why is it complicating?

Question

Why can it be so complicating for some people to have orgasims? What are quicker ways?

Answer 1

There are two parts; the physical and mental.

1- Physical--It's to get know your body. Don't be afraid of "examining" your sensitive spots and what you enjoy. It may take a while so don't get frustrated. Once you find out what gets you there, communicate to your partner what you like done physically.

2- Mentally---is a bit harder since you have to know what turns you on and off. This takes experience and mroe knowledge of your sexuality. I don't think there is a quick way to do this but to get to know yourself and what stimulates you mentally.

It's highly recommended for you to have an orgasm on your own and knowing your body before having an orgasm with your partner because it's not their job to teach your about your body---it's your job to teach them about yours. The mind part is partially your partner's job.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Because we are complicated creatures. Because every one of us is different sexually and otherwise. You should be patient with yourself: learning is half of fun in sex play. You really should look into your own soul to find out what and who turns you on the most. That is the place where you should return for inspiration. Physically masturbation will be the best way to learn about your own body it likes and dislikes. When you know what pleases you, you should share it with your lover. That will help him to make the experience more satisfying for both of you. Now, if you want to speed up the entire learning process, find yourself an experienced lover: he will know how to keep you happy before, during and after the act.

Answer 3

For most guys, it's pretty simple from what I hear (Although, there is a huge range of intensity, from my own experience). For many women it's difficult due to what I call 'scatter-brained'. This is where random thoughts about bills, chores, kid's school whatever, ect... just pops into their head and distracts them from the stimulation and build up.

Focus, I say. Focus! Perhaps try visualizing the energy. First see it's color. Then see if you can focus it in the area you are receiving stimulation. It can also work in reverse, you can spread the energy out to the rest of your body. Most of the pleasure from sex is all in your mind. (This is why physical appearance matters to so many people)

Answer 4

For men, it’s easy to have one. O r g a s m s are a yes/no event for them.

For women, it’s more complicated. Women can have hormonal or physical issues preventing them from having them. For those women, I offer my profound sympathies.

The big O’s are one of the most beautiful things to discover and develop in oneself. Especially since clitoral and vaginal ones are very, very different.

But viva la difference!

Answer 5

I made some silly sexually repressed Japanese chick come so hard with this:

http://sexuality.articlesarchive.net/the-deep-spot-guaranteed-to-give-her-a-vaginal-orgasm.html

"When you massage the deep spot, do it firmly. As you massage the back of the deep spot, you are simulating the "ballooning" that occurs in this area at the time of her orgasm. As you massage any area of the deep spot, you are simulating the muscle contractions that occur at the time of her orgasm to dilate the cervix. She can't HELP but come!"

Answer 6

what you need to do is relax and think about sexual things play games or have role play buy toys but the main thing you need to do is relax I do all that no jokes asides I make my girl have orgasms every night. have them kiss you all over your body

Answer 7

B. Dorian, thank you. I'm impressed with your knowledge of a woman's mind. You are correct on all points!

Answer 8

Experiment and find out what you like and be able to express that to your partners for more pleasurable experiences.

Answer 9

It's not 'complicating', it's 'complicated'. And they're 'orgasms'. The quickest way is do-it-yourself.