my parent separated when i was 2 and my dad lives in n.y. and i live in CT with my mom. my mom has a boyfriend and ny dad has a girlfriend. My parents still speak they dont like hate each other, but i wanna get them back together. how do i break them up with their girl/ boyfriend and get them back together?
2007-10-03 09:44:30 · 19 answers · asked by smiley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
and i HATE my moms boyfriend
2007-10-03 09:53:21 · update #1
you cant...unless you are dying...let it be...be thankful that they are happy and move on w/your life
2007-10-03 09:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would be wise, it would just come back on you for creating problems with their current relationships, not to mention that, if they do speak, they will figure out what you're up to, and will nip your attempts in the bud. Also think about the fact that they are seperated, chances are that they learned that being together was not working out. You should feel lucky that your parents are getting along, even tho they aren't living together, because it sounds like they have your best interests at heart and are communicating with each other.
Say your plan worked and they got back together. Do you think that they'd "fall madly in love" again? History has a way of repeating itself, let those "sleeping dogs, lie"
2007-10-03 16:55:19 · answer #2 · answered by S&yW 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't , leave it alone there was a reason why your parents broke up in the first place. they don't get along together. apart is okay. would you like it if some tried to break you and your boyfriend?(if you have one). give the new guy a chance he's not going to be your dad in the way you think. think of it this way now you have two dads, and two moms. forceing your parnets back together will only make this worst on you. this way you also have two homes.
2007-10-03 17:37:49 · answer #3 · answered by tazzielovestweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to wait till summer....then go to camp. There you will meet a girl who looks just like you. You two will hate each other and get into so much trouble for it that the counselors make you stay in a cabin together until you get along. While in the cabin the two of you will realize that you are twins separated at birth....Oh wait, that's a fairytale movie.
2007-10-03 16:51:05 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you will like my answer but here it is. There is nothing you can do other than accept it how it is. They are grown and they WILL live the life they want to. If you feel that theyre seperation and unwillingness to get back together is affecting you in a bad way you should talk to a counselor in school or a professional outside of school.
2007-10-03 16:48:36 · answer #5 · answered by ejizme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but I always say "How would you feel if it was YOU? What would you do if your parent(s) were trying to break up your relationship with a boyfriend just to suit their own wishes? Think about that for while and you willknow the answer to your question.
2007-10-03 16:54:14 · answer #6 · answered by Jody H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to want your parents back together, but accepting that they are adults, separated and that they have to work on their relationship, because it's all up to them, not you is the better way to go. And because they are already with other people, you need to stay out of it.
2007-10-03 16:49:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, dear. Not going to happen. Divorced parental adults tend not to listen to their children when it comes to getting back together with ex-spouses.
I know it's hard to hear, but you really don't have much wiggle room. If they're going to get back together, that's cool, but it will be their doing, not your matchmaking.
Be glad you have divorced parents who don't hate each other. Enjoy the good feelings. There are quite enough divorced parents who drag their kids into their ongoing fights with their exes. You lucked out.
2007-10-03 16:50:58 · answer #8 · answered by KD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a good idea. This never works. If they WANTED to be together they would. Personally, I get along GREAT with my ex-husband, but it's BECAUSE we're apart. We never say anything bad about each other to our boys either, but that doesn't mean we're supposed to be together. What good is having them together if they're not HAPPY together? Maybe they are just being nice to each other to make things easier for YOU, Hon. I wouldn't do it, you're just going to end up disappointed when it all blows up in your face.
2007-10-03 16:51:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't. Their relationships are really none of your business. You can talk to both of your parents about your feelings, but you really should not expect them to bow to your wishes. They are moving on with their lives and you should too. Just be sure to keep a good relationship with both of your parents.
2007-10-03 16:48:56 · answer #10 · answered by Jacee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kids always want to do that. Why? They'll just be miserable. When you have your own family you can live your life the way you want to, not the way your children want you to. That's your choice. Theyre life is their choice. You just got to wise up, grow up and decide which parent you want to live with and what things you want to do with your life. All the best to you.
2007-10-03 17:04:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋