I am so in love with him when I shouldn’t. He's a pretty dysfunctional man. He's a 34 yr old twice divorced man. An alcoholic with 2 DUI's on his record and now working on probation. I'm a 26 yr old never married woman. He cheated several times. We were together for about two years, this last time he cheated it was with a younger 22 year old married girl with two babies (a six month old and an 8 year old). I work at hooters and have had plenty of chances to cheat on him and never once did because I love him and him cheating on me makes me feel like trash. Especially when he left me for a MARRIED woman a MARRIED woman. And with children !!! Someone please explain to me what happpened. What's wrong with me? what could I have done wrong for him to chose her over me? and then when we talk he literally cries to me telling me that's he's really sorry for hurting me? and says that if he never had told me the truth about sleeping with her, me and him still would have been together?
2007-10-03 12:37:33 · 28 answers · asked by confused but not dazed 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, are YOU ever picking the WRONG kind of MEN!!!
Get over him, what a loser. I don't know that you are going to find the right kind of man working for Hooters.
Guys don't really have a whole lot of respect for women like that sorry to say, even though you are a good and faithful person by the sound of it. You have to know that men have a certain opinion about the kind of girls who work there even when it's likely not the case at all.
Why would you pick a guy with all that "garbage" and baggage on his shoulders?
I think you should cut your losses and say good riddens. Guys like him will ping pong back and forth so expect him to come calling again when he's tired of playing daddy-o but have some self respect and lose the loser.
Set your sights a little higher next time and don't give in to men so quickly in future. You shouldn't be that desperate for affection that you will take anyone who throws an interest your way seriously.
2007-10-03 12:53:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your biggest problem is the fact you feel rejected and it makes you want this loser more than you normally would. Get over him and start dating someone else. Once you give him the cut, you will be getting the same thing from him. Pretty sick the way people react to it isn't it? If you just get a little self-esteem you would realize that you deserve better than that kind of treatment to begin with and get angry enough to never turn back. What kind of idiot man hooks up with a 22 yr old girl with an 8 yr old kid? A sick trailer trash pervert that's who. Hell she had that kid when she was 14!!! They deserve each other. And you pine for this guy?
2007-10-03 20:01:08 · answer #2 · answered by dizzyd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was not this Married lady then he would have found another Lady anyway. He is seeking a strong lady with the patience to let him play in the open field. He has found security within this Lady. God only knows why. Anyone can cheat Miss. You have the class to over look what other Women are willing to provide to Men like this four time looser. Dump him and move on in your life. Better yourself and prepare your future. When he realizes what he has lost slam the damn door in this loosers face forever. Marry out of love and move away from this Man. He will self destruct himself. Look at the other side. If her ex caught him with his children. I believe that a good *** kicking would justify the situation.
2007-10-03 19:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what are you needing advice on? This guy is not good for you. Why even waste the tears and pain over this guy. You did nothing wrong and there is nothing wrong with you. This guy just thinks that he saw greener pastures. The only advice that I could give you would be to find out who her husband is and let him know what is going on. He has cheated on you serveral times. Why are you letting your heart get broken so many times? He is 34 and not grown up yet. He will never be the kind of guy that settles down with just one woman. Dont waste your time.
2007-10-03 19:59:22 · answer #4 · answered by williep197502 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world would you think something is wrong with you? When relationships break up, as humans we always want to fix something the other may not have valued. I honestly don't think that anything was wrong with you. It sounds like this guys self destructed and purposely cheated for you to leave him. And when you did not, he left you. There is nothing that you can do or should do to get this guy back. Move on and get a real man who will cherish you, be faithful to you and your relationship and be a man
2007-10-03 19:44:09 · answer #5 · answered by Mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with you is that you picked a man to trust who wasn't trustworthy. It doesn't matter how loyal and faithful you are to him, or how good you are to him, if he doesn't have the ability to appreciate it. If it is in his nature to be a dog you can't change that with your behavior. Look at who he was before you met him. He is that same exact person today. You are young, single and lovable. You don't need him and just because you can't keep a loser doesn't make you a loser--it makes you lucky. Next time you think about getting into a serious relationship look at the person's character very closely. If you don't like what it shows then reject him, because you can't save em from themselves.
2007-10-03 19:44:22 · answer #6 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you really need to examine why you are allowing yourself to be treated so poorly by someone. We cannot control who we love but we can control whether or not we allow others to abuse us. You need to take a look about why you got into a relationship with this disfunctional man and perhaps get some consuelling to discover why you are doing this to yourself. Treat yourself better girl, there are lots of great guys out there who will treat you right, but you have to get yourself to a place where you believe you deserve a great guy who will treat you right. Let go of this guy, he has a history and that behaviour is not likely to suddenly change, you dont deserve this kind of treatment
2007-10-03 19:46:07 · answer #7 · answered by Bree Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What u need 2 do is get on with your life. He left you for another woman. The kids have nothing to do with things. You have time to meet and fall in love with someone else, maybe, this time find one without all that baggage. You don't need to be with someone who cheats, cause you will never trust him.
Move on. And leave him ALONE!
2007-10-03 19:56:46 · answer #8 · answered by scicodawg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make it sound like a married woman with children can't have/or take away a man. You haven't done anything wrong I know your hurt and upset but things happen. Honestly you will be better off without him. Maybe he fell for her we can't choose who we fall for (look at who you fell for isn't it obvious). It will be hard but this might end up being good for you. Your young still you'll bounce back no problem it might be hard but it will eventually get easier.
good luck
2007-10-03 19:47:48 · answer #9 · answered by blueeyd_princess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should be counting your blessings. someone is praying for you. first of all it is not you. look at all the things you stated about him. is that how you want to describe YOUR MAN. one thing i know for sure that if a man does not have himself in order he will be no good to the woman he is with. based upon what you have stated, love or no love, you should be thankful that he left. yes it will hurt but that will pass in time. stay focused on you and before you know it you will attract the right person for you. stay strong and love yourself fist! 1
2007-10-03 19:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by CRAZYC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋