2007-10-03 10:25:58 · 33 answers · asked by Sunshine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
apparently you are doing something skanky to attract all the wrong attention.
you attract what you are, and if you are an ***.. guess what you're going to attract....
2007-10-03 10:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by Kaja 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a bumper sticker on my car:
Why don't single women fart? Because they don't have a asshole until they are married.
I put it there to remind myself why I have chosen to never marry.
Unfortunately there is no litmus test for assholes and you have to take a guy's word for it that he is single, even when he isn't. Perhaps you are too quick to jump in and put your emotions on the line. Are you the type of person who is very trusting and quick to accept things at face value?
Think back over the relationships you have had and you will probably find common denominators in the type of man you have chosen. Use these as your warning signs. As soon as they recur, question yourself and try and step back and be as objective as possible.
Define what it is you want out of a relationship, regardless of who the man is. Think of it as you would an employment application. You probably won't find someone who meets all the criteria, but there are some areas where existing skills are more important than others. A mental checklist can help when you are getting to know someone new, because if they aren't meeting the main parts of the criteria, they aren't right for you.
2007-10-03 10:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the same old addage babes! The good ones are either married or gay!
Don't loose hope! I was in your position a short time back and I think I've just met Mr Right!
I thought all men were a**holes and that I'd never find the one in life that would treat me kind and good and love me for being me! I'd had that much misfortune in the past that when I met my new guy I sat him down and told him all about my past and said look if you wanna walk away now do so! Turns out he thought I was worth sticking about for! He's had a few problems in the past too - some of which he's dealing with at the moment but we're there for each other.
Don't think my story is a con - it isn't!
Few pointers to remember when looking for MR RIGHT!
HEAD HIGH
SMILE
CONFIDENCE
TRUTH
If you need further info let me know!
2007-10-03 10:36:31 · answer #3 · answered by smoking_gremlin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some times we as women look for something in men. It might not be the same look but something in their personality. I always looked out for the guy that looked like marriage material. In stead I got the married guys going after me and I felt the same way as though this is what is for me? I kept asking myself over and over do i look like a one night stand girl? Or is it that my personality lead people to believe that i was a slacker?
Then I realized that I was looking for the right man in the wrong places and I kept my search up and found that I needed someone for what I really want not just take them as they come.
Go home take a warm nice bubble bath and think of what type of guy you are looking for. Don't rush into a relationship just date and have fun get to know people and let them all know what you are about at this point in time. When you find the guy that you want or the closes to it then you nab him. This is what i did and hell I am married today.
Good Luck!
2007-10-03 10:36:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of the reason you have problems in the relationship in your life is because first the bible say and I quote "when a men finded a wife" notice that it dose not say that a wife finded a husband. You need to take so time out for yourself and God. Take some dates with the Lord. I know this sounds like a crazy person is talking, but give it a try and see what the out come will be. Do put your relation in the men that you see but keep God first in everything I mean EVERYTHING you do. Be Bless in the name of Jesus the Christ.
From the Jesus Freak.
2007-10-03 10:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by Will L 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you might be looking for wrong men because you are not emotionally healthy. Our minds play tricks on us and many times we repeat unhealthy patterns because that is what we saw when we were growing up. Maybe you could try going to therapy or counseling so you can discover WHY you are doing what you are doing...
Others have mentioned that maybe you are looking in the wrong places- and that is right. For example, if you were looking for a pearl or a valuable item, would you look inside a trash can and actually expect to find one? NO.
What do you find inside a trash can? Garbage!
The same thing happens with people. Do you really expect to find a nice, stable man in a bar or a gym? Chances of this are slim.
But if you look in other places, like a language course or a cooking class, or church, you might find another kind of people...don't you think?
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Another thing that might help you out is if you ask for advice from someone who has good taste and see if you can dress differently. We humans are visual creatures, and appearance makes people judge you.
If you are wearing a lot of makeup, jewelry and flashy or tight or too-short skirts then you are sending the "Va-Va-Va-Voom" message... so you shouldn't be surprised when married men hit on you...! Your clothes scream that you want attention.
Clothes and body language speak for you -and if you want to send the right message, you have to check your appearance and avoid clothing and make-up that say "I'm looking for fun!" instead of "I'm looking for a nice man to date and marry."
( Be careful with your words and tone of voice, too. )
Good luck.....Be honest and see what it is you are doing that is attracting the wrong kind of men towards you. Be brave and change what you can.
2007-10-03 10:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad luck?
No, seriously it depends on a lot of where you are meeting these guys. If you are meeting them in bars, then you are going to meet a lot of guys who are
a. drunks
b. drunks who are just looking to score
c. drunks who are married that are just looking to score and cheat on their wife
Sure, some nice guys do hang out in bars but they are few and far between.
What kind of guy are you looking for? Are you looking for a guy with really good values? Try joining a church group or a church singles club? Wanna meet a brainy guy? Take an adult education class at your local community college in something that intrests you.
Wanna meet a guy that cares about others? Join a charity or community service organzation.
Wanna meet a guy who likes kids? Sign up to be a mentor or coach a little league team.
Ask friends to set you up with nice guys they know. Little old ladies are awesome resources because they love to play matchmakers and will be able to spot a bad apple a lot faster than we can.
Examine your standards. Are you focusing too much on looks or material possesions such as his car and not enough on brains, kindess and inner beauty?
Hang out in the kind of places where good guys go. Not bars or internet chat rooms.
Good luck and don't give up. There are many fish in the sea. Some are rotten but some are keepers.
I hope this helps you.
2007-10-03 10:38:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is "Why are you attracted to assholes or married men?". The problem really lies within yourself. You need to find the true you, the healthy you, the happy you.
You can not have a healthy relationship if you are not healthy.
2007-10-03 10:33:33 · answer #8 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
because that's what you are looking for.I am not kidding. I took a class a few years ago with a group of women ( I'm a guy) with a shrink. And I learned that we are all attracted to certain types(wife beaters to wife beaters,assholes to assholes).It is some thing that can be changed but it takes thought and willpower.But helps if you have someone help you determine what it is that attracts you to people
2007-10-03 10:36:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
maybe because all men are assholes or already married. that being said, you probably fear commitment/intimacy since you hook up with guys who you know for sure are going to reject you eventually (assholes/marrieds). the best way to get around this is to actually get to know the person before you get involved with them. if they are asshole run. if they are married run. if its a nice guy stay a while.
2007-10-03 10:30:25 · answer #10 · answered by Branshaw 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are two reasons.
1) You keep looking for men in all the same, and in your case wrong, places. Start looking elsewhere...take a class, join a book study or theater group, try church, etc.
2) Anyone that comes into our lives is a reflection of our inner self. What about you thinks you don't deserve some one who is wonderful and available?
2007-10-03 10:32:07 · answer #11 · answered by Brent 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋