He is disabled, he has M.S. and fell over in the bathroom. I was out at work at the time so his son went to help him up. When I came back from work son told me about fall [which is a regular occurence btw] he was still in bathroom. When he knew I was home he went mad becos I hadn't gone to see if he was ok. Help
2007-10-03 09:36:29 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ah , bless you all, you're so nice. Thanx for taking the time to answer. Hey, he's in the bathroom again!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-03 09:47:01 · update #1
Oh dear. I think you have to accept that this is no easy situation for him and that he probably feels terrible a) for falling and b) for having to get someone to help him up and c) you weren't there. Of course you can't be there all the time - it isn't possible and he knows that too. He is probably just very fed up and not feeling very blokey and taking it out on you. It is hellish for you too but I don't think that it should spoil your holiday. Go and make it up with him - even if you would rather shove a poker in his eye. No matter how rubbish you feel, he is feeling much worse! Good luck.
2007-10-03 09:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is just angry at this disability for affecting him to the extent that it made him fall.
He may well be right, to feel a little angry that you didn't go to see if he was okay. Does this usually happen to him? Do you usually ask if he is okay?
Maybe have some nice dinner tomorrow evening and a few relaxing drinks and talk about looking forward to your holiday together. He just needs a little bit of tlc and attention (like all men, lol). Don't take it to heart, domestics blow over - that's the joy of them.
2007-10-03 09:41:01 · answer #2 · answered by Smokeabella 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try put whatever arguments you have in the past but just to kind of even things out say sorry for not asking him but you assumed he was okay or he would have rang you, on holiday try ease up any tension or atmosphere remember hollidays are for RELAXING just try getting on it will feel more possitive maybe making him happier and not moody and let him know you do care about him which i take it you do or u wouldn't want advise on how to make it better which says alot like you have a big heart and if he can't see that you care loads then let him sulk for a while then after he will have gotten it all out of his system and everything will probably be back on track and running smoothly..I really hope you guys make up good luck @>-->--
2007-10-03 09:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by penguini_9214 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You two should talk before you go. Have a one on one. It sounds like your man is really in need of attention. He is feeling insecure about his disease and the fact that you did not come to see if he was ok brings on these feelings of insecurity. Your responsibilbity is huge & you should clear the air but at the same time find out what is really going on in his head.
2007-10-03 09:46:59 · answer #4 · answered by maddamg 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kiss and make up go on your holiday he might just be having a bad day my mum was disabled and had similar bad days where she would give out no matter how much was done for her its the unconditional love that counts at the end of the day enjoy your holiday
2007-10-03 09:40:45 · answer #5 · answered by angel 36 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he can't understand you were at work, then there is a problem. Tell him you are sorry but if he still has an attitude then go on the trip but give him time to cool off.
2007-10-03 10:18:07 · answer #6 · answered by scicodawg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my auntie,had ms and i no how terrible it makes you feel,its so frustrating for them,because they cant do the things they want to do,just try and say sorry,give him a cuddle,and just tell him you will both have a lovely time on holiday,life is to short to fall out especially when you have an illness,my auntie died of ms,so make the most of your time together and be happy
2007-10-03 09:46:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all if your husband fell down at home while you were at work and his son told you when you returned home you should have went to make sure that he was okay.
You made him feel like he wasent that important to you so what if this happens often so some concerned. I would have went out to lunch on you to.
best of luck
2007-10-03 09:41:50 · answer #8 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why didn't you go and see if he was alright when you knew he had fallen. Because you are used to it happening. He'll never get used to it happening. He can't help it. MS is an unforgiveable disease. Thankfully your son was there.
2007-10-03 09:57:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are going to need to get involved in a support group...
what your husband is going through is extremely traumatic and is going to require a lot from you as his care taker... you can not let him take advantage by treating you badly and that is where the support group will come in handy....
good luck and god bless
2007-10-03 09:41:54 · answer #10 · answered by Jeanette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋