this question has to do with drugs, sex, alcohol and wanting to do it all. can you help me out?

Question

i want to try it all. i've been completely sober/innocent for the past 17 years and i'm tired of it. that lifestyle doesn't make me feel good, it makes me feel like im missing out on experiences. i've asked my friend to do it all with me and he said okay but i think he thought i was semi-joking. i smoked my first cigarette with him two days ago and i loved it. i think hes finally realized that i honestly want to try pot and all the other things i told him. he no longer is going to introduce me to those things because he wants me to 'stay innocent' and he said he would feel responsible for screwing me up if he let me do everything i wanted. But i honestly want to. how can i convince him to let me do these things? i know they are bad for you and may screw me up but i seriously dont care any more. this is my decision, how can i make him see that?

thebirdperson- i did, in fact, read your whole answer and i thought it was a nice answer,so thank you for your concern.

Answer 1

=] i know its your decision, but you have to realize what a good friend you have there. most guys would rush in for a home run, but not him. he doesn't think that it would be right to take those things away from you, like your innocence. he probably thinks if you held on to it this far, you must be holding on to it for something, rite? also, you r friends. i can already see that its no use asking you not to do drugs and drink and have sex, so im going to ask you one thing. just one. please do not ask your friend to do this. it wouldn't be fair if you got angry with him for trying to protect you.

i hope you find your way no matter what your decisions are and no matter what his are, i hope you 2 remain friends. good luck, be safe, and make sure that what your wishing for is really what you want before you go for it.

much love<3
leila

Answer 2

Please stop worrying me and DONT DO THIS. It will mess up your entire life. You could even die young. I'm sure you don't want that. Incase you haven't already guessed, I am not telling you the answer to your problem, I am trying to talk you out of this. Coming from a middle schooler, you probably won't listen. But I am goin to try anyway.
My class spent pretty much every day doing project alert last year in my school. It's amazing how bad these things you are talking about doing are for you. It doesn't take very long at all to become addicted to cigaretts at all. Cigarrets can do pernament lung damage to you, and then you will need surgery to get a hole in your throat. Now how fun would that be? Each cigarette will take off eleven minutes off of your life. You only need to smoke three. Not only can this get you killed, but drunk driving can get you arrested and someone else killed. Getting drunk is not fun at all. Here's what happens:
You drink gallons and gallons of beer at once. You feel all funny and happy and......great! Okay, then you start barfin' up buckets, you feel like everyone hates you, and you are all miserable. Then you pass out. All you can really remember after that is how great you felt. Then you do it again, and again, and again, UNTIL YOU DIE!!!!!!!!!
Now onto Pot. Illegal, unless you are on some kind of medication for pain relief. It increases your appetite, which is why people gain weight after using it, and then you'll be FAT. You lose coordinance and judgment, which makes you crazy, just about. If you get arrested for using it, all you will feel is regret.......regret............regret.

Your friend is entirely right. You shouldn't do this. I know you aren't reading this anymore, but I will continue typing for the voters. Your friends and family will leave you because of the decisions you made. If you decide to do these things, the rest of your life will be filled with sadness, regret, and depression, until you die a young and early death.......

Answer 3

Your friend is just looking out for your well being and being what a good friend should be doing. I won't preach to you the dangers of drugs and alcohol because I'm sure you know all the consequences of such reckless behaviour.

I assume your friend is frequent user of drugs since you're going to him for help. It is ultimately your own decision whether or not to do drugs so if your serious then you have to let him know. You can tell him that it would be safer to do it with him instead of going to strangers for drugs, which you'll do if you're totally serious about this.

Just remember, drugs, alcohol, and sex are dangerous territories to be treading in and the consequences can be devasting.

Be careful and good luck in whatever you choose to do.

Answer 4

Oh you want the hell of drug addicts Go see the homeless on the street and ask them how happy they are at the same it will give you a good idea where will be your next home Go and do everything you mention . You will loose your bf and all your friends and you can ended up dead too

Answer 5

You are a mess and in need a lot of help. I feel very sorry for anyone who feels this way. You'll grow up in plenty of time. Doing all these things don't make it happen any faster. It justs messes you up for maybe the rest of your life.

Answer 6

i know it sems like doing drugs and alcohol and partying it up is such a "glamorous life" but it really just leads to addictions a drama further down the road. take it from someone who has had first hand experience....it's not worth it..listen to ur friend.

Answer 7

When you get older and you life is all screwed up you will wish you had stayed sober and innocent.

Answer 8

{[(1. You dont need a side kick to do bad things.)]}

2. Why do you want to do all of it so bad?
3. Your going to loose brain cells, develop lung cancer, get aids, and find your self drinking and driving. [ I know I went over board.]

Answer 9

ok try to get with him. that covers the sex part, and after that he will be more willing to let you drink with him. dont smoke cigarettes because they dont get you high or anything you just get addicted and gross. after he lets you drink with him he will probably be more willing to let you smoke pot!

Answer 10

Why don't you just say to him,"It's my life, and I'll screw it up if I want to." But your friend is right: you shouldn't be doing this. And when you're thirty years old and you have the energy and attention spand of a ninety year old person, you'll be thinking,"Maybe I should have listened to those people on yahoo answers." I'm going to say this to you: #$^&%^*(^)^%*&^$F*^^$^*!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are a lifeless teen with no dreams that gives into peer pressure. You shouldn't let people make you feel like you're missing out. If you are going to do what you plan on, you are going to miss out on the real enjoyment of life. And if you smoke, you are going to be alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone and alone......I think you get it.

And you'll be feeling regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret and regret...I think you get it.

And you are going to be broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke and broke because you have nothing else to spend your money on because you are addicted to this stuff.