My ex husband and I are going thru a custody battle right now with our 4 year old son, 2 year old daughter and our 12 week old daughter that was born 9 months after our divorce. I wasn't faithful to my husband and after our divorce I went a little crazy in the man department for a few months. My attorney seems to think that because of my promiscuity and because my ex is remarried with a great job and a big house that I will loose my kids to him. What do you guys think?
2007-10-03 13:02:11 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont know what American law courts thoughts and rulings on promiscuity are but in Australian law it doesnt help the father's case , my 2nd husband's ex wife had sex with 19 guys after they seperated all were men she met on line and only knew for 2 days or 4 days before they'd drive from nsw or upper north qld to have sex with her , we knew about 16 we missed the last 3 .This information was handed to the judge but we didnt gain residency.That was in a matter of 3 months mind you.
If this is the case then you need to sack your attourney and go find 1 who is willing to fight ball and chain for your case , you were depressed , upset , sad about the divorce its natural you'd go off the rails a bit , you dont deserve to lose your babies over this so go find someone who is on your side and not just doing it for the cash or if its a legal aid attourney doing it just because the case was thrown at him.Even with legal aid attourney's your entitled to ask for a lawyer who is on your side.
2007-10-03 13:37:32 · answer #1 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your ex can prove anything as far as the other men, your drinking or drug habits, yes it is very possible you could lose your children. If he was planning on trying to get custody he was probably preparing for it. By preparing for it I mean he could have hired a private investigator, or an off duty policeman to watch you. A friend of mine got a divorce because she was cheating on her husband. He was so hurt because she cheated that he decided he was going to hurt her back too. They had 3 children and he decided he was going to file for custody as soon as he got himself set up in a new house in a good school district etc. Since he knew that the courts usually left children with their mothers, he would have to make everything just right. And just like your ex, he got remarried and started a new family. In the meantime, He knew that she (my friend) would start to, let's call it party. He hired an off duty policeman and had her watched. It didn't take long and she started having different men spend the night in her home. Needless to say she lost custody of her children and she now pays child support. She got visitation and alternate holidays. One day she just picked up and left the state, and hasn't seen her children in a year and owes quite a bit of back child support. Today, judges are considering the rights of the fathers more and more.
2007-10-03 13:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont' know the exact details, but try asking your lawyer if your country have the law that very young children should go to the mother as long as she can support them, unless the court finds a compeling reason to give your children to your ex-husband. Your children are very young and needs the care of the mother.
I suggest you consult other lawyers also. Make sure that your present lawyer is not being bought out by your well-off ex-husband. He might just be playing around you and is slowly making moves to give your children to your ex in the end.
2007-10-03 13:17:49 · answer #3 · answered by bibo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have a problem with drugs or drinking, or have abused or neglected them, you should have no reason for concern. We are Mothers, we are not perfect, we do things sometimes we may regret later, but not hurt our children. Children need to be with their mother. No matter what he has as far as material things go, that doesn't make a home. If you love your children fight for them with all the love you have in your heart . God Bless you and your little ones
2007-10-03 15:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by SANDRA J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you an unfit parent?
Do you think he should have custody?
Are the children better off with him?
What kind of laws does your state have in regards to whoring it up and custody of your children?
Without details it makes answering difficult.
I would suggest some type of birth control for you though.
2007-10-03 13:08:10 · answer #5 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the judge will award custody to the most stable person, and is only looking for the best interest of the kids. You need to straighten up, and start being responsible. Even if you lose them, you can get them back it you become a better parent.
Look at Brittney Spears, NEITHER of them are good parents, but she thought her fame and money made her untouchable, well, Judges don't care, they are there for the kids.
2007-10-03 13:06:22 · answer #6 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it doesnt matter about big houses or great jobs, it maters who can care for the child the best way. you ex can try to get the kids but how is he going ot care for the kids, does he spend time with them or go to school.Is he there for the kids when they are sick, is he helping you out with child support, is he doing what he is suppose to be doing for those kids? thats what they look at not if you are sleeping around. dont let your lawyer or your ex scare you. start to take parenting classes, spend more time with your kids, voulenteer at your kids day care and school if you can. make sure you ahve a reliable babysitter if you go out or go to work. goodl uck.
2007-10-03 13:33:23 · answer #7 · answered by Christina 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have not ever put your children in any physical or emotional harm than there is no reason you would lose your children.
Get you to a therapist as well as your kids so that you have evidence from a professional that you and your children are healthy and well adjusted.
Good luck!
2007-10-03 13:06:49 · answer #8 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other women it's all going to be about are your children being well taken care of, are u their for them, and do you put yourself first.. Do u really know who's watching them when u was going a little wild in the men department....
2007-10-03 13:10:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that I might find a new lawyer who is willing to fight harder. You seem to have put yourself in quite a dilemma, but your lawyer seems to of given up...Try for a Guardian Ad Litem to look at the situation, anything, everything...if you want to keep your kids then you best get to work now.
2007-10-03 13:05:55 · answer #10 · answered by CherryCheri 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋