How to longstanding couples regenerate their Love & faithfulness?

Question

I have never been married. Am 36 year old man.
Altogether, I have been with 6 women in attempted unions, none of which lasted very long. The longest lasted 2 years, was complicated, and ended about 15 years ago, and she was 15 years older than me. Most of the others lasted around one year or less.
Honesty has always been very important to me in my approach to personal relationships, as has sexual monogamy while of course still feeling and sharing Love in friendship and altruistic ways with friends and society. Though Ive been lovingly sexually attentive, most of my partners had affairs, often lying about it when I could feel it and asked.

So Im involved with a former partner, who had lied to me as well, and has a long history of many, many partners & leaving out of fear of truly being intimate, open & honestly revealing about truth of what she feels, thinks, is... 3 years later weve reconnected, she has made some major changes in some of her choices & addictions, though I am

I am still feeling a strong tendency within myself to be wary with her, and I have many dreams at night of her being aloof ( which she does when she goes into reactive or defensive mode if I ask @ her feelings, thoughts, etc around issues she still seems to be resistant to fully, honestly revealing ) , having affairs, lying and / or leaving more for other men. We have been seeing a counselor. He has mentioned as well the value and need for being able to openly, honestly and without erecting hostility in "defense" of simply selfrevealing truth of oneself with each other, in order to relate honestly / authentically, to regenerate & grow Love past some wish or idea, and to feel comfortable with each other and know where we are both want to be headed so can clearly work, play, reveal & love together to grow a loving, honest, fulfilling, monogamous union together. And not least to know ourselves deeper.
She used to make alot of $$$ through dishonest means. I am a student, and focused on

building my own massage & Qigong instructor practice but am making very little money right now.
This time when we reconnected, even before, as well as after, we become more intimate again this time she was saying she has grown alot and it doesnt matter if I am making a little or alot of money, as long as i am doing what i love she wants to be with me, Loves me and is behind me for this. Personally, I do not care whether a girlfriend / wife I am with has no money left after paying rent and food or has hundreds of thousands of dollars at her disposal - as long as we are both growing emotionally, spiritually, relationally, learning to love ourselves, each other and are giving back to life and society in some healthy way.
But she has been feeling cold, scared and distant again apparently at least in part @ not having as much $ as she wants.
How do couples continue loving, developing and nurturing their love, faithfulness & inspired, monogamous committment even with little $?

Answer 1

This was too much too read....there's someone named Dr. Fil on here....ask him!!

Answer 2

True love regenerates itself, but they have to work at it all the time as well. If she is addicted to booze, drugs:BAIL OUT NOW! They say there is someone for every one: I hate to say this: "It ain't true"! I have had relations last as long as eight years, but my marriage only lasted three; we were a mistake that should have never been. One learns from one's mistakes some times! I am 58 and single 34 years, looks like I am going to stay that way too!