2007-10-03 14:12:58 · 22 answers · asked by ×Charmz× 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
actually it is in helping other people that you end up helping yourself. Jesus said that it is in giving that you receive...and Alfred Adler (Psychologist+) says you will know how "healthy" an inividual is by the level of 'social interest" they have... meaning..how much they care about and do for others...
2007-10-03 14:17:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Interesting question, which has just as interesting of an answer, if not even more complicated. There is an age old saying that goes something like this - "never try, never fail" If we are to come to a point in our life, when we face all the wrongs at once, we seek help from others. Because our circumstances have led us to wanting that help, does it matter who we seek it from, or how it is delivered upon us? In one sense, it really doesn't. A total stranger can you change your life, that is if you have faith that someone is giving you, offering and showing just a little love, even if just for a second.
To say, we seek help from others, at a point when we know that we need it, every path we take has reason, every reason we know, has meaning. While you may not think your helping yourself, in all truth, you are. Sometimes the best cure, is really just saying "I need help".
I will leave you with this thought.... If it is help we seek, it is help we can find. When we think we have done no good, we soon come to find that the help we offer to others is really the best cure for our own help we need. If everything we do, we do for others, then help is what one will always have to offer - goes along the lines of "Complete Love." That is loving completely, with no reservations and with all aspects of your feelings, your emotions and your heart.
If we continue to think we can't help others, because we have always seem to hit the lows in our life, then we would never fail as a society. But we do fail, and the more we fail, the more succeed. To think that one can't help themselves I believe is not possible, we are all put here for a reason. Even at our worst, we can help others. Think about it.
2007-10-04 01:55:57 · answer #2 · answered by Just Life, Trying To Live It. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a quite interesting question. I encountered a dilemma last year in school. My friends were going through a lot of stuff. Unfortunate events, fake school drama, whatever. I never got into all that stuff, but I was always helping out my friends. They always had problems and I'd help them through their depression and get to the root of their problems. At the same time, I was struggling myself. I had no idea who I was, and I was really uncomfortable with myself. On top of that, I keep all of my emotions inside, and I couldn't cry. Crying is something I just can't do. I haven't cried for 3 years...
So my friends had problems and I gave so much advice and helped them through everything. But when I ran into problems of my own, I realized that my advice, even though I saw it as true, could not even help me out. I asked a question on here during that time, and I found that I needed the advice from others to help me out. But I ended up helping myself out so now I'm better. woot!
To answer your question, I'm better at helping others before helping myself, which is weird.
2007-10-03 14:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The age old question! I've always been good at helping people and offering advice, it's easier when you are on the outside looking in!! When you are in the middle of it, things look different in your mind or something or maybe it's cause you're not as able to be rational and logical when you are involved in it!!
2007-10-03 18:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by Ginny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eh, its hypocrisy in many ways, but its all in good intentions i hope. as an example, you cant go against a big force all by yourself, but a selfless person would drop their task and help out their friend
2007-10-03 17:24:51 · answer #5 · answered by ceesteris 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's easier to see the *big picture* when you are supporting someone else...suggest useful things or be compassionate....but it's much harder to look inwards, we don't often see the truth and sometimes avoid taking our own medicine...we are tougher on ourselves than we would be on others...
2007-10-04 02:27:51 · answer #6 · answered by Stormseeker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people help others until they can figure out how to help themselves.
2007-10-03 14:16:32 · answer #7 · answered by tercentenary98 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't but I just tell them a load a BS and they think it's good advice. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't . . .
2007-10-03 17:21:23 · answer #8 · answered by My Name Is Ken 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're absolutely right! If you don't have your act together, then it's tough to help straighten someone else out.
2007-10-03 14:20:45 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Badwrench 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people give good advice but they don't actually live by it, if you know what I mean.
2007-10-03 14:17:05 · answer #10 · answered by Mercedes...F, 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋