Suicide probs...?

Question

My daughter, temporarily nicknamed RhinestoneGirl96 (her screen name) was talking to her best friends, lets call her GlitterxyShine, and I heard RhinestoneGirl96 telling GlitterxyShine that she felt like she wasn't worth anything to anybody. RhinestoneGirl also said she thought she was out of place in the world and her mother (me) was embarrassing her by using teen slang when I was just trying to soudn like her so she would be more open to me. She also said she criied every night for hours and never felt useful. She said she wanted to die.

Then she said she was going to attempt suicide.
What should I do?? She'd get mad at me if I burst into her room and she'd know I was eavesdropping and that would cause her to get more angry. What should I do to stop RhinestoneGirl, from suicide without getting her more angry? She is my daughter and I love her and I'm clueless. She says I'm a bad mother but I still love her. What should I do?

Answer 1

I had some of those feelings when I was a teen. Don't be afraid to intervine. She needs someone to be there for her and let her know that her life is valuable and she would break alot of hearts if she harmed herself. Ask her what's going on in her life that's so bad she feels the need to give up on life. When I was suicidal, it was because I got teased so bad in school and I was too embarrassed to tell my family about it. Remind her that there are so many possibilities for her future. Remind her that you love her and regardless of how she feels about you or how angry she is stay strong and keep reminding her how much you love her. With your love and support, she'll be ok. You're not a bad mother. A bad mother wouldn't be on here asking this question to help save her daughter's life. I hope all works out for the both of you and you build a strong relationship with your daughter. She needs you!

Answer 2

Make sure someone is with her at all times (or almost) to ensure she doesn't attempt suicide. It doesn't have to be you, it could be one of her friends or a sibling or something. Then go find help in your area, as soon as possible. You really need to get someone with accredidation to help you because every situation is different, and a situation like this should be handled seriously and delicately, not by an answer on Yahoo. (Nothing against Yahoo, but you just can't tell how truthful the answers are, having been written by ordinary people)

Don't tell her you were snooping, whatever you do. It will only make it worse, but definately don't be inactive.

good luck!

Answer 3

I am 14 and feel that way A LOT! People are always making me feel like Im useless and that all I do is cause misery to everyone in my house when Im not in a good mood. I found a really good friend who helped me get through it all; and even though I still fell that way constantly, I talk to my friend and he makes me feel better. What I am saying is..talk to 'GlitterxyShine' and have her talk to your daughter. Tell your daughters friend to say in ''teen lingo'' what you want her to hear. Make sure that her friend wont rat you out, but even if she does...you tried. And if you are worried about her..your not a bad mother. trust me, every teen thinks that at least 4 times a week. If I can help you anymore email me at
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Good luck

Answer 4

Being a cool mother is not what you need right now, you need to get your daughter some help because this is a serious life or death situation, and if you did nothing, you would be a bad mother. try to convince your daughter to see a counselor or some kind of helpful authority figure.If things therefore don't pan out any better, you need to take some serious action.

Answer 5

Every young teenage girl I know has emotions where they feel worthless. I'm not so sure that they all actually say "I'm going to attempt suicide" but the way she said she wants to attempt it sounds like she is crying out for attention. If she actually wanted to kill herself she would say "I want to kill myself" not attempt it.

As her mom just show her how much you love her, let her know how much help she is to you. If she does something for you, express how awesome she is for doing it, or how good of a daughter she is. Just stay positive. You're her mom, let her know how your life would be meaningless without her and that NOTHING is more important to you than she is.

Answer 6

You need to get her to an emergency room or a family dr. tomorrow and make her get the help and talk to someone. You don't want to find her hanged in her room! It's imperative, MOM! DO YOUR JOB, grow up, shake it off, don't be a kid to her, be the mother for once and take her (you are her mother, she's I presume under 18 and the ball's in your court! DO SOMETHING NOW. Make her mad. Get this out in the open and quit dilly dallying around about it. She needs help with her self esteem and fast! You two girls need professional help. GO tomorrow! Please for both of you. Did I get through to you!? Don't let her be a statistic!!!

Answer 7

hai.at first place i think u have calm down,because if u always worried,u might make her mad more and more.i think your daughter not in critical situation.maby she feel down and lack of confident.i believe u a great mum but u show it or not?as young as me i also felt hopeless.dispointed when my beloved mother keep nagging.and tell my weakness,my bad behaviour to others even to close relatives.Firstly u have change point of view about ur daughter,make her favourite meal and not to protective.At teen stage her emotional not stabil ,sometimes they too sensitive,and hate when adult treat them as kid,also not compare her to others.its a lot of things to do,of course u can't change ur self on a day but,keep tell ur self "i'maby not the best mother but i'm getting better by days.u have to believe we are not born as great person but have to create it.ok thats all i got to say,by2

Answer 8

that is some serious issues with your daughter. just be there for her and constantly tell her you love her. be supportive and always create an atmosphere wherein she can really open up and talk to you. never appear judgmental. also, try to monitor your daughter's move coz you will not know what shes planning to do... just be there for her. encourage her to go and have fun with her friends. let her know you care.

Answer 9

Umm, wow. That is pretty heavy. I'm just wondering why you are asking complete strangers about such a serious problem. That is your freaking daughter. What if she decides to kill herself while you are busy contemplating what to do? How about you try to freaking help her? You have to act like her mother, even if that means she will hate you for it. If you succeed in helping her, which I really really hope you do, she will thank you in the future. You need to talk to her and try taking her to a treatment center so she can get some sort of treatment.

Answer 10

ok, so you would rather not do anything and let your daughter kill herself because you are afraid she will be mad at you. Don't care if she gets mad at you, you need to confront the situation, you're the parent here. Get her help NOW!