He wants to take her to the Mall of America and swimming. I don't know how long this friendship will last. We have broken up before and he took up with a female friend of his. What should I do ?
2007-10-03 09:24:28 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
( We got back together after he and his female friend broke up, he never cheated on me while we were together ).
2007-10-03 09:29:16 · update #1
Trust me, I have tried befriend other competitors, but some women nowadays are shameless.
2007-10-03 09:30:21 · update #2
I think he wants to be friends w/ this girl because she makes him feel youthful.
2007-10-03 09:31:13 · update #3
I think he wants to be friends w/ this girl because she makes him feel youthful.
2007-10-03 09:31:25 · update #4
go with them. there is no reason for him and his girlfriend to go alone at it. but then again, at the same time, you should not have to monitor your husband at all times. you should trust him. if you don't, then you will always be questioning his absence while he's out with others and wondering what he's up to and to be honest, that is not a good life to live. just because you guys are married, doesn't mean you aren't allowed to do crazy stuff anymore. if he wants to do something outstanding to make him feel younger, do it with him. just don't go out of your way and change yourself. stay true to you. if eventually, he messes with this "friend", then you should leave him because loving a cheater is no way to live. you are bound to get hurt. but you should trust him and have faith that he won't do it.
2007-10-03 09:43:13 · answer #1 · answered by Loving.You 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is not a friendship. Turn the light on, Honey. Stop standing in the dark. How old is your husband? But more than that, what man wants to take his 25 year old "friend" to the Mall or swimming? You're floating down the River Of DeNial. Here's a paddle. Set him straight. Let him know you are NOT stupid, and you are NOT going to tolerate him falandering with ANY woman, much less this little friend. Better check your bank statements. I wouldn't be afraid to say there's probably purchases that weren't made for you. Sorry, but sometimes you can't see the forrest for all the trees, and someone has to just say it.
2007-10-03 16:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry, but I agree with most of the answers you got already. A marriage is a huge commitment, and one that entails trust and respect.
If your husband wants to take another woman, a 25 year old, to some mall and tells you they are "just friends", you must be either very naive... or missing a couple of brain cells!!!
I think it is a terrible insult and lack of respect of him, and if you decide it's OK for him to go ahead and do this, you will soon be very sorry. Sounds like he's cheating on you and you accept this.......Just my opinion.
2007-10-03 16:42:36 · answer #3 · answered by Nena S 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
WHAT??? He is cheating on you with a 25 year old and you are going to stick around and monitor it? That's insulting. Tell your husband that if he wants this 25 year old, he can have her. Take half of what you have together (house,bank accounts, cars, furniture), and leave him. Why on earth do you have such low self-esteem that you would stay around and watch him cheat? You deserve so much better than that! I don't care who you are. You deserve better treatment. He took marriage vows to be faithful to YOU. If he breaks those vows, do not tolerate his betrayal. You aren't broke. You are entitled to half of everything you have together. Get a lawyer and find out.
2007-10-03 16:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why does your husband have a new friendship with this girl? are you two separated right now or divorced or getting divorced? Your question needs more info first. How old are you two? Is she your friend or his only? How did he meet her? What kind of motives does he have for befriending her? And as was said prior, get to know her, find out what is going on if you two are still together, we all need more than our spouse to meet all of our needs but our spouse should be the main opposite sex friendship need meeter.....tell him to go make some new guy friends to go do guy things with, I would.
2007-10-03 16:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by scsspace 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why do you want to be in a relationship where you have to monitor a suspect husband? tell him have a nice life and to pack his bags and leave if this is the kind of "friendship" he wants to have while married. you don't need this. don't allow yourself to chase after a man who isn't worth it. be stronger than that and live with a high level of integrity for yourself. maybe if you kick him out he'll have a change of heart and realize that you are serious about the kind of marriage you require to have. but if not, then you did the right thing.
2007-10-03 16:30:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its okay for him to have friends that are women as long as you trust him. I trust my husband and don't mind him going out with a group of friends as long as its not just him and one girl (unless its my best friend and I KNOW she has no romantic interest in him lol). If he ever did want to something with a girl alone I'd simply state "Great! When are WE going?" And tag along with them. There is no reason why should not be able to go along and if he tries to convince you otherwise or makes it for a day you're supposed to do something else, explain your feelings...you're uncomfortable with the idea of it and would prefer to be there when he spends time with her. If he wants to go with her and a group of other people, then relax and trust him if you really believe you can. It's tough, I know but communication is the key and he needs to understand your feelings and why you're feeling this way. Best of luck!
2007-10-03 16:39:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly he doesn't need any 25 y/o female friends. Tell him if he needs her "friendship" so much, hopefully she has room for him at her place. A marriage is for 2 people, not 3. If he's spending his free time with her, maybe he should be spending this free time with you, and working on your relationship and in what it may be lacking in order for him to need these voids filled by other "friends".
2007-10-03 16:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by DesignDiva1 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do not understand as to why your husband is friends with a 25 yr old and needs to take her to the mall . In addition why are you monitoring him. Dump him and find a guy who respects you
2007-10-03 16:41:35 · answer #9 · answered by Kat G 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Wow! He's taking a 25 yr. old to a swimming pool? I hope that swimming pool gets cleaned with spermicide.
You can start by telling him that he can choose between you and her. Of course, if you don't mind that's O. K. too but I wouldn't recommend it.
2007-10-03 16:33:02 · answer #10 · answered by Felix The Cat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋