2007-10-03 14:52:00 · 20 answers · asked by mzell 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
A combination of both, it depends on many things, reason for the separation mostly.
2007-10-04 00:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have some fond memories and also some that hurt very much. If I get on my pity party, I can cry about loves I have lost. My saddest memory is also my best memory.
The person I finally found to be the one, was in a small plane accident in which he was the pilot. He died instantly as well as the passenger (a student he was teaching to fly). I have fond memories but it hurts like crazy to this day. That was 9 years ago.
2007-10-03 17:51:35 · answer #2 · answered by makeitright 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not have fond memories of them at all. For sure not my ex-husband, that was a NIGHTMARE. Now the last bf that I had, I did have fond memories of him after I left him, but that was short lived. Right after I left him, I wanted him to change so bad so that we could get together again. But his own son came to me one day and told me what his dad was doing and had been doing even when we were together. That killed any and all feelings that I had for him. I found out that he had 11 other women out there besides me, and that was while we were still living together at that. Of course he is still seeing other women. I still love his son very much and see him every chance that I get, but not when his dad is around. You see the dad still lets me see the boy.
So no more fond memories of any one with me. I don't even see or date men any more at all. There are just to many of them that likes to cheat. I have always said that I would rather live alone than live with a cheater, so that is what I am doing, living alone.
2007-10-03 15:13:37 · answer #3 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my first love and I were broken up by outside forces 40 years ago. I remembered him for all those years, during which I married, had 2 kids, and got divorced. Same scenario with him. Then 8 years ago, he started looking for me - he found my sister 5 years ago, and she gave him my email address. We corresponded via the Internet for 9 months, and then I went to my home town to see my sister. The rest is history - he was there at the airport, and we have not been apart ever since. We both wish we could have been together all those years, and that our kids could all be "our kids together", but are so happy now, that none of these things can make us sad. We're just glad to be together now and in the future.
2007-10-05 04:49:28 · answer #4 · answered by Stella 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mostly fond memories. There is no point in dwelling over the bad stuff. I can't change it. I learned from mistakes, I moved on long ago.
2007-10-04 01:23:59 · answer #5 · answered by Lady G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Crystal on both. I have great memories, but also try to get over those memories which are almost impossible to, and have always wondered what i could have done differently to change things for the better.
2007-10-03 15:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by rem552000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both I have some very good memories, and some sad ones. I think my saddest was , We were getting married after he came home from Viet Nam (his third tour).. He was in the fighter squadron, making a career of the Navy. When he got home he asked to change squadrons and be in a patrol squadron. They allowed it and afterwards told him in two months time he would be heading back to Viet Nam. One week before the wedding, I had a knock on my door, asking me if I knew where he was, he had gone AWOL . He snapped and couldn't take it anymore. It was 10 years later before I ever saw him again.
2007-10-03 15:56:00 · answer #7 · answered by lynda 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, if I categorize them as a past 'love' my memories are definitely fond! And I'm super over those bad ones!...Life's too short and I don't cotton to carrying unnecessary 'baggage'
2007-10-04 02:40:25 · answer #8 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was madly in love with my last husband and he was literally a monster. I knew it and I escaped, he kept in touch with me by letters and phone. He always told me how much he loved me---he had a very strange way of expressing that love. I spent years trying to forgive myself for being so damn dumb. He is dead now but I still think about him on occasion. I had a first love in the 6th grade, just found out a couple weeks ago that he is dead, from drugs. Guess I just made bad man choices. I am way wary now and unable to even fathom another relationship with a man. Sounds sick but I know I won't do it right so I won't do it.
2007-10-03 15:34:49 · answer #9 · answered by lilabner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No fond memories, and I've had no problem getting over them.
2007-10-03 18:28:42 · answer #10 · answered by noonecanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋