25 yo adult child living at home. Family consists of me, father, and step-mother. They are having marital trouble, and I feel like I'm stuck in the middle. I don't take sides, but honestly, my dad is right 90% of the time. My mother has some personal issues that we have tried to tell her about, but she denies them and says that it is 2 against 1. They've been to counseling, other family members, but she just won't listen. It is hurting my dad and she is pushing me and him away, but she still denies any problem is with her. I'm at the point where I wonder if I move out maybe they'll get closer, but my dad doesn't want me to move out as he says that me being here gives him some peace, an outlet, and someone to talk to.
2007-10-03 15:55:29 · 3 answers · asked by florita 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your parents should never bring a child,no matter what the age is into problems concerning their marriage. It is hard enough on children of every age to see the parents they love have problems. Your Father needs to find someone else to talk with, this only can bring you heartache with your Mother. Until your Mother is ready to face these issues you or anyone else could talk till they were blue in the face and it will not faze her. If you choose not to move, then for your sake let your Father know you love him, but it is best you two only talk about things besides the problems in his marriage. I wish you the best.
2007-10-04 15:42:15 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As parents of a teenager you know that sex is a possibility. But as a parent you also know what the consequences are and that the teenager is not thinking of consequences. So yes I am disturbed, and worried. If it was a girl I would be disturbed that she is giving herself to some guy with no commitment,(marraige is the ONLY commitment strong enough to warrant giving herself to a man). If it was a son I would be upset that he would treat a girl as an object. In either case there is little you can do about a 17+ old deciding to have sex. But as a parent you know that waiting until marriage is the best possible choice.
2016-05-20 05:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adult or not, stay out of it. It does not concern you. I know it's your parents, but how would you feel if they were in your relationship problems. Let them know that you feel uncomfortable being dragged in. It's not right to have to decide who's wrong, mom or dad. That sucks. Good luck.
2007-10-03 16:03:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋