Is staying faithful really that difficult?

Question

The more I read on YahooAnswers, the more questions I see pertaining to "He cheated...", "She cheated..." or "I want to cheat..."

Blah, blah, blah. Maybe I'm old fashioned. Maybe because I respect my wife. Maybe I don't want to tarnish my honor. For these and many more reasons, I could never cheat on my wife.

Do I have a perfect marriage? Hell no! My wife is a total pain in the a$$ sometimes. I'm sure, I'm and insensative pr_ck too at times. We argue about kids, money, that I work alot, etc., etc.. Would I ever leave my wife? Hell no! I love her to death.

Heck, I figure we're married, it isn't supposed to be a bed of roses ALL the time. Why would I jeapordize everything my wife does for me just for sex?

My wife might be a pain in my a$$ sometimes, but she's MY pain in the a$$. I may be a total pr_ck sometimes, but I'm completely commited to my wife.

WTF is wrong with people?

"Roar" if your faithful!!

Dammit, my vows meant something to me!

You ladies and gents are GREAT! Thank YOU for being true to yourselves and your spouses.

Noone said it was going to be easy, in fact, marriage can be alot of work for both. Acceptance of who we are and why we do the things we do is requires enormous faith to place on anothers plate.

So here I sit and toast you all with my cool, thirst squenching Dr. Pepper. Ah!

"Here's to keeping it real. Here's to wearing your honor on your sleeve with pride. Here's to respecting your partner/companion/spouse. Most importantly though, here's to not ending up on the 'Springer Show'."

Ha! Ha!

FYI, with so many great answers and all deserving, I have no idea how to choose a 'best'.

Now, I must goto bed before MY pain in my a$$ smacks me upside the head for being an insensative pr_ck again!

Muahahahaha!!!!

Answer 1

I totally agree with you. We have turned into a throw away society, and that goes for our marriages too. How sad. Being married is hard work, but it is worth it. I made a commitment and I will keep it, and have kept it for 32 years.

Answer 2

Great question. Like I have told my husband a million time so many of his own friends have put the moves on me and while some may be better looking, more money, and just all around good guys, I took an oath..... I have worked in plants where there were guys who wanted to go out but I am a committed woman. No matter what. It is not that hard. It is the kind of person you choose to be. The woman he messed around with, her husband came to me after we found out and wanted to get together but I said I am married and I am not into getting back at anyone with sex. Sex is between 2 who love each other or it's supposed to be

Answer 3

Not all women are faithful and same thing with men. It is depend on an individual's outlook in life. Your boyfriend is just telling you that he will become unfaithful to you someday. Man is faithful if he truly loves and cares for you or have you heard of a soul mate. If you found your soul mate then the relationship is complete. Yes it is difficult to stay faithful to one girl if he reasoned out like your bf.

Answer 4

You took the words right out of my mouth hon. I often wonder the same thing. Day in and day out it's always the same. They might as well add their own narrative sign that reads "I'm weak of character".

I've been married 18 years. It has not been the euphoric fairytale like I envisioned, but if it were perfect, life would be boring. And as the addage goes "if it were easy, everyone would stay faithful".

Nope, in this day and age it's all about the wedding, the "me me me" and gotta have it nows. WIth that comes the fair share of disasters waiting to happen. So chalk it up as entertainment auditions for a future "Springer" show, and realize how much worse things could actually be. :)

Answer 5

This may be silly but since I quit smoking (successfully this time) over 6 months ago, this analogy really makes sense to me.

Being faithful is a lot like quitting smoking. It's 100% mental. You've simple got to decide not to do it(cheat).

I don't look at men in the same way I look at my husband. For one, it would be disrespectful to the marriage and two, it's allowing temptation in. It's certainly easier to stave away temptation if the door never gets open than when the doors open, you're inside and the opportunity is there.

Answer 6

You know I have wondered the very same thing from time to time. I'm glad that somebody finally asked the question. As far as my opinion on the subject... No it's not that difficult. At least I havent found any difficulty in remaining cheat-free for the last 16 years. Hell we really should form a club for noncheaters! I bet that you would be surprised as to how many of us there are out here, providing nobody is lying about it.

Answer 7

I'm asking myself the same thing. I used to be the most faithful person in the world, even looking at other guys was a sin for me. Now I've changed. I have blamed it on the media of broadcasting that divorce is very common now, so I don't feel as bad. I also blame it on my husband for making me feel like I'm worthless. Then I see others who have cheated and ended up with someone who loves them even more.

I don't know really...I'm one of the f***up ppl you're talking about.

Answer 8

Thank you, thank you, thank you!
I was beginning to think that there's no such thing as a faithful partner, although I've been married 23 years and never even wanted to cheat, from the Q & A here I felt like I was in a very small minority.
Same as you, we've had our ups and downs, our problems, but we're still in it together. Again thank you.

Answer 9

Great question! if only we knew the answer.
I think the sad fact is most people have no honor or respect for them selves or other people. their just caught up in their own selfish desires and delusions.
that fact that we have sex rammed down our throats everyday doesn't help but we are in control of our own actions, even though, it seem most people can blame some one else or some thing for there wrong doing.
in summary most people are pathetic weak minded self important jerks.
good on you and your wife for keeping it real. :)

Answer 10

Unfortunately, some people are too self-absorbed and selfish to care about old fashioned morals and values. All that's important to them is what will give them the most pleasure at the moment.

I don't understand it either. I wish I did.