Im asking the LGBT community, i feel your advice is more helpful. So i think im falling for my organic chemistry professor. Im 19 and hes about 35. I cant help these feelings. Everytime I see him, I get all nervous and i can feel my heart beating faster. I cant stop thinking about him. Im starting to go to his office to talk to him. I think about him all the time. What can i do to stop these feelings!!!
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He makes eye contact w/ me all the time, and asks me to visit him.
hes not married. Seems to me like hes flirting back
I have him for 2 years (3 more semesters!)
2007-10-03 16:48:11 · 4 answers · asked by lost_in_afantasy 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
As someone who did get involved with a professor when I was in college, my VERY strong advice is to not pursue any kind of intimacy with this man. If he is flirting with you, it is completely inappropriate. We get crushes on people who we admire, your crush is completely natural. It's also really great for the ego to have a professor (especially a hot one) pay attention to you. In my case, my professor actually pursued me and I was flattered and ended up being involved with her for several years. It was a terrible mistake, she was controlling, dishonest and manipulative and apparently had had affairs for years with other students. Anyone who abuses their power by dating their students has serious issues (it is unethical, and in most cases professors can be fired for getting involved with students)
The age difference is less a problem than the fact that you are a student and he is your professor.
Go out with boys...or girls...you meet at school or out in the world...stay busy and focus on your school work, friends, hobbies, dating...steer clear of this guy.
2007-10-03 18:45:00 · answer #1 · answered by abiona 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ugh. I really doubt that anything positive can come out of that situation. Let's set aside the fact that you are16 years apart in age... He's your professor. Most universities have rules that their faculty cannot date or have relations with their students. My advice: Find a nice guy your own age and leave the professor to your studies.
2007-10-03 23:55:46 · answer #2 · answered by Zaggy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do to "stop" feeling like that. Some people can latch onto a different person for their "crush", but that's few & far between. It also isn't healthy. I suggest you just keep things in perspective & focus on your classes. If it helps you to pay attention in class, then it can't be all bad.
2007-10-04 00:15:13 · answer #3 · answered by cyanne2ak 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like having an older man is real exciting but doing your teacher is not a good idea. He is almost old enuf to be your dad. He is only playing with u!
2007-10-04 03:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by Samantha W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋