Sister problems...?

Question

long story short.
brother=freshman in college
sister=junior in high school
me=middle school
over summer, parents were gone, parties were thrown with not good stuff happening, my sister befriended my brother's friends. months later, parents leave again, party thrown, brother caught, sister said she wasn't there even though she was with her friend...brother got in trouble, sister not. 2 months later, sister and brother go out when brother comes home for weekend from college, go to brothers friends apartment, go to a party, brother leaves, sister stays, gets caught, and recieves drinking ticket. i was told that i was not allowed to tell anyone because she could get kicked off swim team. now, she has a very strict curfew and is being really bitchy all the time, getting prescribed medcation because shes depressed because shes losing all ofher friends cuz of curfew. im saying all of this because...i really needed to tell someone and pour it out. and this is making me depressed because my si

...sister is being a real ***** to my mom and shes making my mom feel bad... ive never seen her so mad and crying so much, saying she has no friends, this is forcing her to hang with "druggies" its making my already dysfunctional family more disfunctional and its just too much for me to handle. ADVICE?

this is a really big situation for me, but even though i didnt say half of the details, it still sounds like my sister and brother are bad people... which, theyre not. My brother is one of the smartest people but has a phonics learning disability. when he was 9, our doorknob was broken and he took the whole thing and laid it out on the floor, put it all back together and made it work. As for my sister, shes studied abroad, been on the honor roll, takes basically all honors classes, and yeah...I love them both to death and i cry about my brother being gone everyday because they truly are really good people inside, its just high school so theyre bound to screw up... i think my sister's doing better though, she seems happier and shes talking to me more... yeah. thanks for all of the help. i really didn't expect so many great answers.

Answer 1

WOW

Answer 2

Sounds like your parents are gone A LOT. Sounds like the kids are doing all they can to get your parents attention. Family counseling might be helpful but unless the "problems" are acknowledged, no amount of therapy will help. Find counseling for yourself. Mental health issues are evident in your family. Someone in jr. high hanging out with college kids is not a good mix. Your sister is drinking, underage, given alcohol by...?, ticketed, on medication, not good to mix with alcohol; alcohol being a depressant, is a way of self-medicating. Your sister needs professional help but questionable if she would want it. I don't think she recognizes that she has a problem.
Take care of yourself, first. Find the help that you need in dealing with the insanity that seems to surround you. Talk to counselors or a teacher you can confide in. You did the right thing in talking about it. Hang in there. People care.

Answer 3

Be very nice to your mother, she's the one having the hard time. It's easier to give in to your kids than try to make them behave. Good for your mother. Your brother and sister are very immature and don't have much in the way of common sense. Your sister is not losing any friends. Those people you party with are not friends, they are just good timers. Friends would stick with you when you have problems and try to help you out. Sounds like your sister and brother think that partying is the way to go and the heck with the problems it causes everyone else. You're stuck with their problems but then you're the sister and your family so you stick by family-especially your mom. Please learn by their mistakes. I was the younger sister so I saw my sister pull all kinds of stupid things (she thought they were crazy, nope stupid). They didn't get her anywhere so I got a free lesson just like your getting. In life there are rules and choices and consequences. What you do and where you end up is all up to you. Try to do the right thing and you will find yourself in a much better place. When your sister bugs you and is just a pain, remind her that you have to listen to all of it because she had to do some stupid stuff and frankly you are tired of it. You do stupid stuff, you suffer the consequences. And tell her about friends-you know-the ones that stick by you. . .And give your mom a hug. . .she can use it. . .

Answer 4

One;having a curfew,is not something bad,it can work both ways--and as for your sisterbeing forced to hang with druggies,don't you believe that-its her choice to do so-more than likely she is doing it to get attention,but;its not going to give her the attention she wants,her parents love her,she just doesn't see it that way-they wouldn't have given her a curfew,if they didn't-they just want whats best for her-and to show her that the way she is going isn't the right way--plus;she may be down because of the curfew-and her friends may not hang with her because of it-but;that doesn't mean they still aren't her friends,if they treat her like that-then;they never really were her friends,a true friend would understand,and go along with it -A true friend stands by you,through thick and thin,believe me---

Answer 5

People like that generally needs someone to talk to. If you really want to help, catch her in one of her crying phases and pour your heart about the situation and how you feel about it. Explain everything and how you want to be there for her. Explain the consequences of hanging out with certain types of friends. Especially the situation with your mom. If that doesnt help then help her out by making her take her medications. While shes at home being depressed suggest a game that will lift her spirits up. Do small things for her so she wont forget that the real people she needs to hang out with is her family. PRAY!!....Now if all else fails its time for a therapist!!

Answer 6

If a curfew made her lose all of her friends they weren't real friends anyway. Don't you worry about your sister she has more drama to come, Just do your thing and learn from her mistakes what not to do . Life will run smother.

Answer 7

Your sister is mad because she's lost her freedom, and she's trying to control your mother. Your Mom needs to get a handle on it quickly. Tell her to talk to a good behavioral psychologist about this.

Answer 8

ever tough about telling your mom about goin to theraphy that would help

Answer 9

talk with your father or preacher in church or your school counselor....maybe they can help you with a solution

Answer 10

idk if ur christian or whatever but God wont throw anything @ u u can't handle.Look I have lots 2 say but i got 2 leave so [e-mail]