How do you suck it in and be better liar? Feel betrayed.?

Question

I have to no trust anymore for counsellors after she told me to talk to the prof about my problems in her naive believe that he would be compassionate to me. My prof was a jerk. He ended calling the police on me thinking I am must be suicidal bc my parents are ill and I have a lot of drama going on. He didn't bother to tell me it was him until after the refund date. Now, I am too depressed to do his assignments. I hate him. Why would I kill myself if I want to care for my parents? The police came and wanted me to admit to be suicidal and said they would handcuff me if I admitted to it? That is so dumb. Luckily they believe me and left but they still caused emotional stress for my parents, especially my dad who had recently had a heart attack. However, I can't forget this ordeal. The counsellor are stupid for giving me bad advice. I don't think I can trust another counsellor again. I hate the Prof and wish never see him again. I never go to class anymore.

Answer 1

Aww... I'm so sorry to hear that about your parents, I hope they'll be able to overcome this. Also about you not going to class anymore... well that's something you'll think about later.

Counsellors huh... what do they really know? They've got tons of things to do other than just listen to you. My counsellor made me wait for 5 minutes until he was ready to talk to me. After about an hour or so he came out of his office and was like "oh you're still here?" Yeah mine was a jerk too. But anyway, counsellors should do their job and counsel instead of sending their 'client[?]s' to other people.

Your prof does sound like a jerk. He should keep these things confidential and just between the two of you and not bring in a third party in here [like the police!! @__@]. Not only that, he sounds paranoid, overworked, and crazy. If you did care about your parents why would he even think you want to kill yourself after they worked their butt off to keep you fawking alive?! Also your dad has a heart problem.. if you killed yourself your dad's heart would've gone and FAILED!! Obviously that prof wasn't using his common sense.

These two obviously made your problem worse. My advice to you would be to either get a new counsellor or to talk about this with a close friend. Besides don't you think it's also better to confide in friends rather than confiding to strangers?

About the being a better liar part there are three ways to lie:
1.) Saying nothing. [waiting for the other to slip and use what they said to your advantage. you don't have to say anything.].
2.) Statistics
3.) Springiness [be flexible but don't forget what you lied about have a solid ground]

Being a liar sucks because our conscience gets in the way. But if you really wanted to lie that bad...what did you want to lie about anyway?

Answer 2

Well, life is handing you some lemons. You can suck on the lemon and make a sour face, or make lemonade.

What do you want?

If you can't answer that simple question, then you will still be sucking on lemons next year and the year after and for many years to come.

You are in college right now. Is that where you want to be? If not, then get out. If you want to take care of your parents, then drop the college plan and go take care of mom and dad.

If you want to be in college, then put in the time and effort. Stop feeling sorry for yourself because you have a prof that you don't like. Stop feeling sorry for yourself because you can't go to class and take care of your parents at the same time.

Hold your head up, go to his class and pass the exams. If you fail this class, sign up again. It's like riding a horse. If the horse bucks you off, the best thing to do is get back on. If you don't, then the horse wins. If you don't pass the class, then the prof wins, and you will always regret it. If money is an issue, then find a job. Bust your *** to earn enough to attend the classes. Lots of people do this. It's not impossible.

What do you want?

Answer that question first, then move to make it happen.

Answer 3

u cant really become a better liar, other than making up beleivable stuff and not showing it on ur face or with body language. but as for the counsellor, i've never been to one, but they are supposed to 'keep your best interests in mind.' they don't know that the professor was a jerk, but they were just trying to offer suggestions. if u dont like the advice the counsellors give u, then dont even think about it. but as for the professor problem, u might want to try talking to ur parents about everything thats happening and ask if u could switch out into another class.

Answer 4

I would like to help you -- but I am not sure what it is you are asking..?? How to be a :"better liar"..??

First, I don't think that being a "good liar" will solve any of your problems.. Have you ever heard of this: "The truth shall set you free..?" You may not belive that now, but it is TRUE!

Just because ONE person betrayed your trust, doesn't mean you should GIVE UP on EVERYONE else! I PROMISE you that there WILL be other people you can TRUST -- the tricky part is FINDING them!

Find a new counselor... and get references first. I have NO idea what you said to this particular counselor -- BUT in his defense, IF he thought you were going to take your own life, he was probably only looking out for your best interest and trying to protect you -- do you think that is a possibility..?

At any rate, if you are not comfortable, seek out a NEW counselor... and TALK to your parents! Please confide in them -- NO ONE in the world LOVES you MORE than your own Mom and Dad, so please communicate with them..: )

You may just find that they can HELP you, too!
: ) Good luck and I wish you all the best... : )
: )

Answer 5

Trust your instincts. But don't lie.

It's kind of creepy that the counsellor referred you to your prof. She should have communicated the issue to him and asked his permission. Then there are confidentiality issues that should have been discussed and documents should have been signed. I hope you made her aware of the results of confiding in your prof.

In my opinion, your prof did what he thought was right. He was concerned for your personal safety. In this case he might have gone overboard, but apparently he felt you were a threat to yourself.

The cops on the other hand, like t^ts on a boar hog.

It might be a good idea to confide in your doctor and get back on the right track. Your doctor will know all about your dad, and where your stress is coming from. It sounds like you have a lot to deal with. Don't worry about sucking up this incident - just mentally walk away from it. And learn to trust your instincts. That way you will always be sure that you did the right thing at the right time for that time in your life. Maybe your doctor knows counsellors in the community who are available to deal with your specific situation. Just ask. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Is it possible the counselor thought the Prof would be understanding? If so, then it was not her fault your prof was a jerk. Have you told the counselor what the prof did? If she is surprised, you know she was not aware of the response you got. If she is not surprised, than you know she really didn't care, and just didn't want to deal. Just like not all people are alike, not all counselors are alike.

In any case, if you are taking classes, than you are doing something to better yourself and doing something for you and your family, not the prof. By not doing your assignments, or going to class, again, you are hurting yourself.

My belief........if it weren't for the assholes in this world, us good people would be bored.

Answer 7

why aren't you in a mental hospital? Not really bad places, they sort of take you out of the troubling environment and give you a chance to work on your problems. Mediaction is good. Even stuff that makes you so tired all you want to is the basics.Hard when your parents are so screwed up they can't help you, do you have other relatives? Therapists I beleive are as screwed up as us but in their own ways. They seem altogether, they can say hi, and what is your problem and then goodbye while hiding behind their note taking. Don't let one counseelor put u off the rest. Am seeing one now,told him in a round about way "am i a drop in", he is great but unusual.

Answer 8

Get another counselor, and take a class from another professor. They may have thought they were helping, but obviously they weren't. Your trust is definitely gone from these two and I say find people you are more comfortable with. Don't give up on getting someone you can speak to and don't give up on school. It is a means of getting you somewhere better (probably a better paying and more interesting job).

Answer 9

People are worried about you, but it seems they have escalated the problem rather than fixing it. Do not lie, especially to yourself, let your parents know how worried about them and find someone to confide in, if you did there would be no need for a counsellor. Do not make yourself into a liar just to please other people, be true to yourself. Try living life for yourself instead of trying to please others.

Answer 10

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