My boyfriend has a temper. He didn't hit me but he goes into these rages where he's screaming at me. Am I in a domestic violence situation and what do I do?
2007-10-03 16:08:37 · 27 answers · asked by Deeva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Screaming isn't domestic violence. But, you should still get out of that situation. He's an [word that will get me reported]
2007-10-03 16:12:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Girl~
You are not in a domestic violence situation. You would be in that situation if he would have hit you - and if he did so - YOU NEED TO REPORT HIM & LEAVE HIM.
Sounds like he has some issues that he needs to work out. When he gets in these rages, obviously dont yell back - just leave the room and let him deal with it. Once he's calm, you need to talk to him about how yelling like that isnt acceptable & is hurting your feelings. If he really loves you he'll quit. If the behavior continues, encourage him to see a counselor or make him pack his bags.
You are strong & don't need someone like that to bring you down. However, if something bad does brew up like domestic violence, you know what the stats are and you know domestic violence occurs in households that you'd never suspect it would happen. If he does hit you - leave his *** immediately.
I wish you the world~
<3 your eGay friend
2007-10-03 23:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by dc friend 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I wouldn't call it domestic violence, but it could lead to that. If he goes into rages, then he's being verbally abusive. Of course, you left out the part about what do you do to instigate it. Do you push his buttons. Anyway, if he's like that and you're scared, why don't you just walk away.
My neighbor went through something similar. She broke up with him...granted she had to file a restraining order, but it worked and he left her alone.
2007-10-03 23:12:47 · answer #3 · answered by CC 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you are in a domestic violent situation. He will start hitting you when the screaming isnt enough. Get out of the relationship.
2007-10-03 23:14:14 · answer #4 · answered by C B 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes you are in a domestic violence situation, you are scared when he gets in these moods, and i am pretty sure he screams demeaning names at you !
Call the police, if it gets too bad.
Or call your local womens shelter, and they will be able to give information for classes you bf to take, if he loves you he will seee how much he is hurtingyou emotionally and will wnat to take these classes so he can evolve into a better person.
2007-10-03 23:14:54 · answer #5 · answered by ashley p 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you are. If the guy can't controll his temper, more than likely he is abusesive. Also it does not have to be physically, but mentally. Also in the long run he may move on to being very volient. So what I advise you to do is to talk to him and see whats bothering him and ask him why he's so angry. But if he keeps it up leave him. No one wants to be yelled yet. I'm sure you can hear just fine.
2007-10-03 23:16:19 · answer #6 · answered by Saljoemike 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Simple answer: YES.
Violence isnt JUST physical. Theres mental abuse too. Him yelling and screaming like that is emotional and mental abuse. you need to get out of that relationship fast and he needs anger management. Dont break yourself down for him. He may be great most of the time but when he gets angry theres no reason that you need to be scared of him or put up with it.
If you live together, you need to move out. stay with parents or friends. If you still live at home just cut it off with him and tell him that he needs to get help before you'd ever consider getting back together.
2007-10-03 23:12:35 · answer #7 · answered by colostomy_punch 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Consider his screaming a warning of worse things that could happen. If I was you and if he's just a boyfriend with no other ties; I'd cut my losses and leave. It'd be so much easier now than later down the road.
2007-10-03 23:20:59 · answer #8 · answered by snowhite 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes you are in a domestic violence situauion it is a matter before he hits you and takes control.GET HIM OUT OF YOUR LIFE NOW
2007-10-03 23:15:48 · answer #9 · answered by lmacman1 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If a person gets enraged and has a temper, he probably is out of control when it comes to anger. these issues are treatable, but the person has to want to accept help. see Anger Management (do a yahoo search).
If it were me, i'd tell him he has to learn to control his anger, and find other outlets beside screaming at me (when he's not angry tell him)... and if he can't do it, or refuses, maybe it's time to break it off.
you could get seriously injured or even killed...
2007-10-03 23:15:25 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋