How much should fate control one's love life?

Question

Just how much should you trust your intuition about the relationship and that person?

And if you have to let go because of distance issues, should you hold on loosely or let fate do its' magic?

If one lets go of love, should they assume that it will come back to them, whether in the form of the same person, or some else?

Answer 1

I'll answer the last thing first.
If you must (and there is no way around it) let go of the thing you love, then that is a great way to show love. This is because you realize that the thing you love will be happier without you. That is love. Do not assume it will come back. There are billions of things in this world to love, not just one. There will be more chances for love. Each love will be different, because each thing and circumstance is different. No love is the same, some loves are better, some worse, and some just different but equal... but they are all unique.

Now I'll answer the question on fate.
Well, fate in and of itself is a seperate entity. Fate, if you believe in it, is running its course despite any of our efforts. Fate does control and does what it is meant to do aside from us. It seems however, that you might view fate as the third party in a relationship. It is not. Fate encircles everything, that's if you believe in fate. (On a side note, if you don't believe in fate, then you would believe in free will... and that is a HUGE can of worms I need not get into right now.) You are in the circle with the thing you love... and you are just a piece being moved around. We, as beings, are seemingly making choices of our own, and we may feel that we are influenced by nothing. But we are influenced by everthing, and that is our fate.

Anyways, back on track.
Trust your intuition. If you feel that person needs to be let go, then, let that person go. If you feel that you need to fight for the relationship, then fight for it. Make sacrifices if you have to. You'll be able to tell if you are making the right choices if the person that you love responds positively. Either way, whatever you do, you were meant to do it. You might end up with the thing you love now, or you may move onto another, different and equal love. Perhaps, you might find an even better love.

Any way around it, enjoy your experiences.

Answer 2

A long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it.

After a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing.

Judging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do.

I thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time.

I realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do.

If I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking.

I still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress.

Love and blessings

Your brother
don

Answer 3

Fate controls love life in "deciding" the one. Is a too fragile chapter to be able to be turn strategics, I believe. In that sense things are pretty much out of our control - big part of its magic too.
Distance doesn't play a decisive role on it as so many stories confirm it.
The one is the one and is not replaceable, I believe. No one let love go unless thinks is not also loved.

Answer 4

As much as you will let it control your love life. You should trust your intuition 100% but relationships never stay the same and that my dear friend you must remember. Look at any relationship you have had with anyone. Has it stayed the same?

Answer 5

How much -should- fate control ones love life?
It will control it to whatever extent it controls it. You really have nothing to say about that. Believe me, I know.

Doug

Answer 6

if you broguth a lvoer with you from where ever you came from that is why god lets us stay here, he doesnt want people who , just because no one knows what you are thinking,

do someothing like love popele,

what else could so many people with so few diffrent kindas of things do all the time,, besides wonder where their memory went

Answer 7

let fate take its chances, because if u were meant to be together, you will know, and if u are not meant don't try to hard to make it work, you might just end up getting hurt and no one likes pain.