lol.
2007-10-03 17:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by PeachJello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it. Most men hate women who won't have sex, so youre pretty well off. You'll find someone. Oh, and it's in no way destructive. Psychologically, the ability to have sex frequently and confidently is actually an empowering and highly valued quality. It means you're sane.
2007-10-03 17:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by Freezerburn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound really normal to me.Likeing sex is not a destructive behavior period.Please be yourself.Likeing sex is just one thing.They are nothing wrong with you.Just a sweet person going thur life.Best of luck in all you do.
2007-10-03 17:31:21 · answer #8 · answered by HyperGforce 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're fine. Just be safe about it and be picky about who you date. You'll find someone that matches your personality. As far as friends, find activities that you enjoy (besides sex) and meet people there. Do you live in a small town? Try moving to a bigger town/city.
2007-10-03 17:25:37 · answer #9 · answered by afk 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you can excel in school and work just fine, have a good outlook on life, and haven't gotten into heavy drugs, I wouldn't call it destructive at all.
Just don't catch anything!
2007-10-03 17:26:49 · answer #10 · answered by James M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋