i love my wife very much, but do i say to her when she asks me if i mind if she brings another woman in our relationship. btw she is bi and i am straight? what would, or have you said?
2007-10-03 10:21:04 · 21 answers · asked by puppy17566 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, how exactly do you feel about that proposition? Some men would love to be able to have two women at the same time, especially when the wife is ok with it. It's your choice and these types of offers don't come around very often. Funny that you mention it because usually it's the man that makes such suggestion. ENJOY!!
2007-10-03 10:27:12 · answer #1 · answered by Mona 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are both completely comfortable with it, try it. However, you are putting your whole relationship on the line. She may want to try to put another man in the mix next time and she will have the ammunition of having shared you with another woman.
My ex wanted a mmf thing: I wasn't keen, but did it to please him. It broke us up because I couldn't feel the same way about either of us again. It broke both our hearts but the relationship just couldn't survive something that wrong for us, no matter how deeply we did (and still do) love each other. It has been a year but I can't get over it and we will never get back together. It should have just remained the fantasy it was.
2007-10-03 10:55:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two have a strong relationship, and you both want this to happen, I say go for it. However, if the relationship is at all shaky then it's a risky proposition. We've had 3somes and never had a problem, but we've never had a relationship with a woman(seeing her more then once).
Just because she wants to bring that in doesn't mean anything's wrong with your relationship. Anyone who says that hasn't known very many bi-sexual women. But the prequisite is a very very strong relationship.
2007-10-03 10:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by Bull in a china shop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to ask her every question that is on your mind pertaining to her suggesting bringing a female home. and make your decision from there. At least she told you what she wants to do and did not just go behind your back with a woman. Many couples enjoy bringing another person into the mix, sometimes it work great and sometimes it doesn't. The key is don't do anything that you are not comfortable with, and it takes good communication to decide where you are willing to go with it.
2007-10-03 10:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may as well enjoy it while it lasts. However, more than likely your wife will leave you for the other woman. For her to even want to bring someone else into the mix should let you know the marriage is on shaky ground.
Hey, at least you can get something really different before she files. If you don't have any children, she'll be paying you alimony!
2007-10-03 10:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by ranch_tester 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
While that may be some man's dream, I disagree, when you play with fire, you get burned...Why aren't you enough for her? That would bother me. Sounds like there is an underlying issue that needs to be addressed. What ever you decide just make sure you thought about the pros and cons. It's a touchy situation. Good luck with that!
2007-10-03 10:32:38 · answer #6 · answered by Lana 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on what you want, never compromise your future or your happiness, and if you knew she was bi in the beginning you probably had a thought of this coming in the beginning...
2007-10-03 10:25:18 · answer #7 · answered by Tameika J 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She married you & you both knew that she enjoyed women. She can go on & enjoy looking at women all she wants, but when it comes to sex, it should only be with you. I will assume that it is ok with you for her to have a fairly intimate girlfriend to be with, but not be having oral sex with her. You have to put your foot down on this now. My husband wanted to add a woman to our marriage bed & I was furious! That is not acceptable to me. I was not about to have sex with a girl when I am not even desiring sexual pleasures with another woman. Also, I sure didn't want my husband having sex with anyone other than me.
2007-10-03 10:43:15 · answer #8 · answered by mrsdebra1966 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
make sure your ok with it an she's not going to leave you for the other woman my brother-in-law agreed but soon after she left him for the woman but he says no regrets he had fun while it lasted but does miss his ex but it was very good
2007-10-03 10:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by Annouyed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how comforable u are with it. If you are comfortable with it then do it but if its something that bothers you then you need to tell your wife that you respect her and while you want to make her happy this isnt something that you would want apart of your marriage and if she respects you and wants you to be happy she will be fine with it.
2007-10-03 10:42:15 · answer #10 · answered by Monica B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋