2007-10-03 14:28:07 · 19 answers · asked by annabelle p 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
When a lion or a wolf is angry, he does not think. When a man becomes angry as a result of provocation, he has a choice to control his anger or to respond to it as he has learned from the Qur'an and from Prophet Mohammad's teachings, or forget all that and become a wild animal. Thus anger takes place when we are not in control of ourselves, but the devil is controlling us. Anger in itself is a natural feeling, Allah has put such feeling inside us to react against what's harming us, for instance to protect our lives, our properties, and our families. Yet we shouldn't over do that. Meaning it is ok to feel angry, but it is dangerous and forbidden by Allah to surrender to your anger and follow it to as far as it takes you (for it might drive you to killing somebody).
Anger is a de stabilizing thought. It is the most dividing emotion between friends; it takes away judgment, leads to depression, madness and wrong actions that we would repent later on when we are not angry. But why do we get angry to begin with? It is either an unexpected provocation or unexpected situation which leads to frustration and an angry response.
During anger, one can physically or verbally abuse a person that he or she loves, hurt another living being like an animal, or during the dejection phase of anger, one can even hurt him- or herself and even commit suicide. Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) gave us the medicine for that saying:
"Shake hands and rancor will disappear. Give gifts to each other and love each other and enmity will disappear".
Also Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) said:
"A strong person is not the person who throws his adversaries to the ground. A strong person is the one who contains himself when he is angry".
The point is that the natural fulfillment of normal desires, whether in terms of food or sex, is a prerequisite for prevention of anger. There are many chemicals and hormones which affect our moods and behavior. It is well known that hypoglycemia and hyperthyroidism precipitate irritability when feeling angry. We must keep our hormones in balance in addition to facilitate our spiritual well-being.
2007-10-07 11:56:35 · answer #1 · answered by muslim-doctor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I am the exact opposite! I am slow to anger and quick to forgive. I worry sometimes I am a little too lenient with people, but I suppose there is no harm in giving everyone the benefit of the doubt.
2007-10-03 14:36:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kari Grace 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Nope, I am very slow to anger (takes quite a bit to get me angry; both of my grandmas gave me patience galore) but have a really hard time forgiving certain things (such as affairs from the man I care about) but quick to forgive pretty much everything else.
2007-10-03 14:38:37 · answer #3 · answered by honey 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know as you get older, you will find that there are so few things worth getting angry over.....and at some point, you become "slow to anger and quick to forgive".
2007-10-03 14:37:35 · answer #4 · answered by NAN G 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Im the type to lose my temper quickly. However in terms of forgiveness, it depends on the person im pissed at. For example, I always quickly forgive a good friend, but with others, I can be quite slow to forgive.
2007-10-03 14:37:29 · answer #5 · answered by . 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes!
One thing wrong (especially from the wrong person) can get me fired up so much!
Although i forgive my friends straight off because i hate having long fueds and causing rifts... i like to get everything out in the open and forgiving, its just better to be happy than stubborn and upset.
It is however different with my mother, and i can never easily forgive her, even for simple things. I suppose its not fair on her but if anyone can start my temper, its her.
2007-10-03 14:41:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I get angry with people pretty easy, and Im quick to judge, which is never good, because half the time Im wrong.
I have very little tolerance for people sometimes. But I will forgive quickly, unless I have been hurt multiple times, then forget it.
2007-10-03 14:46:17 · answer #7 · answered by Jo 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, I am quite the opposite. It takes a lot to piss me off but once I am angry, the person that angered me has to be willing to hash it out with a resolution in mind...otherwise, I "may" forgive, in time, but I will never forget and the relationship may never be the same.
2007-10-03 14:36:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I am quick to anger, but I can control my temper quite well so I hardly ever lose control. And I can forgive fairly easily.
2007-10-03 14:33:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Close. I am quick to anger and slow to admit I am wrong...but I am fairly quick to forgive...even if I don't say the words "I forgive you"..which is sort of the same feeling I get when I say "I'm wrong"..hmmmmm. thanks for the brain cramp..
LOL.
2007-10-03 14:36:31 · answer #10 · answered by Rackjack 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋